Anter
- 1. Ua hoʻopili wau
- 2. ʻOiaʻiʻo ka hoʻokolokolo
- 3. Hiki i nā lula ke lilo i blurry
- ʻO kahi papa inoa o nā lula e mālama pono i kou puʻuwai e hele i kahi mea e like me kēia:
- 4. Loaʻa iaʻu kahi STD
- 5. ʻAʻole maikaʻi wale ia
- 6. ʻO ke kakahiaka ma hope o ka omo ʻana
ʻO ka poʻe haku ma ka moekolohe maʻamau ʻike i nā lula āpau.
Palekana lākou me ko lākou naʻau a me ke kino. Kamaʻilio pinepine lākou e pili ana i kā lākou mau pono a kau i kekahi mau rula kahua i ʻole e ʻeha kekahi.
Akā no ke koena o mākou, ʻo ka moe kolohe ka huakaʻi hele mau e hōʻike i nā mea ʻoi aku ka nui ma lalo o ka piʻi.
No ka poʻe e noho mau ana i ka pā e pili ana inā ʻaʻole e hoʻomaka wale i ke kāhili maʻamau ʻana, eia kekahi mau moʻolelo aʻoaʻo e hoʻohuli paha iā ʻoe e noʻonoʻo ʻelua paha e pili ana inā pili maoli ka moe kolohe iā ʻoe:
1. Ua hoʻopili wau
E hoʻonoho i nā palena! ʻIke wau, maopopo iaʻu. ʻO kēia ka rula moekolohe maʻamau nui loa. Minamina, ʻaʻole wau i hana. Ua hele koʻu kūlana FWB i kahi mea e like me kēia: hoʻopili, hoʻopili, hiamoe, ʻaina kakahiaka, a hoʻomau i ka nānā i kēia kanaka no ʻeono mahina.
Makemake wau hiki iaʻu ke ʻōlelo ua hui pū mākou a noho hauʻoli ma hope, akā ʻo ka mea maoli, ua haki nui loa koʻu naʻau. Auē. - Yujing, 27
ʻAʻole ia he mea maʻamau no ka pili ʻana o ka naʻau i kā lākou mau hoa moe kolohe. Hōʻike ka noiʻi i ka oxytocin a i ʻole "hormone aloha" i hoʻokuʻu ʻia i ka wā e hoʻonui ai ka moekolohepili pili ʻuhane i nā kāne.
Hoʻoemi ka Oxytocin i ke koʻikoʻi a hōʻike ʻia e hāpai i ka hilinaʻi a me ka hoʻopaʻa ʻana ma waena o nā hoa.
Me ka ʻepekema e like me kēia ke kākoʻo nei i ka hana, ʻaʻole ia he mea kupanaha no ke aha e hopena ai ka poʻe i pili loa i kā lākou hoaaloha-me-nā pono.
2. ʻOiaʻiʻo ka hoʻokolokolo
Aia nō ka nui o ka hoʻokolokolo no ka moekolohe maʻamau, keu hoʻi mai nā kaikamahine. ʻAʻole ia he mea kūpono iaʻu e hōʻino ʻia e kaʻu mau hoaaloha a haʻi ʻōlelo paha e pili ana i ka hopena o ka ʻeha. -Marissa, 24
Ua lilo ka moʻomeheu ʻo Hookup i ʻāpana nui o ke ola i kēia mau lā. ʻO ka loaʻa ʻana o kahi kūlana hoaaloha-me-nā pōmaikaʻi ka mea maʻamau i kēia manawa ma mua o ka wā ma mua. Eia nō naʻe, he nui ka poʻe, nā wahine hoʻi, ke hoʻokolokolo iā lākou iho e nā hoaaloha, ʻohana, a me nā mea pili ʻē aʻe no ka hana ʻana i kēia hana maʻamau.
Aia kekahi manawa no kēia i kapa ʻia ʻo "slut shaming", a i ʻole ka hana stigmatizing wahine no ka moekolohe.
3. Hiki i nā lula ke lilo i blurry
ʻO wau a me kaʻu FWB i manaʻo ua loaʻa iā mākou nā mea āpau i kahi ʻepekema. He papa inoa nui loa kā mākou o nā lula, akā ua holo koke ʻole nā lula.
Ua maikaʻi ka hiamoe inā he nui ʻolua i ka inu a ʻaʻole palekana ka hoʻokele home?
A he aha inā e lilo kekahi hiamoe i cuddle-sesh a me ka ʻaina kakahiaka i kahi moe? ʻO ke kumu, i ka hopena, ua uhaʻi mākou i nā lula āpau i paʻakikī i ka neʻe ʻana mai kā mākou hoʻonohonoho. -Michelle, 20
Inā ʻoe e hoʻomaka i kahi huakaʻi moekolohe maʻamau, e hoʻomanaʻo e kau i nā lula honua a pili iā lākou! E hoʻoholo ʻia kēia mau lula e nā hoa ʻelua.
