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"ʻO ka launa aloha kekahi ʻano o ka pilina kanaka e loli i ka ikaika mai kekahi pilina i kekahi a ʻokoʻa mai kēlā me kēia manawa i kekahi manawa, e like me ke ʻano pili kino."
Hiki ke ʻoi aku ka pono o ke kūkulu ʻana i ka pilina ʻuhane ma mua o ke kākoʻo ʻana i ka pili kino i ka male. I ka ʻoiaʻiʻo, ʻo ka pilina me ka pili ʻole o ka naʻau e hiolo a mae wale.
No laila, no ke aha i pili ai ka pili aloha no ke ola ʻana o ka male, pale ke kāne i ka pili ʻuhane a paʻakikī i ka hoʻopili ʻana i ka naʻau me kā lākou wahine.
Hāʻawi kēia ʻatikala i kekahi mau hiʻohiʻona ola maoli o nā kāne i hiki ʻole ke loaʻa ka ikaika a me ka wiwo ʻole e kūkākūkā i kā lākou lawa ʻole i ka naʻau me kā lākou mau wahine, a ua alakaʻi ʻia i loko o kā lākou male.
E nānā pū kekahi: makaʻu nā hōʻailona 7 i ka pili aloha.
Nā pilikia pili aloha kāne
ʻO ke kāne hoʻokahi me nā pilikia pili i ka naʻau e loaʻa i nā kumu he nui no ke kumu ʻaʻole ia e makemake e hana i ka pilina a male paha.
Eia nō naʻe, kuleana ke kāne male i kekahi kanaka ʻē aʻe. ʻAʻole ʻike ʻia kāna mau pilikia no ka mea he wahine kāna e aloha ai, hoʻomana, a nānā iā ia. ʻO kāna pilikia kāna pilikia.
Hiki i ke kāne male a me ke kāne pākahi ke loaʻa nā pilikia pili i ka naʻau, akā inā ʻaʻole e hana ke kāne male i loko o kāna mau pilikia, hiki i kēlā mau pilikia ke hoʻopili i kāna pilina a ma hope, kāna male.
ʻO nā ukana pili i hala, ka hōʻole, ka makemake, a me ka hoʻohaʻahaʻa wahine haʻahaʻa kekahi o nā pilikia pili i ka naʻau i nā kāne.
Hiki i nā kānaka āpau ke nānā i hope i kahi pilina i hala a ʻike i nā naʻau me he mea lā i nehinei wale nō, ʻo ka ʻoiaʻiʻo, nā ʻike i hala i mau makahiki i hala.
Minamina, inā haʻalele ʻole ʻia a hoʻoponopono ʻole ʻia, e pili ka hopena pili aloha kāne a me nā ʻike maikaʻi ʻole i nā pili hou me ka maikaʻi ʻole.
Pehea nā hopena maikaʻi ʻole e pili ai i nā pili hou
1. Aloha ʻo Timoteo i kāna wahine, ʻo Angela. Hauʻoli ʻo ia i ka hopena ʻole me kāna ipo kula kiʻekiʻe i holo aku me kāna hoaaloha maikaʻi loa.
Me he mea lā nehinei; ua kaumaha loa ʻo ia i ka haʻi ʻana aku o kāna hoa aloha iā ia he kāne lāua i kēia manawa, a ʻaʻole lāua i manaʻo e hōʻeha iā ia.
ʻAʻohe ona kuhi a lāua e aloha nei. ʻO ia ka huila ʻekolu ma nā lā āna i manaʻo ai nona?
He iwakālua makahiki i kēia manawa no ka hapalua o kāna male ʻana; ʻAʻole hiki iā Timoti ke kaohi i ka ukali malū ʻana i kāna wahine ʻo Angela, e ʻike ʻoiaʻiʻo ke haʻi nei ʻo ia i ka ʻoiaʻiʻo e pili ana i kāna wahi inā ʻaʻole ʻo ia me ia.
E hana maoli paha ʻo ia? Hui maoli ʻo ia i nā ipo wahine no ka ʻaina awakea? Maikaʻi maoli ʻo ia i kēia kakahiaka e hele wale i ka hale kūʻai. Ke hoʻāʻo nei ʻo ia e launa me kekahi mea ʻē aʻe? ʻAʻole kēia he mau manaʻo maikaʻi.
Ua ʻike ʻo Timoti he hiki ke ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi o kā lāua pilina inā hiki iā ia ke ʻae iā ia iho e hilinaʻi iā ia.
'Lelo pinepineʻo ia iā ia ua manaʻoʻo ia ʻaʻoleʻo ia i hāʻawi piha iā ia iho iā ia ma hope o kēia mau makahiki. Inā loaʻa ʻo ia iā Angela, ʻike ʻo ia e hakakā nui lākou.
Ua pau ka nui o nā male ma muli o nā pilikia hilinaʻi a me ka lili. ʻAʻole maopopo iā Timoti ke kumu o kona ʻae ʻana i nā mea i hala e hōʻeha iā ia pēlā.
Manaʻo ʻo ia ʻaʻole e ʻeha ke ʻike aku i kahi loea, akā pinepine, ʻaʻole hiki iā ia ke hana i nā hana e pono ai e hoʻopau i kāna mau makaʻu.
