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- Ka maʻi maʻi pilikino
- Aloha wau me kekahi me BPD
- Ka pōʻaiapili pilina BPD
- 1. ʻO ka mea hoʻonāukiuki
- 2. I ka hoole ana
- 3. Ka makaʻu a me nā kānalua
- 4. Hoʻokaʻawale
- 5. Ke hana hou ʻana i ka pōʻaiapuni - ke kumu
- Ke ola nei i ka pōʻaiapili pilina BPD
Pehea ʻoe e wehewehe ai i kahi pilina ʻawahia? Aia paha ke piha me ka palekana ʻole, lili a me nā hoʻopiʻi kumu ʻole paha ka mea āu e noho pū ai? He aha inā he kūlana kūikawā kou kanaka āu e aloha ai e like me BPD, pehea ka lōʻihi e hiki ai i kāu aloha ke pahu i loko me ka pōʻaiapili pili pilikino pilikino palena palena.
A, pehea ʻoe e hoʻomanawanui ai i ka maʻi o kāu hoa?
Ka maʻi maʻi pilikino
ʻO kēlā mau ʻo wai i hala ua ʻike ʻia me ka BPD aiʻole ka maʻi pilikino pilikino i nā manawa āpau ke kaua ʻana. Loaʻa mau iā lākou pae kiʻekiʻe o ke kaumaha a huhū ʻaʻole hiki iā lākou ke wehewehe. Hiki iā lākou e hōʻāhewa maʻalahi ʻia e nā hana a haʻi, haʻi ʻōlelo, a noho i ka makaʻu mau. ʻO ka makaʻu i nā manaʻo hou o nā hala ʻeha, ka makaʻu o ka haʻalele ʻana, a me nā makaʻu ʻē aʻe e hoʻonāukiuki loa iā lākou.
No ka hapanui o ka poʻe me kēia maʻi, hoʻomaka i ka hōʻike ʻana i nā hōʻailona ma ke ʻano he ʻōpio a kaukaʻi i ko lākou kaiapuni, hiki ke hōʻino a hoʻomaikaʻi paha i ko lākou ola makua. Pili pili ka BPD a me nā pilina no ka mea he pilina kā mākou āpau, ʻohana paha, ʻohana, a me kāu hoa.
ʻO ka ʻāpana ʻoʻoleʻa o ka pili ʻana me kekahi me ka BPD pehea ʻoe e hiki ai mālama i kahi pilina olakino. Aia kahi mea a mākou e kapa aku ai he palena palena pilikino pilikino pilikino palena palena a ʻo kēia kā mākou e kapa nei he pōʻaiapuni o nā pilina e puni ana i ka maʻi o ke kanaka a pehea lākou e lawelawe ai i ka pili.
He kumu ia no ka poʻe i loaʻa ka maʻi pilikino a me nā pilina akā pono mākou e hoʻomanaʻo ʻaʻole ia no lākou ka hewa a ʻaʻole lākou i kumu.
Aloha wau me kekahi me BPD
ʻO ka poʻe i ʻike ʻike i ka launa ʻana me kekahi me ka BPD e wehewehe ai lākou ma ke ʻano he ʻano wili-coaster ʻano pilina ma muli o ke kaona pili pilikino pili pilikia akā ʻaʻole hiki ʻole e hana ia hana.
Aloha i kekahi me ka BPD paha paʻakikī ma ka mua, haunaele ʻoiai e like me nā ʻano ʻē aʻe o ke aloha a me ka pilina, aia nō uʻi.
ʻO ke aloha i kekahi me ka maʻi pilikino ʻo ka borderline ʻaʻole paha ia he koho akamai akā ʻike mākou āpau ʻaʻole hiki iā mākou ke kaohi i ke aloha a me nā mea a mākou e aloha ai. Kamaʻāina me ka maʻi e maopopo leʻa kōkua i kekahi o wai i kahi pilina me kekahi e loaʻa ana iā BPD.
Hōʻike ka helu i ka maʻi pilikino i ka palena palena palena ʻole i nā wahine i ʻokoʻa i nā kāne e pili ana i nā hopena i ka pilina. Ua ʻike ʻia nā noiʻi ua loaʻa i nā wahine me ka pilina maʻi pilikino ka palena palena manawa he nui aku ka manawa o ka pili ʻana i nā wā pōkole a no laila ke lana ʻia ka manawa o ka hāpai ʻana.
ʻO kēlā me kēia kanaka me ka BPD he mau pilikia like ʻole e lanakila a aia ia iā mākou, ka mea nāna i koho e noho pū me lākou e kōkua iā lākou e hele i loko o kā lākou kaua akā i nā manawa pinepine, paʻa pū mākou iā mākou iho i kahi pōʻaiapili pili BPD.
Ka pōʻaiapili pilina BPD
Inā ʻo kēia ka manawa mua āu i lohe ai e pili ana i ka palena o ka pilina pilina pilikino pilikino, a laila ʻo kou manawa kēia e kamaʻāina me ia.
Ka launa ʻana me kekahi me ka pilikino palena palena e ʻike i kekahi o nā lauana malalo akā ʻaʻole makemake nā kānaka āpau. No laila, na mākou e makaʻala i ke kōkua ʻana i kā mākou mau hoa.
1. ʻO ka mea hoʻonāukiuki
ʻO nā poʻe i loaʻa ka maʻi pilikino ka palena palena i ke aloha i ka pilina ʻike ke ʻeha lākou. Nui lākou i loko mele me ko lākou mau manaʻo, i ka ʻoiaʻiʻo, i kahi mea liʻiliʻi loa i hiki i kekahi hanana ke kumu i ka ʻeha a ʻeha, a lilo i mea hōʻeha.
