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- 1. Manaʻo ʻaʻohe hilinaʻi
- 2. Ka maʻi noʻonoʻo
- 3. Ke hoʻokūkū nei i nā hihiʻo
- 4. Nā keiki
- 5. Pili pili
- 6. Luuluu
- 7. Ke ʻano moekolohe
- 8. Palekana
- He aha e hana ai ke huki ʻo ia?
ʻAʻole ia he kēkelē i ka ʻepekema rocket e hoʻomaopopo ai ʻaʻole e hoʻopau wale ka male hauʻoli.
I ka ʻoiaʻiʻo, kūleʻa ka male ma hope o ka lōʻihi o ka malaise a me ka hōʻole. ʻO ka maʻamau, hoʻāʻo nā kāne e pili iā ia ma ke kau ʻana i kahi mea nui i ka ʻōlelo aʻo a me ka kamaʻilio.
ʻO kēlā, hiki i ka hapanui o nā kāne ke kuhikuhi i kahi manawa a i kekahi mau manawa ke hiki maoli nā mea i kahi o ka hoʻi ʻole.
Akā eia ka mea hoʻonāukiuki. I kekahi manawa haʻalele aku nā hoa i nā male hauʻoli a i ʻole nā pilina olakino. Haʻalele kēia haʻalele ʻana i kahi hoa ʻē aʻe e haʻohaʻo ana, "He aha ka mea i hana?" I kēia ʻāpana, nānā mākou i kekahi o nā kumu i haʻalele ai nā wahine i nā male hauʻoli. Pili paha kekahi o kēia mau mea iā ʻoe?
E heluhelu e ʻike ai i ke kumu o ka ʻauana ʻana o nā wahine a ke haʻalele ʻo ia i ka mālama ʻana i kahi pilina.
1. Manaʻo ʻaʻohe hilinaʻi
Aia kekahi mau manawa kahi i hilinaʻi ʻia ai nā hoa e ka miscommunication a me nā mea kuʻikahi like ʻole. ʻO ka mea kupaianaha, hiki i ke ola o ka male hauʻoli ke ʻokiʻoki i kahi manawa.
ʻO kahi wahine e huki ana i ka naʻau he hae ʻulaʻula ia i ka male hauʻoli.
No ka maikaʻi a maikaʻi ʻole paha, e kiola ʻia ka male olakino a hauʻoli paha ma muli o ka hunch.
2. Ka maʻi noʻonoʻo
Ua paʻakikī mākou a pau me nā "blues." Ke huki ka wahine, nā maʻi pilikino, ke kaumaha a me nā mea like ke lilo i mea hōʻeha ma hope o kona haʻalele koke ʻana mai ka pilina.
ʻO ka pinepine, ʻo ke kaumaha kahi hopena pololei o ka nalo ʻana a koʻikoʻi i ke ʻano. Eia nō naʻe, aia kekahi mau manawa kahi o kā mākou pilikia olakino noʻonoʻo i ʻoi aku ma mua o ke kaumaha.
ʻAʻole hiki i nā maʻi noʻonoʻo ke hōʻeha i nā manaʻo maikaʻi loa o ke kanaka akā hiki iā ia ke sully i ke alahele holoʻokoʻa o ka pilina e kū nei, ʻoiai i nā male olakino a hauʻoli hoʻi.
Hiki i nā wahine - a me nā kāne no kēlā mea - ke waiho i kahi male ke hoʻopau nā maʻi noʻonoʻo i ke olakino a me ka noʻonoʻo maikaʻi.
3. Ke hoʻokūkū nei i nā hihiʻo
ʻO kekahi o nā kiʻi kōkua ʻole i ʻoka ʻia i ka manaʻo komohana o ka male ʻana, ʻo kēia manaʻo ua lilo nā "ʻelua i hoʻokahi."
Hiki i nā male olakino olakino a hauʻoli hoʻi ka manawa kūpono no nā hoa ʻelua e ʻimi piha a ʻapo i kā lāua mau hihiʻo no ka hana, ke ola, ka ʻuhane, a me nā mea like. Eia nō naʻe, aia kekahi mau manawa e ʻike ai nā hoa e hoʻokūkū nei nā hihi i kā lākou mau hihi. E like me ka nui, kahe kahe i ka pilina.
Inā manaʻo ka wahine a i kāna hoa paha ʻaʻole kūlike ko lākou ʻike no ka wā e hiki mai ana me ke ala hele maʻamau o ka male, e pau paha ka male.
4. Nā keiki
ʻAʻole koho kēlā me kēia kāne male i kā lāua keiki i ʻāpana o kā lāua ʻohana.
Maikaʻi kēia hōʻeuʻeu keiki ʻole inā lōʻihi nā ʻaoʻao āpau me kēia ala. Eia nō naʻe, ʻike pinepine nā wahine i ka huki makua ʻana ke ʻole ka manaʻo o kā lākou poʻe koʻikoʻi ʻē aʻe. Ke loaʻa kēia ʻano incongruence i ka pilina, aia paha kahi male male ma ka pae.
ʻAʻole kū ka hale i kūʻē iā ia iho. Ma ke ala like, hiki i ka ʻae ʻole i ka pilikia "keiki a keiki ʻole" ke lilo i mea haʻihaʻi kuʻikahi.
