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- Nā Hōʻailona o ka Borderline Personality Disorder
- Ke aʻo ʻana i ka dynamics pilina o ke aloha i kekahi me BPD
- Hiki i kekahi o nā ʻano o ka BPD ke hoʻopau i kahi pilina
- Nā pilikia e kupu mai ana mai ka makaʻu i ka haʻalele ʻana
ʻO ka Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) kahi ʻano o ka maʻi noʻonoʻo e hōʻeha ma nā wahi a pau mai 1.6% a 5.9% o ka poʻe mākua o U.S.
ʻO ka hapa nui o ka poʻe i ʻike ʻia me nā ʻōpio makua. Minamina, ʻo ia ka manawa i ke ola ke hoʻopau nei ka hapa nui o ka poʻe i kā lākou aʻo ʻana, e hoʻomaka ana i kā lākou ʻoihana, a ke ʻoliʻoli pinepine nei i kā lākou pili aloha aloha maoli.
He aha kekahi o nā kikoʻī e pili ana iā BPD? ʻO ke kumu, ʻeiwa mau hōʻailona like ʻole o ka BPD, a ʻike ʻia kahi hōʻailona inā ʻelima mau o kēia mau ʻōuli i loaʻa i kahi kanaka.
Nā Hōʻailona o ka Borderline Personality Disorder
- Ka makaʻu o ka haʻalele ʻana
- Pili pili paʻa
- Kūleʻa a hoʻololi paha i ke ʻano ponoʻī
- Huli ʻino loa
- Hoʻopilikia iā ʻoe iho
- Huhū pahū
- Manaʻo o ka ʻole
- ʻAʻole pili i ka pili me ka ʻoiaʻiʻo
- Nā manaʻo maha o ka ʻole
I kēia manawa, e like me kāu e ʻike ai, ʻo kēlā mau hōʻailona koʻikoʻi loa.
E like me kāu e noʻonoʻo ai, hiki i kekahi, inā ʻaʻole āpau, ke hoʻopau i kekahi ʻano pilikino pilikino e loaʻa i kahi kanaka i ʻike ʻia me ka BPD. Ua nīnauele mākou i ka poʻe i ʻike ʻia me ka BPD a me kā lākou mau hoa e aʻo hou e pili ana i ke ʻano o ka hoʻokele ʻana i loko o ke ola.
Ke aʻo ʻana i ka dynamics pilina o ke aloha i kekahi me BPD
ʻO Leslie Morris, 28, kahi mea pena kiʻi paʻi kiʻi no ka makasina nui o ka honua. ʻO kāna hoa hana, ʻo Ben Crane, 30, he mea kālepa. Ua loaʻa ʻo Leslie iā BPD ma 23.
ʻIke ʻo ia i kahi psychotherapist ʻelua mau manawa o ka mahina no kāna Cognitive Behaviour Therapy kau, a i kēia manawa ʻaʻohe ona lāʻau. Ua hoʻomaka ʻo Leslie, “OMG. ʻAʻole ʻoe e manaʻoʻiʻo i nā makahiki ʻelima i hala, ʻaʻole maoli, ʻo nā makahiki ʻewalu a ʻoi paha i hala.
Lawe wau i kahi manawa e loaʻa ai ka maʻi. ʻ saidlelo mau ka poʻe ua huhū wau, akā i ka wā i puhi ai wau i kaʻu kōpena i mua o kuʻu luna mai ka wā i hōʻino mai ʻo ia i kekahi o kaʻu mau kiʻi, ua alakaʻi ʻia ʻo ia iaʻu mai ka hale. Pōkole moʻolelo lōʻihi: Ua ʻike hope ʻia au me ka BPD. "
Ua hopohopo ka mea hana a Leslie a mālama iā ia e hana ma o kāna hoʻokipa ʻana a me nā wahi noho.
Ua oli ʻo Ben i loko, “Ua aloha au iā Leslie i koʻu hui ʻana me ia i kahi hale hōʻikeʻike. ʻO kona makemake nui i nā mea noʻeau e like me kahi mea aʻu i ʻike ʻole ai.
Akā ma hope koke o ko mākou hoʻomaka ʻana e hele i waho, ua paʻakikī kona naʻau iaʻu e hana, a ua hoʻomau ʻo ia e hoʻopiʻi iaʻu no ka makemake e haʻalele mau iā ia. ʻAʻole wau i makemake i kekahi mea o kēia ʻano, akā e hoʻomau ʻo ia. He paʻakikī loa e hōʻoia iā ia makemake wau e noho i ka pilina.
Nui koʻu manawa i ka noiʻi ʻana i nā ʻoihana hou, no laila ua hoʻohana wau i kaʻu ʻike noiʻi a ua hana wau i kahi noiʻi a loaʻa nā ala e hoʻomau ai me ia. "
No laila ua kōkua ʻia ka pilina o Leslie lāua ʻo Ben e ka hana a Ben e aʻo e pili ana i ka maʻi o kāna hoa. Ke hele ikaika nei lākou, akā e nānā kāua i kahi pilina i kū ʻole pū kekahi.
Hiki i kekahi o nā ʻano o ka BPD ke hoʻopau i kahi pilina
ʻO Kayla Turner, 23, he haumāna ma ke kula nui i ka waena. ʻO kāna keikikāne ma mua, ʻo Nicholas Smith, he haumāna puka hou mai ke kulanui like.
