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- E haʻi i nā ʻoiaʻiʻo na lākou iho
- He aha ka pākēneka o ka male āu e manaʻo ai pau i ka hemo male?
- Nā Makahiki Makahiki
- He aha kekahi o nā pilikia kūʻē i nā ʻohana ʻohana e kū ai?
- He aha kāu e kāhea aku ai i kēlā me kēia?
- He mea paʻakikī ke kālaihonua
- Hōʻā ka lili i kona poʻo ʻino
- E hiki mai ana ka lā
Nui nā pilikia o nā ʻohana ʻohana akā ʻaʻole ia ʻoi aku ka nui ma mua o nā pilikia o kekahi ʻohana.
Nui nā ʻano like ʻole i ka nohona ʻohana o kēia au, ʻaʻole hiki ke hoʻonui ākea e pili ana i nā pilikia i kēlā me kēia alo ʻohana. ʻO nā ʻōlelo e like me "ʻO ka hānai ʻana i ʻohana i hui ʻia kekahi o nā hana paʻakikī loa a nā mākua e kū ai," ʻaʻole he ʻoiaʻiʻo (a ʻaʻole maoli) ʻoiaʻiʻo. Loaʻa i nā ʻohana āpau nā pilikia o nā ʻano launa ʻole, akā ʻohana i hoʻohui ʻia (a i ʻole ka makahiki kahiko a me ka hoʻololi ʻia, nā ʻohana ʻohana) i kekahi mau mea kū hoʻokahi.
E nānā i kēlā mau mea, a ʻike i ka ʻōlelo a kekahi poʻe loea.
E haʻi i nā ʻoiaʻiʻo na lākou iho
Akā ʻo ka mea mua: he aha ka pākēneka o ka male āu e manaʻo ai pau i ka hemo male? E uhaʻi i kēia i lalo a ʻike i nā pākēneka a mākou e hana pū nei.
He aha ka pākēneka o ka male āu e manaʻo ai pau i ka hemo male?
E noʻonoʻo ana paha ʻoe i ka hapalua no ka mea ʻo ia ka mea āu i lohe ai i ka bandied i ka wā i hala. Hewa! ʻO ka nui o ka male male ʻana i ka hemo male i hōʻea i kona piko ma 1980 ma kahi o 40% e like me ka ʻikepili mai ka National Survey of Family Growth. (E hāhai i ka loulou no ka ʻike hou aku ma ka pūnaewele o ke aupuni.) A o kēlā pākēneka, ehia mau ʻohana i "hui" ʻia he mau keiki na kekahi a i ʻole nā male mua ʻelua.Ma kahi o 40% o nā kāne hemo i kā lāua keiki, no laila, ʻo ka ʻole o ke keiki, hoʻonui i kou manawa kūpono no ka hemo i ka male mua.
Nā Makahiki Makahiki
ʻOiaʻiʻo, hana ia. Kūleʻa mākou āpau i nā pilikia ʻokoʻa i kā mākou mau makahiki a me nā ʻike, a me nā makahiki o kā mākou poʻe keiki.
ʻIke paha nā ʻōpio ʻōpio i nā hopena ʻokoʻa loa no kekahi o nā pilikia makua ma mua o nā mākua.
ʻAʻole maikaʻi ka waiwai o nā mākua ʻōpio e like me nā mākua, a hiki i nā mākua makua ke kīloi kālā i kahi pilikia, ʻoiai ʻaʻohe koho a nā mākua. ʻO kahi laʻana, hiki mai ke kauwela (a ʻaʻohe kula) a luhi nā keiki a hoʻopaʻapaʻa i ke kakahiaka, awakea a me ka pō. Loaʻa i nā mākua waiwai ʻoi aku ka mākaukau – kahi hoʻomoana! Pono nā mākua ʻōpio e nānā i nā koho ʻē aʻe. ʻO nā makahiki o nā keiki kekahi ʻano loli.
