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- 1. ʻAe a me ka hoʻomaikaʻi
- 2. Kākoʻo i kā lākou mau moemoeā
- 3. mahalo
- 4. ʻO ka manawa no nā hoaaloha a me nā leʻaleʻa
- 5. Pili pilina hānai
- 6. Passion a pili kino
- 7. Ka launa pū ʻana a me ka palekana
ʻO ke kamaʻilio ke kī i kekahi pilina kūleʻa. Eia nō naʻe, hilahila nā kāne he nui mai ka kaʻana like ʻana i nā mea a lākou e ʻimi nei i kahi pilina. No laila inā e haʻohaʻo ʻoe i ka makemake o nā keikikāne mai kā lākou hoa, ʻaʻole ʻo ʻoe wale nō.
No kahi pilina e ola a holomua, e ʻike 'ana i nā mea a nā kāne e makemake ai i kahi pilina' hiki ke lilo i pono.
I mea e kōkua ai iā ʻoe e hana i nā pilina maikaʻi aʻe, eia nā mea nui he 7 e makemake ai nā kāne i ka pilina.
1. ʻAe a me ka hoʻomaikaʻi
Makemake nā kāne i nā mahalo e like me ka mea o kekahi. He aha nā mea a nā kāne e makemake ai e hoʻolohe? Aia ia i ka mea a lākou e mahalo nui ai iā lākou iho.
Ke hoʻomaikaʻi ʻoe iā ia e pili ana i kekahi mea, e nānā i kāna hopena, a e nānā i ka wā e hoʻomālamalama ai kāna minoʻaka nui loa.
E hoʻāʻo i nā mea like ʻole e like me ko lākou mau hiʻohiʻona, kā lākou hana a puni ʻoe a i ʻole ka hale, kā lākou hoʻomākeʻaka, a me nā mea i hoʻokō ʻia.
E hoʻomanaʻo, pehea ʻoe e ʻike ai iā ia e hoʻololi i kāna ʻike iā ia iho, no laila e hoʻomaikaʻi pinepine a maikaʻi.
ʻO ka makemake o nā keikikāne e ʻike ʻoe i nā mea a lākou e makemake ai e pili ana iā lākou iho i ʻike ʻole ʻia e kekahi mea ʻē aʻe. Kū i waho me ka hāʻawi ʻana i nā mahalo piha.
2. Kākoʻo i kā lākou mau moemoeā
Makaʻu mākou āpau i ka holomua, a hiki iā ia ke pale iā mākou mai ka hana ʻana. E maʻalahi ka moeʻuhane a me ka hāhai ʻana i kā mākou mau moemoeā ke kākoʻo mākou mai ka poʻe koʻikoʻi iā mākou.
No laila, ʻo kēia kekahi mea a ke kāne e makemake ai i kahi pilina e mau ana.
ʻO ka makemake o nā keikikāne i ka pilina maoli ka manaʻoʻiʻo i kekahi i kekahi a me ke kākoʻo ʻana i nā manaʻolana a me nā moemoeā o kekahi.
ʻIke paha ʻoe i kā lākou makemake e noho ai i ka wā kamaliʻi? 'Ua nīnau anei ʻoe i ka mea a lākou e makemake ai e hoʻokō i ke ola inā e hoʻokō maoli ʻia lākou? '
He aha ka mea ma kā lākou papa inoa bākeke?
Inā ʻaʻole maopopo iā ʻoe kahi e makemake ai kāu kāne i kāu kākoʻo, e hoʻolōʻihi i ka manawa e nīnau ai e pili ana i kāna mau moemoeā. ʻO ka hilinaʻi i kā lākou moeʻuhane a me kā lākou hiki ke hoʻokō i ka mea a nā keikikāne e makemake ai i ka launa.
3. mahalo
He aha nā keikikāne e makemake ai ma luna o nā mea āpau? Ma waena o nā mea a ka poʻe makemake, mahalo i kahi wahi kūikawā.
