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- Hoʻopilikia pololei ʻana
- Lilo ka nāwaliwali
- Manaʻo o ka lilo ʻana
- Ke hele nei mai kahi haʻuki pākahi a i kahi haʻuki kime
- ʻO kahi hoʻololi i nā mea mua
- Hoʻololi i ka nohona wahine
Ua ʻōlelo ʻoe "ʻae" i ka noi a kāu wahine hoʻopalau, a ke kuli nei i ka hoʻomākaukau male.
Nui nā mea e nānā pono ai, ka hoʻopaʻa ʻana i kahi wahi a me ka luna, ke koho ʻana a me ke kauoha ʻana i nā kāleka hoʻopakele a me nā kono, e hoʻoholo ana i nā papa inoa, ehia mau malihini e kono ai, a ʻoiaʻiʻo nō ka lole.
Akā aia paha kekahi mea i ʻoi aku ka nui ma mua o kēlā mau kikoʻī āpau e noʻonoʻo ai: nā loli a ka male e lawe mai ai i kou ola.
Ua noi mākou i kekahi mau kāne male e kaʻana like i kā lākou ʻike e pili ana i ka hoʻololi ʻana o ka male i ko lākou ola. E ʻike kāua i kā lākou ʻōlelo.
Hoʻopilikia pololei ʻana
Ua haʻi ʻo Virginia, 30, iā mākou ʻaʻole ia e kali i nā loli nui i kona ola. "Ma hope o nā mea āpau, ua noho pū māua ʻo Bruce a me ʻelua mau makahiki ma mua o ka nakinaki ʻana i nā kaula," haʻi ʻo ia iā mākou.
Koke, he ʻili koʻu i ka pāʻani. I ko mākou noho wale ʻana, ua loaʻa iaʻu ka manaʻo hiki iaʻu ke hele i waho o ka pilina i kēlā me kēia manawa me ka nui ʻole o ka wehe ʻana o nā mea.
Akā i ka manawa a māua i male ai, ua loli kēlā mau mea āpau.
ʻO ke kino a me ka naʻau, maoli! Hoʻohui ʻia kā mākou waiwai, me ko mākou inoa ʻelua i kēia manawa ma nā waihona panakō, ka molaki, nā inoa kaʻa. A ʻoi aku mākou i pili i ka naʻau ma ke ʻano he kāne a wahine.
ʻO kēia ʻano ʻili o ka ʻili i ka pāʻani, ʻoi aku ke kiʻekiʻe o nā mākia no ka mea aia kēia kūpaʻa kānāwai a me kahi ʻano hohonu o ka naʻau. A aloha au iā ia! ”
Lilo ka nāwaliwali
"ʻO ka hele ʻana mai kahi male a i ka male i hiki ai iaʻu ke makaʻu me kaʻu wahine," wahi a Bob, 42. "Ua hāʻawi ka male iā mākou i kahi papa e hōʻike iā mākou iho i kekahi i kekahi, me ka palekana a me ka pau ʻole.
ʻAe, ʻoiai, i ka manawa a mākou e pili aloha ʻana ua hōʻike mākou i ko mākou ʻaoʻao ʻaoʻao, warts a me nā mea āpau, akā i ka manawa a mākou i male ai ua loaʻa kēia manaʻo iaʻu ʻo kaʻu wahine ʻo ia kuʻu palekana, kahi kanaka i mua o lākou e hiki ʻole iaʻu ke "ikaika wale kanaka "akā ʻo ia hoʻi-a he mea nui kēia iaʻu - e hōʻike i kaʻu mau makaʻu a me nā hopohopo.
ʻIke wau e loaʻa mau ʻo ia i koʻu kua. ʻAʻole wau i ʻike i kēia ʻano hilinaʻi piha i ka wā a māua e pili aloha ana. Ua hoʻololi ka male i koʻu ola i kēlā ala.
Manaʻo o ka lilo ʻana
"Ua hele au mai kahi ʻohana a i kahi ʻohana nui," Charlotte, 35, kaʻana like me mākou. "I ko mākou pili aloha ʻana ua ʻike wau no Ryan mai kēia ʻohana Katolika nui, pili, akā ʻaʻole wau i manaʻo nui i kekahi ʻāpana o ia manawa. Inā ʻaʻole wau makemake e hele i kekahi o kā lākou ʻaina awakea a i ʻole ʻahaʻaina, ʻaʻole ia he pilikia nui. He kāne aloha a wahine wahine wale nō mākou. He keiki kamakahi wau a ʻaʻole wau i ʻike maoli i ke ʻano o ka nui o ka ʻohana.