ʻO ka mea maʻamau, e hoʻopili nā keiki ʻōpio i kahi makua hou a me nā kaikaina hou ma mua o nā keiki nui i ke kūlana like. ʻO kēia no ka hoʻomanaʻo ʻole o nā hoʻomanaʻo o nā keiki ʻōpio i hope loa no laila ʻae lākou i nā mea āpau e hele mai.
Ke hana ʻia nā ʻohana i hui ʻia ke ulu aʻe nā keiki a ma waho o ka hale, ʻoi aku ka liʻiliʻi o nā pilikia a ʻoi aku ka liʻiliʻi o ke koʻikoʻi.
He aha kekahi o nā pilikia kūʻē i nā ʻohana ʻohana e kū ai?
Aia nō he mau ʻokoʻa ma waena o nā ʻohana mua a me nā ʻohana ʻohana, a ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi o ka hoʻomaopopo ʻana i nā ʻokoʻa ma kahi o ka kāhili ʻana iā lākou ma lalo o ke kapeta a me ka hoʻomeamea ʻana he ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi o kēia ʻohana hou ma mua o nā mea i hiki mua.
ʻO kahi laʻana, hoʻomohala nā ʻohana mua i kā lākou moʻomeheu a me kā lākou moʻomeheu. etc.
ʻO kekahi pilikia hou aʻe e kū aʻe i ka wā e noʻonoʻo ana ka poʻe e male no ka manawa ʻelua a hana i kahi ʻohana-ʻohana ka hoʻomana.
Inā mare ka poʻe o nā ʻano ʻokoʻa i ka lua o ka manawa, ʻo ka nīnau o ka hoʻomana hea (a i ʻole ʻelua) e hoʻoponopono mua ʻia i ka manawa he koʻikoʻi ka pilina. Me kahi ʻohana ʻohana, makemake paha ʻoe e kūkākūkā i kēia mau ʻokoʻa āpau a me nā pilikia ʻē aʻe ma mua o ka male maoli ʻana, no laila e maʻalahi nā hoʻololi no nā mea āpau.
He aha kāu e kāhea aku ai i kēlā me kēia?
ʻO kahi pahuhopu kahi kumu nui loa. He aha nā keiki e kapa ai i ka makua hou i ko lākou ola? Nomenclature (he aha ka mea e kapa ai nā keiki i ka makuakāne a i ʻole ka makuahine makuahine?) E ʻaelike pū ʻia.
He nui nā keiki ʻoluʻolu kūlohelohe e pili ana i ke kāhea ʻana i ka makua hou ʻo "Mommy" a i ʻole "Pāpā", a ʻo ka inoa inoa mua ʻana i ka makua hou ʻaʻole paha ia he pane maikaʻi.
Aia i ka makua e noʻonoʻo i kēia. ʻO Kelly Gates, ka makuahine kōlea i nā keiki ʻelua a me kahi o kāna ponoʻī, i hele mai me kahi inoa kūikawā: ka makuakāne bonus, a i ʻole ke kapa ʻia ʻana e nā keiki iā "Bo-dad". E like me kā Kelly i ʻōlelo ai, "Makemake nā poʻe āpau iā ia ke lohe lākou i ka inoa, a manaʻo nā keiki he mea momona ia."
He mea paʻakikī ke kālaihonua
Ke hana ʻia kahi ʻohana wāwae, hoʻomaka nā keiki e ʻike i nā wahi hou, kahi home hou, kula hou, kaona hou a i ʻole mokuʻāina ʻokoʻa. A ʻoiai e noho nā keiki i ka home like, ʻaʻole noho ka makua olaola a lākou e noho nei no ka hapanui o ka manawa ma kahi o ka puka, no laila, pono e hoʻolilo i ka manawa i ka hoʻopaʻa ʻana i nā keiki ma waena o nā home.
Inā noho kekahi makua ma kahi ʻokoʻa nui, lilo nā tikika mokulele a me nā ukali i ʻāpana a me nā ