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- Hauʻoli laulaha ʻole me ka male male
- Nā manawa hou aku e hoʻopunipuni
- Ke hoʻomohala nei i nā pilina ma ka pūnaewele
- Lonely a lohe ʻole paha ʻo ia
Ke lohe ka poʻe e pili ana i ka male ʻana o ka male ma luna o ka moekolohe ʻole, manaʻo ka poʻe he hewa ka ke kāne. ʻO lākou ka poʻe e hele auwana, ʻeā? ʻO ka wahine hoʻopunipuni pū kekahi, a pīhoihoi paha nā helu a me nā kumu iā ʻoe.
Wahi a kekahi mau noiʻi hou loa, nani maoli nā kāne a me nā wahine ʻoiai e pili ana i ka hoʻopunipuni ʻana i kā lākou wahine. No laila me he mea lā ke loaʻa nei nā kāne i kahi rap maikaʻi ʻole ke hiki ʻole ke kūpaʻa pono.ʻOiaʻiʻo, he ʻoiaʻiʻo ia, akā i nā makahiki i hala iho nei, e like me ka noiʻi noiʻi ma ke Kulanui o Indiana ma Bloomington, 19 pākēneka o nā wahine a me 23 pākēneka o nā kāne i hōʻike e like me ka hoʻopunipuni i ka wā o kā lākou male.
Akā ʻoi aku paha ka hoihoi o nā kumu e hoʻopunipuni ai nā kāne. ʻO ka manawa pinepine, ke ʻimi nei nā kāne i ka pīhoihoi o ke kino / moekolohe ma waho o ka male. Akā nā wahine, ʻoiai makemake lākou e ʻike i kēlā, ʻaʻole pono ke nānā wale no kēlā. Makemake pinepine lākou i kahi loli ʻano. Wahi a nā noiʻi ʻokoʻa, eia kekahi mau kumu e hoʻopunipuni ai nā wahine:
Hauʻoli laulaha ʻole me ka male male
He mea nui paha ia, a i ʻole nā mea liʻiliʻi he nui wale. Akā i kēia mau lā, ke hauʻoli ʻole ka wahine, nānā ʻo ia no ka hauʻoli ma kahi ʻē. Inā ke nānā aku nei kahi hoa hana a kāne paha kāne iā ia, hele hewa paha ʻo ia no ka mea e hoʻopiha ana kēlā mea ʻē i kā lākou pākeke hauʻoli i nā ala a kā lākou hoa kāne.
Ua ʻike ʻo Maddy he kāne maikaʻi kāna kāne, akā huhū wale ʻo ia i kēlā me kēia lā. "Makemake wale mākou i nā mea like ʻole. Manaʻo wau i ka manawa mua he mau manaʻo like ko mākou, akā i ka hala ʻana o ka manawa ua kaʻawale mākou. ” Ua alakaʻi iā ia i loko o nā lima o kahi lapalapa ahi e noho ana e like me ka mea āna i ʻike ai. Akā i ka hopena, ua hoʻopunipuni kāna kāne hoʻi, no laila ua ʻae lākou e hoʻokaʻawale i kekahi mau ʻaoʻao.
Nā manawa hou aku e hoʻopunipuni
ʻAʻole hoʻopunipuni nā kāne a me nā wahine inā ʻike lākou e hopu ʻia lākou; akā ke manaʻo lākou ʻaʻole e loaʻa, hoʻololi kēlā mau helu helu. A i kēia mau lā, me nā wahine hou aku i ka limahana, nā ʻohana me nā papa hana ʻoi aku ka nui, ma waho o nā huakaʻi hana kaona, a pēlā aku.
I ka manawa a Kate i haʻi aku ai i kāna kāne no ʻehā mau makahiki e hoʻomaka ana ʻo ia i kahi mau seminar ahiahi i kēlā me kēia pule no ka hana, ʻaʻole ia i ʻōlepe i ka maka. Ua wehe ʻia i kēlā me kēia ahiahi o ka Pōʻahā e noho pū me kahi hoa hana āna i ulu ai ka pilina. Ua hala ka hihia ma mua o hoʻokahi makahiki ma mua o ka haʻi hope ʻana i kāna kāne a ua haʻalele lāua.
Ke hoʻomohala nei i nā pilina ma ka pūnaewele
Maʻalahi loa ka pāpāho kaiapili a me nā pūnaewele pili pūnaewele e loaʻa i kahi fling liʻiliʻi me kahi ipo aloha a i ʻole mea hou. ʻAʻole kū like nā wahine i hoʻokahi pō kū me kahi mea a lākou e ʻike ʻole ai. Akā, e loaʻa paha iā lākou kahi hihia me kekahi mea a lākou i pili ai. I kēia au kahi o ke kamaʻilio ʻana me ka pūnaewele me kahi ahi kahiko, a i ʻole ke hoʻonohonoho ʻana i kahi moʻokāki pili pūnaewele hoʻopunipuni ka maʻalahi loa, ʻaʻole ia he mea kupanaha e hoʻowalewale ʻia nā wahine.
Ua ʻike ʻo Lacey ua male ʻo ia i ke kāne hewa nona, akā ʻaʻole maopopo ʻole ka mea e hana ai e hoʻomaikaʻi ai nā mea, a makaʻu loa ʻo ia e haʻalele iā ia. Ua kamaʻilio ʻo ia no kekahi mau hola me kahi hoa aloha o kahi kāne kahiko mai ke kula kiʻekiʻe, ma hope o ka ʻimi ʻana iā ia ma ka pāpili kaiaulu. Ua lilo ia i mea ʻoi aku ma mua o ka launa aloha, a ma o kēlā pilina ua ʻike ʻo ia i ka ʻokoʻa o nā mea. Ua haʻalele koke ʻo ia i kāna kāne no kāna hoaloha kula kiʻekiʻe.
Lonely a lohe ʻole paha ʻo ia
Pono nā wahine e ʻike i ka pilina me kā lākou wahine i mea e kō ai. Inā ʻaʻole pili ka wahine i kā lākou wahine (hana nui ʻo ia), a i ʻole loaʻa ʻole ka naʻau a i ʻole ʻaʻole "kiʻi" iā ia, a laila e ʻimi ʻo ia i kahi mea hiki a makemake. Hiki paha i ke kāne a ka wahine ke hoʻohui me ia, akā i ka hala ʻana o ka manawa ua emi ke kēnā. Mālamalama ka hunaahi me kekahi mea ʻē aʻe a e hoʻowalewale ʻia paha e kolohe ʻole i mea e manaʻo ai he waiwai ʻo ia.
Ma ke ʻano huli ʻo Sarah me kāna ʻoihana; kokoke ʻo ia e haʻalele a hoʻomaka i kāna ʻoihana ponoʻī. He moeʻuhane ola kēlā nona. Wale, ʻaʻole kākoʻo kāna kāne a ʻaʻohe ona manaʻo e pili ana i kāna mau moemoeā. Ua kaumaha loa ʻo ia, ʻaʻole hiki iā ia ke nānā hou iā ia. Ua pīhoihoi nui kahi mea kūʻai aku na Sarah e pili ana i kāna mau manaʻo a ua hoʻomohala koke lākou i kahi pilina e makemake nui ai ʻo Sarah no nā makahiki. He pili ko lāua i hala a hiki i ka haʻalele ʻana o kāna ʻoihana. Ua haʻalele ʻo ia i ka hihia a noho me kāna kāne, ʻoiai ua hewa ʻo ia no kāna hana. Ke hauʻoli nei ʻo ia me kāna ʻoihana hou a ke kākoʻo nui nei kāna kāne i kāna mau moemoeā.