ʻO ka manaʻo i mahalo ʻia iā ʻoe hiki ke loli nui i ko lākou hilinaʻi iā ʻoe iho a me kāu ʻike iā ʻoe. Makemake mākou i ka poʻe makemake iā mākou. Ma ke ala like, makemake mākou e mahalo a hoʻohanohano i ka poʻe e mahalo iā mākou.
Akahele, aka nae; he aha nā kāne e ʻike ai i ka mahalo a me ka mahalo ʻole, a he kamaʻilio nui kēia e loaʻa. ʻO ka ʻike ʻana i ka mea a lākou e manaʻo ʻole ai he mahalo ʻole hiki ke kōkua iā ʻoe e hōʻalo i kēlā mau landmines.
4. ʻO ka manawa no nā hoaaloha a me nā leʻaleʻa
Pono mākou āpau i kahi i loko o nā pilina no kā mākou leʻaleʻa, kā mākou hoaaloha, a me mākou wale nō. Ehia mau manawa a he aha ka mea ʻokoʻa no nā mea āpau.
Aia kēia i ka pilina. Inā manaʻo mākou ʻaʻole lawa ko mākou hakahaka i kahi pilina, makemake mākou i mea hou aku.
E like me ka mea e pono ai, pono i nā kāne i kahi a me ka manawa e hana ai i nā mea a lākou wale nō.
Ke loaʻa iā lākou kēia, nānā lākou i mua e hoʻi hou mai iā ʻoe i nā mea hou aku. Pehea ʻoe e kaulike ai i kēlā ākea i ka hopena nui i ko lākou ʻoluʻolu me ka pilina a me ka makemake e noho i loko.
ʻO nā mea makemake nā keikikāne e noho me ʻoe ke koho e koho i ka hoʻokaʻawale ke pono lākou. ʻAʻole hiki iā lākou ke nānā i mua i ka pili inā ʻaʻole lākou e koho i kā lākou koho.
5. Pili pilina hānai
He aha nā kāne e makemake ai e kamaʻilio? He paʻakikī e ʻōlelo. Wahi a kekahi ʻaʻole lākou e kamaʻilio e like me nā kaikamahine, a makemake lākou e kaʻana like me kā lākou mau hoa i hoʻohālikelike ʻia i kā lākou mau hoa wahine.
Ua aʻo ʻia lākou mai ka wā ʻōpio, mai hōʻike i ka nāwaliwali a me nāwaliwali. Ua kākau ʻo Kumu Stanford ʻo Judy Chu i kāna puke i ke Keikikāne e lilo i mau keikikāne he moʻomeheu ia ma mua o ke kūlohelohe ke kuleana no kēia.
ʻAʻole maʻalahi ka maʻalahi a me ka palupalu iā lākou, ʻoiai lākou e makemake pū nei i ka pilina.
He mea nui ka pili aloha naʻau i nā kāne, e like me nā wahine. Maliʻa paha, inā hiki, ʻoi aku. Loaʻa i nā kaikamahine i kā lākou mau hoaaloha e kamaʻilio e pili ana i nā mea āpau, ʻoiai ke kāne e hana hou i kēia me kā lākou hoa.
No kēia e pono ai, pono ʻoe e akahele e pili ana pehea ʻoe e hoʻokokoke ai i nā kumuhana koʻikoʻi a hoʻomanawanui ke wehe ʻo ia i ka naʻau.
Ke hōʻike ʻo ia i ka nāwaliwali o ka naʻau, e nānā i nā mea e pono ai i kēlā manawa. Pehea ʻoe e hana ai i kēlā manawa ke koʻikoʻi inā makemake ʻoe e wehe hou ʻo ia.
ʻO ka hānai ʻana a me ke ahonui e hoʻomaikaʻi i ka hilinaʻi iā ʻoe a lilo i makemake nui e wehe a kaʻana like.
E nānā i kēia wikiō e ʻike ai i nā makemake o nā keikikāne mai kahi kumu aʻo a me ka loea pili aloha.
