Anter
- 1. Ke kuʻi ʻia ʻana
- 2. Hoʻohana ʻia
- 3. ʻAʻole koʻikoʻi loa
- 4. Nā hilinaʻi moekolohe a me nā kūpuna
- 5. Naʻaupō keiki
Manaʻo nā kāne ua kūkulu ʻia lākou e noho aliʻi a ke hāʻawi lākou i kā lākou makana nui ma luna o kekahi mau wahine i wae ʻia, manaʻo lākou i ka mahalo nui i ka hoʻihoʻi. Ke hāʻawi ʻole ʻia kēia mahalo iā lākou a laila ua haki ke kiʻi kāne a kēia mau kāne e haʻaheo ai, no laila ke hoʻowahāwahā nei nā kāne i nā hanana āpau o ka hōʻole ʻia.
Ma ke ʻano he kāne, hōʻole ʻia ka hoʻokō ʻole o kā lākou kāne a ke hiki kēia, kūpikipiki ke kāne a ʻānai i ka mea hoʻokaumaha. Ke hōʻole ka wahine i kahi kāne, manaʻo ʻo ia he mea nui ʻole a mahalo ʻole ʻia. Hoʻomaka ia e lilo i pilikino no ka manaʻo o nā kāne ua hōʻole ʻia lākou ma muli o kā lākou lawa ʻole, akā, ʻo ka inaina a nā kāne e manaʻo ai i ka hōʻole ʻia ʻaʻole ia e pili i kā lākou palekana ʻole.
ʻO kekahi mau kumu ʻē aʻe no ke kumu e inaina ai nā kāne i ka hōʻole ʻia ʻana i ʻōlelo ʻia ma lalo. E hoʻomau i ka heluhelu ʻana e ʻike ai.
1. Ke kuʻi ʻia ʻana
ʻAʻole hoʻowahāwahā nā kāne i ka hōʻole ʻia no ka mea he hiki ʻole ke hoʻomaopopo a paʻakikī hoʻi i ka hana ʻana ma muli o ka manaʻo o nā mea āpau āpau i kēia hoʻoholo.
Ke alakaʻi nei kekahi mau wahine me ke ʻike ʻole i nā kāne ma o ka hāʻawi ʻana iā lākou i nā pane manaʻo, a me nā manaʻo hoʻopuka e hiki ai iā lākou ke manaʻo e like me nā kāleka āpau ma ka papa a noi iā lākou e hele i kahi hana maʻamau a lākou e lawe ai. Eia nō naʻe, ke lohe lākou i ka pane "E kala mai iaʻu, ʻaʻole wau e ʻike iā mākou i kekahi mea ma mua o nā hoa aloha" hiki iā lākou ke huhū a hoʻonāukiuki lākou iā lākou.
No ka piʻo ʻana e like me kēia hiki ke lilo i mea nui no kekahi mau kāne e lawelawe a ʻo kēia ke kumu e pane ai me ka liʻiliʻi, huhū, a me nā hua ʻōlelo hōʻino.
2. Hoʻohana ʻia
Kūleʻa loa ʻo Guys i ka hōʻole inā manaʻo lākou me he mea lā ua hoʻohana ʻia lākou e kahi wahine a lākou i ʻike ai ma ke ʻano he ipo wahine hiki. He mea maʻalahi kēia manaʻo o ka hoʻohana inā hele mua ke kaikamahine a ʻae i nā makaʻala kālā, nā makana a me nā mea kumukūʻai ʻē aʻe no nā mahina a laila hele i mua a ʻōlelo ʻaʻole inā neʻe ke kāne e hoʻomaka i kahi aloha aloha. He kuhi hewa kēia i hana ʻia e nā wahine no ka mea hāʻawi lākou iā lākou i ka manaʻo o ka noho pū ʻana me lākou, ua hāʻawi lākou i ke kanaka e hoʻolilo i kona manawa, kālā a me ka hoʻoikaika iā lākou a e ʻōlelo wale ʻaʻole i ka hopena.