ʻO kahi papa inoa o nā lula e mālama pono i kou puʻuwai e hele i kahi mea e like me kēia:
- E wehewehe i kou mau makemake. E akāka e pili ana i kāu mea e makemake ai mai loko mai o kāu pili maʻamau. Inā ʻaʻole ʻoe e ʻimi e lilo ia i mea hou aʻe, e mua e pili ana i ia.
- Mai honi. Pili loa ka honi ʻana a ua hōʻoiaʻiʻo ʻia e hoʻonāukiuki i ke kikowaena uku o ka lolo. Ma muli o kēia pilina, ʻoi aku paha ka maikaʻi o ka waiho ʻia o kāu repertoire moekolohe me kahi hoaloha maʻamau.
- E mahalo i kekahi i kekahi, i ka moekolohe a me nā mea ʻē aʻe. ʻAʻole ʻoe makemake e hōʻino ʻia i loko o ka lumi moe, a ʻaʻole makemake ʻoe i kāu hoa moekolohe e kīloi i ka lepo iā ʻoe inā ʻaʻole ʻoe ʻoluʻolu i ka ʻike ʻana o kekahi poʻe i kāu ʻoihana pilikino.
- E kamaʻilio e pili ana i ke aloha. He aha ka hana inā hāʻule ʻoe i ka "like" me kekahi?
- He mea hūnā kāu pilina? ʻOi aku ka maikaʻi e kūkākūkā i kāu makemake pilikino i mua.
- Kūkākūkā pehea ʻoe e hoʻopau ai i nā mea. E hana ʻia ia ma ka hopena!
4. Loaʻa iaʻu kahi STD
Ua hele mai nei wau mai kahi pilina ʻehā makahiki me kahi ipo wahine kahiko i ka wā i loaʻa iaʻu kaʻu hookup pili mua ʻole. Ua manaʻo wau e kōkua ia iaʻu e hōʻoluʻolu. Ma kahi, loaʻa iaʻu ka gonorrhea.
Ua hoʻomākeʻaka kaʻu ex-ʻōlelo ʻo kaʻu hoʻopaʻi ia no ka hiamoe ʻana me kekahi ma hope koke o ka haki ʻana. ʻAe, ua omo. -Jake, 25
Hōʻike nā kikowaena no ka mālama ʻana i nā maʻi a me nā Kāohi e piʻi ana nā STD. Aia he 1.7 miliona mau hihia o chlamydia mai 2013 a 2017, kahi piʻi 22%. Ua piʻi aʻe nā hanana ʻo Gonorrhea e 67% a me syphilis e 76%.
Inā ʻoe e launa maʻamau me kekahi, e hoʻomanaʻo e palekana. E hoʻāʻo pinepine a hoʻohana i ka pale kūpono i kēlā me kēia hālāwai kolohe.
5. ʻAʻole maikaʻi wale ia
I ke koleke, ua paʻa koʻu manaʻo e ʻimi i kahi 'kūlana' a eia ka mea aʻu i aʻo ai mai nā hoa ʻehā aʻu i noho pū ai. ʻO ka moekolohe maʻamau no nā kaikamahine kahi hoʻomākeʻaka nui o ka honua. ʻAʻole wau i pau i hoʻokahi manawa. - Lora, 22
Kūleʻa paha kahi kū hoʻokahi pō, akā ʻaʻole ia he manaʻo e māʻona - ʻoi loa inā he wahine ʻoe.
Hōʻike nā noiʻi e ʻoi aku paha ka makemake o nā wahine me ka hoa aloha ma mua o ka hālāwai hookup. ʻAʻole kēia kahi helu helu maikaʻi loa no nā wahine e ʻimi nei e loaʻa ka ʻoluʻolu i ka hālāwai moekolohe maʻamau.
6. ʻO ke kakahiaka ma hope o ka omo ʻana
Maikaʻi loa ka moe kolohe iaʻu, a kakahiaka. ʻIke wau ma ke ʻano he kāne makemake wau e ʻoluʻolu me ke aloha āpau iā lākou a laila haʻalele iā lākou, akā ʻaʻole wau.
E wela ka moekolohe a laila i ke kakahiaka, ʻaneʻane wau e maʻi i ka mea i hana ʻia. Lawe wau i ka mea 'āhewa' āpau ma ke 'ano he hōʻailona no ka mea ʻaʻole noʻu nā hookup. - Adamu, 30
ʻAʻole hiki i nā kānaka āpau ke lawe i ka manaʻo mai ka moekolohe.
Ma hope o nā mea āpau, ʻo ka moekolohe kekahi o nā mea pili loa hiki iā ʻoe ke hana me kekahi. ʻO ka moekolohe maʻamau kahi pāʻani paʻakikī. Hiki iā ia ke waiho iā ʻoe me nā manaʻo aloha ʻole, e hōʻino iā ʻoe, a i ʻole manaʻo e like me kahi moʻo o ka haʻihaʻi ma hope o kekahi.
Inā ʻo ʻoe kekahi e pili maʻalahi a i mākaukau ʻole no ka hoʻihoʻi hope mai nā hoaaloha a ʻohana ke ʻike lākou i ka mea āu i hele ai, ʻaʻole paha nā moe kolohe nāu.