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- 1. Kūpono ka male male ma mua o kā mākou hoʻoholo e hele i ke alaloa
- 2. ʻAʻohe mea e aʻo iā mākou pehea e ʻaelike ai e kūlike ʻole
- 3. ʻO kēlā me kēia hana kolohe hana e hōʻino ana i nā manawa o ka male olakino
- 4. Cohabitation ma mua o ka male ʻana
'He aha ka helu o ka hemo ma ʻAmelika Hui Pū ʻIa' a i ʻole 'he aha ka helu hoʻokaʻawale ma ʻAmelika' ʻo ia kekahi o nā nīnau googled e pili ana i ka hemo.
Kuhi kahi noiʻi e pili ana i ka 50% o nā kāne male i haʻalele ʻia ma United States. ʻO nā helu hemo o ka ʻāina e pena i kahi kiʻi ʻeleʻele loa. ʻO ka helu helu hemo o ʻAmelike Hui Pū ʻIa ua ikaika a paʻa no kekahi mau makahiki. No laila pehea e hōʻemi ai i ka helu male male i ko mākou ʻāina?
ʻAʻole wale maʻAmelika Hui Pū ʻIa akā inā ʻoe google i nā helu hoʻokaʻawale ma o ka ʻāina a i ʻole nā helu male male e nā mokuʻāina ua kaumaha loa ka helu.
Eia nā kī kiʻekiʻe ʻehā i mea e kōkua ai e hōʻemi i ka nui o ka male male ma ʻAmelika, ʻaʻole ʻeha wale i nā mākua e pili ana i ka hilinaʻi iā ʻoe iho, ka hilinaʻi a me kā lākou kūlana kālā akā loaʻa pū kekahi hopena maikaʻi ʻole i ka hanana ʻohana, waiho ʻana i nā keiki me ka manaʻo. ʻo kēlā hemo he mahele maʻamau ia o ka male. E heluhelu e ʻike ai i kekahi mau ʻike naʻau e pale ai i ka hemo ʻana ma United States (a me nā wahi āpau).
1. Kūpono ka male male ma mua o kā mākou hoʻoholo e hele i ke alaloa
Ma ke ʻano he kumu, ʻo ka hapa nui o nā kāne aʻu i hana pū ai i nā makahiki 28 i hala iho nei, ʻōlelo lākou he manaʻo ikaika loa ko lākou i ka wā mua i ka pili o ka paʻa ʻole o ka male.
Ke piʻi nei ka helu o ka male male ma ʻAmelika no ka mea ua hoʻomaka ka poʻe e lawe maʻalahi i ka hihia o ka male a mai hoʻopukapuka manawa lawa e hōʻoia i ke kanaka a lākou i koho ai i ke kanaka kūpono na lākou.
Hōʻike ka poʻe he nui iaʻu ua ʻike lākou i ka wā o ka pili aloha ʻaʻole paha he mea maikaʻi e male i kēia kanaka no ka mea he nui nā pilikia hakakā ʻaʻole lākou i ʻike pehea e lanakila ai. No laila ke alakaʻi nei kēia iā mākou i kahi kūlana hoihoi loa, me ka pākēneka kiʻekiʻe o ka poʻe e ʻike nei ua pilikia ka male ma mua o ko lākou male ʻana, he aha ka ʻanuʻu ʻekahi?
Aia kēia lula o ka manamana lima e ukali ai ke aloha ʻana ʻoe i kekahi kanaka i ʻole ʻoe e neʻe i mua i ke ola ke loaʻa nā hae ʻulaʻula nui e puhi nei i ka makani e ʻōlelo ana ua pau ka pilina mai ka hoʻomaka.
ʻO ka rula 3% o ka pili aloha e ʻōlelo ana hiki iā ʻoe ke loaʻa ka launa 97% me kāu hoa, akā inā lākou e halihali i nā mea pepehi kanaka kūpaʻa āu i ʻike ai ʻaʻole e holo pono no ʻoe, pono mākou e hoʻopau i ka pilina i kēia manawa.
Kolohe paha kēia? O ia. A ke holo nei. ʻO nā kāne e ukali i kēia ʻōlelo aʻoaʻo ʻaʻole e pau ka male ʻana i kekahi mea pepehi kanaka nui i ko lākou ʻano pilikino. Inā hoʻomaka nā mea a pau e ukali i kēia ka hemo o ka male ma ʻAmelika e iho ʻoiaʻiʻo.
Eia kekahi mau mea pepehi kanaka hana nui
ʻO kekahi o nā mea pepehi kanaka hana hiki ke lilo i kekahi mea inu nui, ka mea i komo i ka hoʻohana lāʻau, ka mea wahaheʻe, hoʻopunipuni iā ʻoe i ka manawa o ka pili aloha o ka pilina, malia paha e ʻōlelo ʻoe ʻaʻole e hana kahi keiki nāna kāu mau keiki, a i ʻole kekahi. ʻaʻole makemake kēlā ʻaʻole e hana nā keiki nāu.