ʻO nā wahine, ma ka ʻaoʻao ʻē aʻe, e hoʻāʻo a e mōakāka loa i ko lākou mau palena i ka ʻike ʻana i ka pilina a me nā kāne a pono e hōʻalo i ka nalowale ʻana i kā lākou ʻino a hōʻino i nā wahine.
3. ʻAʻole koʻikoʻi loa
Ke pāʻani wale nei nā manaʻo mua o ke kāne no ke kamaʻilio ʻana me kahi kaikamahine, hele a pili a neʻe i kēlā manawa, he mea maʻalahi iā ia ke ʻōlelo ʻōpala i kona alo a hōʻino iā ia ke pau kāna ʻōlelo ʻana ʻaʻole.
Inā pili a makemake ʻo ia e pili a hele a laila ʻaʻohe ona hopohopo nui ke kolohe ke hōʻole ʻia ʻo ia; ʻoiai ʻaʻohe āna mea e eo hou ai. Eia nō naʻe, ʻē aʻe, inā ʻike ke kāne i ka wahine ma ke ʻano he hoa lōʻihi a makemake e hana i ka hoʻokō a laila ʻaʻole ia e ʻōlelo a hana paha i kekahi mea e hiki ai ke hoʻopau i ka hiki āpau; ʻoiai e hōʻole ʻo ia iā ia ʻelua a ʻekolu paha manawa.
4. Nā hilinaʻi moekolohe a me nā kūpuna
E like me ka mea i ʻōlelo ʻia ma luna, no kekahi mau kāne e haʻi ʻia "ʻaʻole" e ka wahine he mahalo ʻole i kā lākou kāne kāne. ʻO kēia ka mea i nīnau ai i nā nīnau e like me "Pehea ʻoe e ʻaʻa mai ai iaʻu?" "Makemake anei ʻoe e male i kahi kāne?" "Mai hopohopo, e hoʻomau i ka hōʻole ʻana iā mākou i nā kāne maikaʻi a e pala ʻoe i ka hale o kou mau mākua me ka male ʻole, ʻino a ʻelemakule hoʻi."
He hūpō paha kēia, akā ʻo kēia ke ʻano o ka noʻonoʻo a me ka pane ʻana o kekahi mau kāne ke kūleʻa ʻia kā lākou kāne kāne a kau i ka laina.
Eia nō naʻe, i kēlā mau kāne i waho, he kamaliʻi a liʻiliʻi e hana e like me kēia ke hōʻole aku kahi kaikamahine iā ʻoe i kahi ʻano hanohano a me ke ʻano hanohano.
5. Naʻaupō keiki
ʻO kekahi o nā kumu nui i hiki ʻole ai i nā kāne ke lawelawe i ka hōʻole ʻia ma muli o kā lākou hana makua ʻole a me nā manaʻo. Hiki i ke kanaka makua ke hoʻomaopopo a hoʻomaopopo i ka ʻoiaʻiʻo o ka hōʻole ʻia ʻaʻole ia he hopena o ka honua.
E hana ke kāne makua e like me ia, a e ʻae me ka mahalo i ka hōʻole ʻia no ka mea ua ʻike ʻo ia i ka nui o nā iʻa i loko o ke kai a e loaʻa iā ia kahi mea e makemake ai iā ia. ʻAʻole e lawe kahi kāne makua i kēia hōʻole ʻia ma ke ʻano hōʻino i kāna kāne a e hana, e like me ke keonimana.
ʻO ke keikikāne kāne wale nō e hana i kahi ʻano pilikino a hoʻomāʻewaʻewa a e hoʻāʻo i nā mea āpau e hiki ai iā ia ke bash i ke kaikamahine me ia e ʻauʻau nei me nā makana i kēlā pule aku nei me nā huaʻōlelo koʻikoʻi loa.