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- Hoʻolālā male vs. Psychologist
- No ke aha wau e noʻonoʻo ai i ka male a me ka ʻohana?
- Ke loaʻa nei i kahi male maikaʻi a me ka hoʻoponopono ʻohana
- Ehia mau kau e hiki iaʻu ke kali?
Ua lohe paha ʻoe i ka lāʻau ma mua, akā ua ʻike ʻoe he nui a me nā lālā ʻokoʻa? Kaulana kaulana loa kēlā me kēia kanaka, akā ʻaʻole ʻike iki ʻia ka male a me ka ʻohana.
No laila he aha ka hoʻoponopono ʻohana? A i ʻole he aha ka ʻōlelo aʻoaʻo a ka male?
Ma ka maʻalahi, ʻo ka wehewehe ʻana o ka male a me ka ʻohana therapy he ʻano a lālā paha ia o psychotherapy e hana me nā kāne a i ʻole nā ʻohana paipai i ka hoʻololi maikaʻi.
Ua lōʻihi ka lōʻihi o ka wā ʻo ka male a me nā papahana hoʻomaʻamaʻa ʻohana, ma ke ʻano kūpono a me ka hana maʻamau hoʻi. I ka U.S., ua hoʻomaka ia i ka 1940s. E like me ka hoʻomaʻamaʻa ʻana o ka male male i nā makahiki he nui, ua loaʻa i ke kaulana.
Wahi a kahi balota a Psychology I kēia lā, ʻoi aku ma mua o 27 pākēneka o nā mākua e ʻimi nei i ke kōkua mai kahi mea lapaʻau o kekahi ʻano i nā makahiki ʻelua i hala (kahi ʻāpana o kēlā ʻo ka male a me ka ʻolelo aʻoaʻo ʻohana).
Mai ka makahiki 1970, ua hoʻonui ka heluna o nā kākāʻōlelo male i 50 mau manawa, a ke mālama nei lākou i kahi kokoke 2 miliona mau kānaka.
Kūpono anei ka male a me ka hoʻomaʻamaʻa ʻohana iā ʻoe? Eia kekahi mau ʻike e kōkua ai paha.
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Hoʻolālā male vs. Psychologist
ʻO ka mea mua, he mea kōkua paha ke ʻike i nā ʻokoʻa a me nā mea like ma waena o ka psychologist a me ka male laikini a me ka hoʻoponopono ʻohana.
ʻO kahi psychologist, e like me ka American Psychological Association, kahi mea i hele i ke kula a ua hōʻoia ʻia e hana ma ke ʻano he psychologist.
ʻO ka maʻamau he kēkelē laeoʻo a kauka paha lākou, me nā makahiki ʻelua o ka hoʻomaʻamaʻa lapaʻau ʻana. Aia ma kahi o 105,000 mau psychologists laikini i ka U.S. Psychologist i kōkua i kēlā me kēia kanaka e hana me nā pilikia e kupu mai ana i ke ola a i ʻole nā pilikia olakino noʻonoʻo.
Hiki iā lākou ke diagnose a hāʻawi i ka lāʻau. ʻO nā kau Therapy kahi e kamaʻilio ai lākou e hoʻomaopopo ai i nā pilikia a laila e hana me nā hopena.
ʻO nā mea hoʻoponopono male a me nā ʻohana he like loa me nā psychologists. Eia nō naʻe, ua hoʻomaʻamaʻa kikoʻī lākou e mālama i nā pilikia i loko o ka pōʻaiapili o ka male a me ka ʻohana.
Wahi a ka American Association for Marriage and Family Therapy, loaʻa iā lākou kahi kekelē laeoʻo a kauka paha a ʻelua a ʻoi paha mau makahiki o ka ʻike maʻi ma mua o ka hoʻomaka ʻana i kā lākou ʻoihana ʻoihana.
Hiki iā lākou ke kuhi a mālama i nā pilikia o ka naʻau a me nā pilikia o ka lawena. Hoihoi ka male a me ka poʻe hoʻoponopono ʻohana i ke olakino wā lōʻihi o ka wahine a me ka ʻohana, a ʻo kēlā me kēia kanaka.
No laila ʻoiai he like ka nui o ke aʻo ʻana a me ka hoʻomaʻamaʻa hoʻomaʻamaʻa psychologists a me ka male a me ka poʻe hoʻoponopono ʻohana.
ʻOi aku ka loea o ka hoʻomaʻamaʻa male a me nā mea hoʻoponopono ʻohana i ka hana pū ʻana me nā hana hoʻomaʻamaʻa ʻohana e hoʻoponopono ana i nā pilikia i ka male a ʻohana paha, a ua mākaukau loa lākou i ka hana pū ʻana me ka ikaika o nā poʻe he nui i pili i ka pilikia.
No ke aha wau e noʻonoʻo ai i ka male a me ka ʻohana?
He nīnau maikaʻi kēia e nīnau iā ʻoe iho, a ʻokoʻa nā mea maikaʻi a me nā maikaʻi ʻole o ka hoʻōla ʻohana no kēlā me kēia kanaka.
Inā loaʻa ʻoe i kahi pilikia i kou ʻohana a i ʻole ka male ʻana i hiki ʻole iā ʻoe ke holo, a ʻaʻole e hele wale ana ia, a laila he manaʻo maikaʻi ka male a me ka mea hoʻoponopono ʻohana.
Hiki i nā pilikia i hiki i ka mea hoʻoponopono male a me ka ʻohana ke kōkua me ka laulā. Hiki iā lākou ke kōkua i ka mālama ʻana i nā pilikia olakino e like me ke kaumaha, ka hopohopo, a i ʻole nā maʻi ʻē aʻe e hāʻawi nei i nā pilikia i loko o ka ʻohana a i ʻole ka male ʻana.