I ka manawa a māua i male ai, ua like wau me ka male ʻana ʻaʻole wale no Ryan akā kona ʻohana a pau. Lawe lākou iaʻu i loko me he mea lā o ko lākou ʻohana ponoʻī. Kupaianaha loa kēia manaʻo o ke kaiāulu. Pōmaikaʻi loa wau i ka nui o ka poʻe ma laila noʻu. ʻO kēia ʻano o ke lilo i hoʻololi nui loa i ka wā aʻu i hele ai mai kahi male a i ka male. ”
Ke hele nei mai kahi haʻuki pākahi a i kahi haʻuki kime
Ua wehewehe ʻo Richard, 54, i kāna loli nui loa ma ke ʻano he "hele ʻana mai kahi pāʻani pāʻani hoʻokahi i kahi haʻuki kime". "Kūʻokoʻa au i mua," i ʻōlelo ʻo ia. "Ua manaʻo wau he agena kūʻokoʻa ka mea nui loa ma ka honua. ʻAʻohe mea nāna e hōʻike, hiki iaʻu ke hele a hele me ka ʻole o ka kuleana.
A laila ua hui wau a aloha aku iā Belinda a ua loli nā mea āpau. I ko māua male ʻana, ua maopopo iaʻu he hui kāua i kēia manawa, ʻo mākou ʻelua, a aloha wau i kēlā manaʻo o ka noho kaʻawale ʻole ʻana.
Hoʻopiʻi kekahi mau kāne e pili ana i ka 'wahine he pōpō a me ke kaulahao a puni ko lākou kuʻekuʻe wāwae', akā noʻu, ʻo ka ʻaoʻao ʻē aʻe. ʻO kēia manaʻo a mākou ʻelua e hana i kahi hui kime, iaʻu, ʻo ia ka hoʻololi nui loa i koʻu wā i male ai, a me koʻu hauʻoli nui loa. "
ʻO kahi hoʻololi i nā mea mua
Ua haʻi ʻo Walter, 39, iā mākou ua neʻe mua kāna mau mea mua i ka wā i male ai ʻo ia. "Ma mua, ua koʻikoʻi wau i kaʻu holomua ʻoihana. Ua hana wau i mau hola lōʻihi, ʻae i nā hoʻoili hana inā ʻoi aku ka nui o ke kālā a me ke kūlana kiʻekiʻe, a hāʻawi i koʻu ola i ka ʻoihana.
Akā i ka wā i male ai wau, ʻo nā mea āpau e like me ka mea nui ʻole.
ʻO ka male ʻana ʻaʻole ia noʻu wale nō, akā no mākou.
No laila i kēia manawa, ua hoʻoholo ʻia kaʻu mau koho ʻoihana āpau me kaʻu wahine, a noʻonoʻo mākou i nā mea e pono ai ka ʻohana. ʻAʻole wau e hoʻonoho i ka hana mua i kaʻu hana. ʻO kaʻu mau mea nui i ka home, me kaʻu wahine a me kaʻu mau keiki. A ʻaʻohe oʻu ala ʻē aʻe. ”
Hoʻololi i ka nohona wahine
"Maopopo iā ʻoe ka mea i loli maoli i koʻu male ʻana?" nīnau iā Rachel, 27. "ʻO koʻu ola moekolohe! Ma ke ʻano he wahine hoʻokahi, ʻaʻole wau i palekana me kaʻu mau hoa e hoʻomaha a hauʻoli i nā mea i loko o ka lumi moe.
Ua noʻonoʻo wau a hopohopo e pili ana i ka manaʻo o kaʻu ipo. Akā ʻo ka wahine male ka mea ʻokoʻa loa.
E launa ʻoe me kahi āu e aloha ai a hilinaʻi maoli ai.
ʻAe kēia iaʻu e wehe i nā ʻike hou, hōʻike i nā mea leʻaleʻa hou e hoʻāʻo, a mai makaʻu e noʻonoʻo ʻino mai iaʻu iaʻu. ʻAe, ʻaʻole mākou e heʻe i ka wā o ka pāʻina e moekolohe ai i loko o kahi lumi moe malihini, akā ke noho nei mākou i mau hola i kahi moe i nā hopena pule e ʻike wale nei i ka leʻaleʻa o ka moekolohe.
ʻAʻole wau e kūʻai aku i kēlā no kuʻu ola wahine ma mua o ka male ʻana no nā kālā āpau o ka honua! ”