6. Passion a pili kino
Hiki iā ʻoe ke noʻonoʻo i loko o kahi pilina i ʻaʻohe mea hoihoi a kuko paha? E hoʻomaka paha ʻoe e nīnau inā he wahine ʻoe a nani paha. Pēlā nō me nā kāne.
Hauʻoli lākou i ka noho pū ʻana me kekahi mea pāʻani a nāna e hoʻopukapuka i ka moekolohe. I ka hoʻomaka o ka pilina, hele maʻalahi a maʻalahi hoʻi kēia, akā i ka hala ʻana o ka manawa pono ʻoe e hoʻāʻo i loko.
E kamaʻilio me ia e pili ana i ia a hoʻomaopopo i kāna makemake a mahalo.
Ua ʻōlelo ʻia ka noiʻi e pili ka pae o ke kamaʻilio ʻana ma waena o nā kāne i ka loulou ma waena o ka pilina a me ka leʻaleʻa wahine.
Eia kekahi, ʻo ka pili kino ma mua o ka nani o ka moekolohe. Makemake nā kāne i nā pūliki, nā pelu, a me nā honi pū kekahi. Ma o ka lā e hoʻokokoke aku ai iā ia a loaʻa i kahi ala kino e hōʻike ai iā ʻoe e mālama iā ia.
Ma ke ʻano he kānaka, kamaʻilio pū mākou ʻole ʻia.
Ua hōʻike ʻia kahi noi ʻē aʻe e ke Kulanui ʻo Syracuse me ke aloha nui o ke kino, ʻoi aku ka maʻalahi o ka hoʻonā ʻana i ka hakakā. E ʻike i kāu ʻōlelo ʻokoʻa o ke aloha e pili pū ana me ka ʻaoʻao o ke kino.
7. Ka launa pū ʻana a me ka palekana
He aha ka manaʻo o ka launa pū ʻana me ʻoe? ʻIke paha ʻoe i ke ʻano o ia mea? Ke noʻonoʻo nei i kekahi no kā lākou hoa, pono i nā kāne i kahi mea hiki ke kū me lākou i nā pilikia.
ʻAʻole ia he manaʻo no ka ikaika o kekahi i nā manawa āpau, kahi mea hiki ke hāpai i ka wā ua luhi a luhi hoʻi. Ke huli nei i lilo i pou, e ʻōlelo paha ʻoe.
ʻO ka loaʻa ʻana o kahi hoa pili i ka hiki ke hilinaʻi iā lākou no ka hoʻomaopopo a me ke kākoʻo. Inā ʻoe e noʻonoʻo, hiki iā ʻoe ke ʻike ke makemake ʻo ia i kēia a lawe i ka huila.
E mahalo nui ʻole ʻo ia, hoʻomaopopo, a palekana pū me ʻoe a hoʻi pū ka ʻoluʻolu.
He aha ka makemake o nā kāne i ka wahine a kāne paha no kēlā mea?
ʻOiai ʻaʻohe pane i ka makemake o nā keikikāne, hiki iā ʻoe ke ʻōlelo ua nānā lākou i kekahi i hiki ke lilo i hoa pono na lākou.
He aha nā keikikāne e makemake ai he hoa kūʻokoʻa i hiki ke hauʻoli i ka noho male ʻana, akā koho i ka pilina me ia.
Nānā lākou no ka mea hiki ke mālama iā lākou iho, ka mea pāʻani, leʻaleʻa, mehana a me ka hānai, a ikaika ke pono.
ʻAʻole lākou noʻonoʻo inā nāwaliwali ʻoe i kekahi manawa a kaumaha paha a hoʻi hope ʻia, inā aia ka ikaika a me ka leʻaleʻa i loko o ka pūʻolo pū kekahi. Hāʻawi lākou iā ʻoe i kahi manawa inā hāʻawi ʻoe i ka mea like iā lākou.
ʻO ka makemake o nā keikikāne e hoʻopili aku me kekahi i ka naʻau, ke kino, a me ka noʻonoʻo.