ʻO ka mea kaumaha, ʻaʻole hiki ke alo ʻia kēia mau mea, ʻeha mākou āpau akā no ka pili o ka BPD a me nā pilina, hiki i kēia hanana traumatic ke hoʻomaka i ka pōʻaiapuni no kahi kanaka me BPD.
2. I ka hoole ana
Nui ka poʻe puni nā mea ʻeha o ka BPD ʻaʻole maopopo pono he aha ka hana. No kekahi, e ʻōlelo paha lākou he overreacting wale nō a maʻamau wale nō nā mea āpau a pēlā aku.
Akā ma kahi o ke kōkua ʻana i kahi kanaka me BPD, ʻoiaʻiʻo koi aku iā lākou e hōʻole o ko lākou mau manaʻo maoli e hoʻi i hope i ka huhū a me nā ʻeha hou aʻe.
3. Ka makaʻu a me nā kānalua
Inā a ʻeha ke kanaka me BPD a ma kahi o ka hoʻoponopono ʻana i ka pilikia, kā lākou paha nā hoapili pono wale e haʻalele i ka pilina a i ʻole hoʻonāukiuki i ke kūlana me nā hana ʻeha a i ʻole nā huaʻōlelo hōʻino loa.
Hiki i kēia ke alakaʻi i ka pilikino pilikino pili aloha e hoʻopau, kaumaha, ʻaʻole i ke ala maluhia.
4. Hoʻokaʻawale
Kekahi kanaka nāna e ʻeha e ke aloha loaʻa nā ʻano ʻokoʻa, he aha hou aʻe inā he BPD ko kekahi?
Hiki iā ʻoe ke noʻonoʻo i ka nui o ka ʻeha a lākou e manaʻo nei e iho i lalo i kēia pae pili BPD kahi e makemake ai ke kanaka e hoʻokaʻawale iā ia mai nā mea āpau?
Hoole, haʻalele, a nalowale ka paulele is weliweli no kekahi ʻoi aku i ke kanaka me BPD.
ʻO nā hopena o kēia pilikino pili pili pilikino hiki ke hele mai ke kaumaha, ka huhū, ka huhū, ka hoʻopaʻi, a me ke kaumaha hoʻi iā ʻoe iho. ʻO ka huikau, ka ʻeha, a me ka huhū he mea nui loa ia no kēia kanaka a hiki ke alakaʻi i nā hana a mākou āpau e makaʻu ai.
5. Ke hana hou ʻana i ka pōʻaiapuni - ke kumu
ʻO ke kumu i kapa ʻia ai kēia pōʻaiapuni ma muli o ke aloha e hele mau nei.
No ka mamao loa o ke kanaka, e noho mau ke aloha a me nā pilina ma laila. Hilinaʻi hilinaʻi hou, lohi ke aʻo ʻana i ke aloha a minoʻaka hou nō kahi hoʻomaka o kahi maʻi pilikino pilikino nā pilina.
ʻO ke aloha kahi kukui hou o ka manaʻolana no ka hauʻoli.
Akā he aha ka hana ke loaʻa kekahi hanana ʻeha hou? A laila, hoʻomaka hou ka pōʻaiapuni.
Ke ola nei i ka pōʻaiapili pilina BPD
Hiki iā ʻoe ke ʻike iā ʻoe iho e noho nei i kahi pilina me kekahi me BPD? Hiki iā ʻoe ke noʻonoʻo iā ʻoe iho e uhaʻi i ka puʻuwai o ke kanaka no ka mea he BPD kāna?
He kūlana paʻakikī ia, ʻaʻole wale no ka mea e pili ana i ka palena palena pilikino pilikino pilikino pōʻaiapuni akā me ʻoe pū kekahi.
E noho paha ʻoe a haʻalele paha ʻoe? Aia nō ka pane iā ʻoe akā ʻo ka mea kūpono ke hoʻāʻo mua i kāu mea maikaʻi. E hoʻāʻo i kāu mea e pono ai e noho ma laila no ke kanaka, ma hope o nā mea āpau, aloha ʻoe iā ia, ʻeā?
- E hoʻomaka me ka hoʻokō pono - ʻAe i nā ʻōlelo a loaʻa ka wikiwiki e hana.
- E ʻike i ka Therapist kūpono no ʻoe a me kāu hoa - E kiʻi i nā loiloi, e ʻimi i nā papa hana hoʻōla, a me nā mea āpau i hōʻoia ʻia e kōkua.
- Kālele ana - E kia i ka mālama ʻana iā BPD a me ka lawe ʻana i nā lāʻau i ka mālama ʻana i kekahi o nā ʻōuli.
- Halemai - I nā hanana hōʻino ponoʻī a i ʻole nā ʻano suicidal, pono paha i ka haukapila.
- Paipai ʻia ke kākoʻo mai ka ʻohana a me nā hoaaloha - ʻO ke aʻo ʻana iā lākou me ka maʻi e kōkua nui.
ʻO ka poʻe me BPD e like me ʻoe a me aʻu. I ka ʻoiaʻiʻo, maikaʻi lākou, aloha, a aloha aloha a hiki iā lākou ke kaohi i kā lākou borderline pilikino maʻi pilina pōʻaiapuni, lākou wale nō pono e loaʻa i kekahi i ma laila no lākou.