Ua ʻike ʻia ʻo Kayla me ka BPD ma 19. Ua ʻōlelo ʻo ia, "ʻO Nicholas koʻu aloha aloha mua. Ua huhū wau, aloha nui iā ia. Makemake wau e noho pū me ia a mau loa aku. Ua like ia me nā kiʻi ʻoniʻoni. Ua manaʻo wau ua loaʻa iaʻu kaʻu mea ʻuhane pono ʻokoʻa, a e noho mau kekahi me kekahi.
Minamina, ma hope o ka hopena o ka huhū lehulehu a me hoʻokahi hoʻokele pō weliweli, ua haki ʻo Nicholas i nā mea. Ua wehewehe ʻo ia: I kekahi pō ua ʻōlelo ʻo ia e holo mākou i Kikako. ʻO ka hoʻoilo ia a me kekahi mea e like me iwakālua ma lalo. Ua hoʻāʻo wau e hōʻoia iā ia ʻaʻole kēia he mea naʻauao, akā ua komo ʻo ia i loko o kāna kaʻa a hele akula i waho. Ua ukali wau i loko o kaʻu kaʻa a hiki i ko māua ʻoki ʻana ma muli o ka panina o ke alanui.
I kēlā manawa, ua ʻike wau i nā ʻano o koʻu manaʻo e pili ana iā ia, pono wau e hele i waho. ”
Minamina, kekahi o nā ʻano o ka BPD, impulsiveness, spontaneity, a me ke ʻano nui o ke ʻano o ka naʻau, hoʻopau i kēia pilina. Ua noʻonoʻo ʻo Nicholas, “makaʻu wau iā Kayla.
Nā pilikia e kupu mai ana mai ka makaʻu i ka haʻalele ʻana
ʻO ke kaʻa ʻana i ka pō i ke anilā sub-zero ʻaʻole naʻauao ke ʻōlelo iki. ʻAʻole hiki iaʻu ke noho me kekahi e nānā ʻole i ka palekana pilikino no ka nui o koʻu hauʻoli e noho pū me ia. "
Hoʻokahi kanakolu makahiki o Gardenia Clark i hoʻokipa ʻia me ka maikaʻi maikaʻi a me ka ʻike o ka BPD.
ʻO kāna ipo kāne o kēia manawa, ʻo Bill Tisdale, ʻaʻole maopopo iā ia ʻo kāna ipo kāne ʻekolu kēia i kēia mahina, ʻaʻole nō hoʻi ʻo ia i ʻike ua hoʻopunipuni ʻo ia iā ia e noʻonoʻo ʻo ia kāna ipo mua loa i kahi manawa lōʻihi loa.
Wahaheʻe mau ʻo ia i nā kāne āna i pili ai, a ʻaʻole maopopo iā ia ke kumu o ka lōʻihi ʻole o kāna mau pilina; ʻO kēia puka mau a puka o nā ipo kāne e hānai i kāna makaʻu i ka haʻalele ʻana, akā manaʻo ʻo ia ʻo "ka mea aʻe" ʻo ia ka "hoʻokahi."
ʻAe ʻo ia i ka hoʻopunipuni iki i ka wā ma mua a ʻōlelo, "ʻAe, ua hoʻopunipuni wau. ʻAʻole nui. A malia paha ʻaʻole ʻoe e kāhea iā ia he hoʻopunipuni, akā ua ʻike wau i kekahi mau kāne i ka manawa like. ”
Ua ʻōlelo mua ʻo Bill, "pūʻiwa wau i ka hele ʻana o kekahi mea nani a maikaʻi e like me Gardenia me kahi schlub e like me aʻu. Hoʻokahi wale nō manawa a mākou i hele ai i waho. Ua haʻiʻo ia iaʻu ʻaʻole ʻo ia i lōʻihi no ka lōʻihi. ʻIke wau i ka pōmaikaʻi! Ke nānā nei wau i mua i kēia hopena pule ke hele nei mākou i kahi ʻaha mele kaumaha. ʻO ia kekahi o kā mākou hoihoi pū, a no ka mea ʻike wau i ka mea hoʻolaha ma o kaʻu ʻoihana hale ʻaina, he tikika maikaʻi loa kā mākou. Pōmaikaʻi pōpilikia ʻia ia! ”
ʻAʻole ia he clairvoyant e ʻike ai ʻaʻole e lōʻihi loa kēia pilina.
Ua koho ʻo Gardenia i ka loaʻa ʻole o nā lāʻau no kāna maʻi, a i kēia manawa aia i loko o ka overdrive kāna mau ʻōuli. ʻAʻohe manaʻo ʻo Bill i kona ʻano maoli. Malia paha e loaʻa iā ia ke ahonui e hana pū me ia, akā e hāʻawi paha ʻo ia no ka mea he nui ka mea ma kāna pā.
E like me kā mākou e ʻike ai, aia kekahi mau pilikia kūlohelohe ke pili kekahi kanaka me BPD i ka pilina me kekahi kanaka ʻē aʻe. Inā makemake ka mea ʻē aʻe e hoʻomau i ka pilina, aia ka manawa kūpono no ke aʻo ʻana a me ka ulu ʻana.