I kēia manawa inā ʻoe e nānā i luna, a nui nā mea pepehi kanaka hou aku no kekahi poʻe he hoʻomana paha ia, nā poʻe ʻē aʻe ʻaʻole hiki iā lākou ke mālama pono i kā lākou kālā, akā inā ʻoe e nānā i kēia mau papa inoa āpau e paipai wau i kaʻu mau mea kūʻai aku e hana iā lākou iho, a ke launa nei ʻoe me kekahi mea ʻelua, ʻekolu a ʻekolu paha o ka make kill deal, ʻelua wale nō āu koho, e haʻi aku kekahi i kēlā kanaka e pono lākou e hoʻomaʻemaʻe i kā lākou hana ma mua o ka male ʻana iā lākou, a i ʻole ʻelua paha. hoʻopau ʻoe i ka pilina i kēia manawa. ʻO kēia ʻanuʻu ma aneʻi e hōʻemi loa ai i ka helu o ka hemo ma ʻAmelika i kēia lā.
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2. ʻAʻohe mea e aʻo iā mākou pehea e ʻaelike ai e kūlike ʻole
ʻAʻohe mea e aʻo iā mākou pehea e hoʻopaʻapaʻa maikaʻi ai, a i ʻole kūlike ʻole me kā mākou hoa. A he mea nui kēia i ka male olakino. Hiki i nā ʻōlelo aʻoaʻo ma mua o ka male ke kōkua i nā kāne e aʻo pehea e pale ai i nā mea kūlike ʻole, pehea e kūlike ʻole ai me ka mahalo, pehea e pani ʻole ai i ka lumi moe, pehea e pani ʻole ai a hana i nā ʻano hana passive-agresive i aloha ʻia e ka hapa nui o mākou.
Pono nā kāne āpau e hele i loko o kahi papa aʻoaʻo aʻoaʻo aʻo nui ma mua o ka nui o kou mau makahiki, a pehea ka lōʻihi o kou hui pū ʻana. Manaʻo pū mākou he mea nui e hana i nā ʻōlelo aʻoaʻo kālā me kēlā me kēia kanaka i kēia papa ma mua o ka male, a me ka hoʻomaopopo ʻana a me ka ʻaelike e pili ana i nā keiki, ka hoʻomana, pehea e mālama ai i ke kālā, nā wā hoʻomaha, ka moekolohe a me nā mea hou aku. Nui ka nui o nā kāne e male me ka ʻole o ka hana ma mua o ka male me ke kuhina, rabbi a i ʻole kahuna paha a ʻo kēia hoʻololi e hoʻoliʻiliʻi ai i ka nui o ka male male ma ʻAmelika.
3. ʻO kēlā me kēia hana kolohe hana e hōʻino ana i nā manawa o ka male olakino
Pono mākou e lawe i ke kuleana, kuleana pilikino inā mākou e hakakā nei me ka pāʻani kālā, nā meaʻai, nā nikotine, nā lāʻau, ka wai ʻona, ka moekolohe ... A inā he hoa kāu, paʻakikī kēlā me nā mea i luna, e heluhelu hou wale nō. Helu ʻekahi. Pono ʻoe e kau i nā palena a ke kanaka e hoʻōla mua ai, ma mua o ka male ʻana.
Ua laha ka hana hoʻomāinoino i kēia mau lā, e emi iho ka nui o ka male male ma ʻAmelika inā hoʻomaka ka poʻe e koho i nā hoa i kauā ʻole i kā lākou ʻano lāʻau.
4. Cohabitation ma mua o ka male ʻana
He ballgame ʻokoʻa loa ia e noho pū me kekahi, a laila e lā. A ke kau ʻoe i nā kuleana a me nā mea i hoʻohui ʻia o ka male ma luna o kahi mau kāne i noho ʻole ʻole, ke noi nei ʻoe i koʻu ʻōnaehana manaʻoʻiʻo no ka poʻe e lawelawe nui aku ma mua o kā lākou ʻike pehea.
Paipai ʻia i kēlā me kēia mea e noʻonoʻo e pili ana i ka male, noho pū no hoʻokahi makahiki ma mua o ko lākou male ʻana. Noho pū. E hele i nā piʻi a me lalo o ke ʻano o ka noho ʻana i ke keʻena liʻiliʻi liʻiliʻi, ka hale lawe lima a i ka hale nui. ʻAʻole ia he mea i ka hakahaka a i ʻole ka nui, e like me ka mea nui e noho nei ʻoe ma lalo o ka hale like. ʻO ka noho pu ʻana, ʻoiai, ʻaʻole ia he kapu ma ʻAmelika a inā e hāhai kekahi i kēia ʻanuʻu, e iho ana ka nui o ka male male ma ʻAmelika.
ʻO kēia wale nō kekahi o nā kī i hiki ke lilo i mea nui i ka hōʻemi ʻana i ka nui o ka male ma ʻAmelika a me ka hoʻonui ʻana i ka lakio o ka hauʻoli i nā kāne ʻoliʻoli ʻole i United States.
Hiki i kēia mau ʻanuʻu ke hoʻohuli i kahi huli nui i nā kāne e hoʻolālā ana e male a i ʻole nā kāne i male ʻia, e kōkua ana iā lākou e aʻo pehea e kūkākūkā ai, kūlike ʻole a hoʻopaʻapaʻa hoʻi me ka mahalo a me ke aloha. Ma hope o kēia mau ʻanuʻu e hōʻoki i ka helu o ka male male ma ʻAmelika.