2. Aloha ʻo Mikaʻela i kāna wahine, ʻo Cindy, akā ke loaʻa nei iā lākou nā pilikia lumi lumi no ka mea manaʻo ʻo ia ʻaʻole lawa i ka hōʻoluʻolu i kāna wahine. Makaʻu ʻo ia i ka hōʻole ʻia o ka naʻau i ka male.
I kekahi lā, ua hana lima ʻo Cindy i kahi manaʻo e pili ana i ka "nui ʻole" no ka mea aloha ʻo ia iā ia. ʻAʻole loa ʻo Mikaʻela i ʻike ua hoʻokaʻawale ʻo Cindy iā ia ma ke ʻano he "kāne ʻaʻohe mea nui ke ʻano o ke kāne."
Hana ʻoiaʻiʻo i kēia mau manawa a pau? I kēia mau lā, paʻakikī iā ia ke pili aloha me ia no ka mea ke noʻonoʻo mau nei inā e ana ana ʻo ia.
ʻAʻole hiki iā Mikaʻela ke ʻōpū i ka manaʻo ʻaʻole lawa paha iā ia nona, no laila hana ʻo ia i nā kumu e hōʻalo ai i ka pili aloha, ka naʻau, a me ke kino.
Ua hopohopo ʻo ia a e haʻohaʻo ana i ka wā e hōʻeha ai ʻo ia iā ia me kāna mau manaʻo.
Ua manaʻo pū ʻo ia ka pili o ka hilinaʻi i kā lāua male, a ʻoiai ʻoiai i nā manawa he nui, manaʻo ʻo ia ke hana nui nei ia, akā ʻaʻole hiki iā ia ke lawe iā ia iho e hala i kāna mau makaʻu e hōʻino ana i kāna male.
3. Ke hoʻomaʻamaʻa nei ʻo Jimmy no ka hoʻokūkū hoʻokūkū kaumaha kaumaha o ka Honua. Aloha ʻo ia i kāna wahine, ʻo Sandra.
ʻIke pinepine ʻo ia iā ia iho e hōʻalo ana i ka pilina me ia no ka mea hoʻoliʻiliʻi ka wahine i kona ikaika ke hoʻomaʻamaʻa.
Pāpā ʻia ka moekolohe ʻana i ka wā hoʻomaʻamaʻa no ʻeono pule. ʻIke ʻo ia maopopo iā ia akā ʻaʻole hauʻoli me ia. Ke lanakila ʻo ia, ʻike ʻo ia he waiwai ia.
Hoʻomaopopo ʻo Jimmy i kāna makemake nui e hōʻalo iā ia i ka pili kino me kāna wahine, a ʻo ka hiki ʻole ke kūkākūkā ākea i kēia pilikia ke hoʻopilikia nei i kā lākou pili naʻau.
Inā ʻaʻole e lanakila, e hele ʻo ia i waho o ka pāʻani no ka mea nui ka manaʻo o kāna male. Ma ka ʻaoʻao ʻē aʻe, inā lanakila ʻo ia a hoʻomau me kāna mau hana, a laila e loaʻa iā lākou kahi ala e hoʻoikaika ai i kā lākou pili pili i ka naʻau.
4. ʻIke ʻo Jack, ka mea i male iā Vicky, pono ʻo ia e ʻike i ke kauka e pili ana i kāna kalaka haʻahaʻa akā ʻaʻole hiki iā ia ke hana iā ia iho e hana.
I kēia manawa, koi ʻo Vicky e loaʻa iā ia kahi kōkua. Hana ʻo ia i mau wā koho akā hoʻopau i ka manawa e hele ai. ʻAʻole i loaʻa iā ia kahi hoʻokamakama kiʻekiʻe akā ʻaʻole ia i ʻike he pilikia a hiki i kona male ʻana.
He wahine maikaʻi ʻo Vicky a he pono e māʻona ʻo ia i kāna kāne, a hoʻomanaʻo pinepine ʻo Jack i kēia ʻoiaʻiʻo, ʻo ia ka mea e pale aku ai i ka pili kino akā pili i ka naʻau me kāna wahine.
Holoʻokoʻa, nā pilikia mai nā pili i hala, keu hoʻi ka hilinaʻi a me ka lili, hiki ke hoʻopili i ka pilina o ka naʻau i kahi pilina a male paha.
Eia kekahi, ʻo ka moemoeā a me ka hoʻohaʻahaʻa moekolohe haʻahaʻa nā pilikia e hāʻawi i nā kāne e hōʻalo nei i ka pili aloha me kā lākou mau wahine.
No laila, pehea e kōkua ai i kahi kāne me nā pilikia pili? Hoʻomaka ia me ke kamaʻilio ʻana.
ʻO ke kamaʻilio ka kī i ka hoʻonā ʻana i nā pilikia pili i ka naʻau i ka male. ʻOiai inā he manaʻo ia i kekahi manawa, pono e hele i kahi male ma waho o ka male i kahi mea hilinaʻi a i ʻole ʻoihana e kiʻi i ke kōkua e pono ai.