5. Pili pili
Hoʻokumu kekahi mau kāne i kahi ʻaelike e ʻae ai i ka "intimacy open."
ʻOiai ka hilinaʻi nui e pono ai i waena o nā hoa e ʻae i ka hōʻike o ka moekolohe ma mua o ka pilina, e ʻeha paha ka pilina.
Eia ka mea, hōʻole ka hilinaʻi ke nānā ʻia kā mākou nānā ma luna o kahi ʻoihana pili pilikino. Hiki i nā wahine i nā pilina ikaika a i ʻole nā male hauʻoli paha ke haʻalele i ka pilina inā manaʻo lākou ua ʻoi aku ka maʻalahi o kā lākou hoa pili i ka pili o ka wahine ma mua o ka paʻa male.
6. Luuluu
Ke loli nei ke ʻano o ke kanaka, hoʻonui kā mākou manawa koho. No ka hāʻawi pinepine ʻana o ka ʻenehana a me ka lāʻau iā mākou i ka manawa hou e hāʻawi i ka hana leʻaleʻa, koho paha mākou e huakaʻi a hana i nā leʻaleʻa like ʻole.
Akā ʻoiai mākou e alualu nei i nā hana leusurely e mālama i nā mea hoihoi, e luhi paha mākou me ko mākou pilina e noho nei. Manaʻo paha kekahi mau wahine, a me nā kāne, ʻaʻole hoihoi a hana ʻole paha kā lākou hoa e koi i kahi hoʻokō wā lōʻihi.
ʻAʻole paha mākou e hakakā me kā mākou hoa, akā ua luhi paha mākou me lākou. No laila, neʻe kekahi mau wahine me ke ola me ka ʻole o kā lākou mea nui ʻē aʻe.
7. Ke ʻano moekolohe
Ua maikaʻi kekahi mau kāne i loko o kā lākou ola male ke ʻike kekahi o nā hoa e ʻumeʻume lākou i nā lālā o ka moekolohe like. Aloha maoli paha kahi hoa i kā lāua hoa wahine ʻoiai ʻaʻole ʻume ʻia i ka hoa.
Ke hōʻoia ka wahine (a kāne paha) i ka moekolohe i kahi kanaka o ka like kāne, ʻo ia paha ka hopena o ka pilina o kēia manawa.
ʻOiai paʻakikī paha ka hoʻokaʻawale a me ka hemo ʻana, hiki nō paha ia.
ʻImi mākou āpau i ka ʻoiaʻiʻo ke olakino mākou. I ka loaʻa ʻole o kēia ʻoiaʻiʻo, hiki iā mākou ke hele i loko o ka hopohopo a me ke kaumaha. ʻO kaʻoiaʻiʻo i ka hoʻonohonoho ʻana hiki ke manaʻo he kūpono ke hoʻololi i kahi kūlana pili.
8. Palekana
ʻOiai ke manaʻo nei ke poʻo inoa i nā ʻano koho āpau, kū hoʻokahi ka manaʻo. Ke hoʻōki ʻo ia i ka hoʻāʻo ʻana he hōʻailona wānana-ahi wanana ia e hoʻi nei ka wahine i ka pilina.
Aia kekahi mau manawa e haʻalele ka wahine (a me nā kāne) mai kahi pilina maikaʻi no ka mea ʻike lākou i nā "mahina maikaʻi ʻole" ma ka pae. ʻO kahi pilikia olakino, kahi maʻi maʻi, a me nā mea like nā kumu āpau e hele aku ai kahi hoa mai kahi "mea maikaʻi" a i ʻole e hoʻokau ʻia e huki mai kahi pilina no ka mea makemake lākou e pale i kā lākou mau hoa.
I ko mākou hoʻāʻo ʻana e pale aku i nā poʻe ʻē aʻe mai nā pilikia a mākou i ʻike ai, e hana paha mākou i nā mea ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi ma mua o ka maikaʻi.
He aha e hana ai ke huki ʻo ia?
Ke huki ʻo ia, hāʻawi i kahi nona a hoʻi ʻo ia.
I kekahi manawa, hele aku nā hoa mai kahi mea maikaʻi. Ke huhū nei, ʻeha, akā hiki nō. Ke hiki, he mea nui ia no ka hoa ma ka loaʻa ʻana o ka lono maikaʻi ʻole e hāmama i ke ākea ʻoiai e hoʻomau mau ana me ka lana o ka manaʻo he hiki ke hui hou.
Pono ka kamaʻilio ikaika ʻana no ka male hauʻoli. A, ʻo ka mea hope loa, ka ʻae ʻana i nā hopena āpau i nā kāleka no ka pilina.
No laila, he aha ka hana ke lilo ʻo ia i mamao?
Ma kahi o ka ʻimi ʻana i kahi hoʻoponopono wikiwiki pehea e hoʻi ai i ka pilina, he mea nui e hāʻawi mua iā ia i kahi, e ʻike ʻole ʻaʻohe mea āu i hana ai e hoʻonāukiuki iā ia āu e ʻike nei, a nīnau inā makemake ʻo ia e hele i ka ʻōlelo aʻoaʻo.
ʻAʻole hiki iā mākou ke koho i nā koho no kā mākou hoa pili inā manaʻo nui lākou e huki hou i kahi pilina. Hiki nō naʻe iā mākou ke mālama pono iā mākou iho.