A i ʻole he pilikia paha e pili ana i nā pōpilikia a ka ʻohana a ʻelua paha i hoʻomanawanui ai, e like me ka nalo ʻana o kahi keiki, a i ʻole ka hemo male.
Hoʻohui ʻia, kēia ʻano o hiki i nā mea hoʻoponopono ke kōkua i ka mālama ʻana i ka poʻe i hoʻomanawanui i ka hana ʻino, a i ʻole hiki iā lākou ke kōkua i nā kāne i loaʻa nā pilikia me ka pili aloha.
ʻAʻole wale kēia nā piʻi a me nā lalo o ke ola maʻamau. ʻO kēia nā pilikia nui i hiki ke hoʻopili maoli i ke olakino manaʻo o ka male a ʻohana paha.
ʻOiai hiki iā mākou ke hana nui i kā mākou iho e hele ai i loko o kēia mau pilikia, ʻaʻole maikaʻi e ʻike i kekahi manawa pono ʻoe i kōkua ma waho.
ʻO kahi mea maikaʻi he male a me ka mea hoʻoponopono ʻohana ʻo ia ka ʻike i ke kōkua ʻana i nā ʻohana a me nā kāne male e like me kāu.
Wahi a ka American Association for Marriage and Family Therapy, 90 pākēneka o nā mea kūʻai aku e hōʻike nei i kahi hoʻomaikaʻi i ko lākou olakino naʻau ma hope o ka loaʻa ʻana o ka lāʻau.
Ke loaʻa nei i kahi male maikaʻi a me ka hoʻoponopono ʻohana
ʻAʻole like nā therapist a pau-ʻoi aku paha ka liʻiliʻi o ka ʻike o kekahi, a hoʻohana kekahi i nā ʻano hana like ʻole e hoʻokō i kekahi mau hopena.
ʻO kēlā mau mea ʻelua e noʻonoʻo pono ai ke ʻimi nei ʻoe i ka mea hoʻoponopono i kūpono iā ʻoe. Akā ʻoi aku, ʻike ka poʻe he mea nui ia e ʻike i kahi therapist a ʻoukou āpau e mesh ai.
He mea pilikino loa ka Therapy, no laila pono ka therapist i kekahi mea ʻoluʻolu ʻoe e kamaʻilio pū, a me kahi mea āu e hilinaʻi ai e ʻoi aku paha kāu i kā lākou ʻōlelo aʻo.
ʻO kekahi o nā ʻo nā wahi maikaʻi loa e loaʻa ai kahi mea hoʻoponopono maikaʻi nā mea kuhikuhi. ʻO ka pilikia me kēlā poʻe ʻē aʻe ʻaʻole pono e hoʻolaha i ka ʻoiaʻiʻo ke hele nei lākou i kahi therapist.
Akā inā ʻoe e ʻike i kekahi mea iā ia, e noi akahele iā lākou i hiki iā lākou ke ʻōlelo. Hiki paha iā ʻoe ke heluhelu i nā loiloi o nā hoʻoponopono ʻokoʻa ma ka pūnaewele.
I ka hopena, pono paha ʻoe e hele i ka lāʻau lapaʻau ma mua i mea e hoʻoholo ai i ka mea hoʻoponopono kūpono no ʻoe. Mai huhū inā ʻaʻole lākou e holo pono, a pono ʻoe e ʻike i kahi ʻē aʻe. ʻAʻole kūpono nā kānaka āpau no kēlā me kēia ʻohana a ʻelua paha.
Ehia mau kau e hiki iaʻu ke kali?
Ua ʻōlelo ʻo ka ʻAhahui Oklahoma no ka male a me ka Family Therapy he ʻano pōkole kēia ʻano hoʻomaʻamaʻa.
Hele mai nā kāne male a ʻohana paha me kahi pilikia kikoʻī a lākou e makemake ai e hana, a aia kahi hopena hopena i ka manaʻo. No laila he 9-12 mau kau ke kaulike.
Akā hiki i nā mea he nui ke lawe i 20 a i ʻole 50 mau kau. Aia wale ia i ka wahine a i ka ʻohana paha a me ka pilikia ma ka lima.
He paʻakikī ka loli a hiki ke hoʻolōʻihi i ka manawa, ke pili pū ka pili o nā poʻe ʻē aʻe. No laila, mai manaʻo ʻoe i ka loli i ka pō wale nō, akā ʻike nō hoʻi ʻaʻole mau ka hoʻomaʻamaʻa i nā manawa āpau. Aia ma laila ke makemake ʻoe ia, inā no hoʻokahi kau a i ʻole ke ola o nā kau.
ʻO ka mea hoihoi, hoʻolilo ka mea hoʻoponopono male a me ka ʻohana i ka hapalua o ko lākou manawa e hana ana i hoʻokahi pākahi, me kekahi hapalua me ka ʻohana a i hui pū ʻia paha me ka wahine.
Hele ia e hōʻike i ke kōkua ʻana o ke kamaʻilio ʻana i kahi hui, akā no laila ke hele hoʻokahi nei. Inā ʻoe e hele i kēia ala, maʻamau, nui aʻe paha nā kau e pili ana.
ʻO ka male a me ka hoʻōla ʻohana kahi ala e kamaʻilio ai nā ʻohana a i ʻole nā kāne a kahi loea i hoʻomaʻamaʻa kūikawā ʻia e pili ana i nā pilikia i ko lākou ola.
I loko o nā makahiki, nā mea he nui nā pōmaikaʻi o ka ʻōlelo aʻoaʻo male ua ʻike maka ʻia; ua ulu a kaulana. Kūpono anei iā ʻoe? Inā ʻoe e noʻonoʻo e pili ana, no ke aha e hoʻāʻo ʻole ai?