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- He aha ka hemo hōʻuluʻulu manaʻo?
- ʻO wai ka mea kūpono i ka hemo hōʻuluʻulu manaʻo?
- No ke aha wau e makemake ai i kahi hemo hōʻuluʻulu manaʻo?
- Makemake au i loio e kiʻi i ka hōʻuluʻulu male male?
- ʻO wai kaʻu e noi ai inā makemake wau i ke kōkua akā ʻaʻohe ou loio?
He kaʻina kānāwai ke kaʻawale no ka hoʻopau ʻana i ka male. ʻO ka manawa pinepine, manaʻo mākou i nā hemo me he hakakā lā, me nā hālāwai hoʻolohe manaʻo nui i mālama ʻia e hoʻoponopono ai i nā hoʻopaʻapaʻa ma luna o nā waiwai a me nā keiki a me kou hopena ma ka lima o ka ʻaha. Akā inā ʻae ʻolua a me kāu wahine e pili ana i nā pilikia āpau e hoʻoponopono ai i kāu male male male ʻana, hiki paha iā ʻoe ke koho i ka hemo hōʻuluʻulu manaʻo, e mālama ai iā ʻoe i ka alo o ka ʻaha a me kāu kālā.
He aha ka hemo hōʻuluʻulu manaʻo?
ʻO kahi hemo hōʻuluʻulu manaʻo, i kapa ʻia i kekahi manawa he male male maʻalahi a maʻalahi ʻia paha, kahi hana no ka haʻalele male. Hāʻawi ka hapa nui o nā mana i kekahi ʻano o ka haʻalele male. Ma kahi hōʻuluʻulu wehewehe, waiho nā ʻaoʻao i ka ʻaha i kā lākou ʻaelike i kākau ʻia e pili ana i nā pilikia e like me ka hoʻokaʻawale ʻana i ka waiwai. Inā uhi ka ʻaelike i nā pilikia pili male hemo ʻole, me ka waiho ʻole i kahi mea no ka ʻaha e hoʻoholo ai, a hoʻokō i nā koina ʻē aʻe e pili ana i ka hemo male, hiki i ka ʻaha ke hāʻawi i ka hemo me ka ʻole o nā ʻaoʻao i hele wāwae i ka hale hoʻokolokolo.
ʻO wai ka mea kūpono i ka hemo hōʻuluʻulu manaʻo?
Hoʻonohonoho pinepine ʻia ka haʻalele hemo no nā hihia maʻalahi, kahi e ʻae ai nā ʻaoʻao āpau a liʻiliʻi ka waiwai o ka wahine ma ka hoʻopuka. ʻAe ka hapa nui o nā mana i kahi ʻano o ka hemo hōʻuluʻulu manaʻo kahi e kū ai ka hihia i nā pae hoʻohālike e like me kēia:
- ʻO ka lōʻihi o ka male ʻana, ma ka maʻamau he ʻelima mau makahiki a ʻoi iki paha.
- ʻAʻohe keiki o ka male, kūlohelohe a hānai paha.
- ʻO ka waiwai male-ʻo ka waiwai a nā ʻelua a ʻelua paha wahine - he kaupalena ʻia. Hoʻohālikelike kekahi mau mana i ka hoʻokaʻawale ʻana i nā hihia i kuleana ʻole nā ʻaoʻao i nā waiwai. Kuhi kekahi mau mokuʻāina i ka nui o ka waiwai pilikino e ʻona ʻia e nā ʻaoʻao pū kekahi.
- Ua kāpae nā kāne ʻelua i ke kuleana e loaʻa ai ka kākoʻo o ka male a mālama ʻia paha.
- ʻOi aku ka paʻakikī o kekahi mau mana, koi wale ʻana i ka ʻaelike e nā ʻaoʻao me ka nānā ʻole inā he keiki a he waiwai nui paha nā mea hemo.
No ke aha wau e makemake ai i kahi hemo hōʻuluʻulu manaʻo?
ʻOi aku ke kumu kūʻai o ka haʻalele male ʻana ma mua o ka hihia hoʻokaʻawale kuʻuna, i ka manawa a me ke kālā. I kahi hihia kuʻuna kuʻuna, koi ʻia ʻoe e hele i ka ʻaha i hoʻokahi a ʻoi mau manawa. Inā ʻoe e pani ana iā ʻoe iho, ʻo ke kumukūʻai wale nō iā ʻoe kou manawa. Akā inā he loio kāu e pani ana iā ʻoe, e uku paha kāu kālā i kēlā me kēia alo o ka ʻaha ma muli o ka uku pinepine ʻana a nā loio i ka uku hola. Inā kūpono ʻoe no kahi haʻalele male, hiki iā ʻoe ke hōʻalo i ka hōʻiliʻili ʻana i nā uku o ka loio no ka hoʻolohe ʻana i ka ʻaha a me ka hōʻalo ʻana i nā koina e pili ana i kāu manawa ponoʻī e kū nei i ka ʻaha, e like me ka hana manawa ʻole.
Makemake au i loio e kiʻi i ka hōʻuluʻulu male male?
ʻAe kekahi mau mana i nā kāne e hōʻike iā lākou iho i ka wā o ka haʻalele male, a hāʻawi nā mea he nui i nā palapala e kōkua i nā ʻaoʻao e hana pēlā. E nānā i ka ʻaha hoʻokolokolo hoʻokolokolo a i ʻole ka mokuʻāina o ka mokuʻāina no ka ʻike e pili ana inā loaʻa kēlā ʻano i kāu mana.
ʻO wai kaʻu e noi ai inā makemake wau i ke kōkua akā ʻaʻohe ou loio?
Nui nā mana i loaʻa nā hui e hāʻawi manuahi, a i ʻole pro bono, kōkua kū kānāwai i kekahi mau hihia. Aia paha he mau hui manawaleʻa e hāʻawi i ke kōkua loio ʻole a haʻahaʻa paha i kāu wahi. E hōʻoia me kāu hui mokuʻāina a kūloko paha a ma, ma ka Pūnaewele, e ʻimi iā “pro bono” a i ʻole nā “lawelawe loio” a me ka inoa o kou mokuʻāina e loaʻa ai nā lawelawe lawelawe loio lokomaikaʻi kokoke iā ʻoe.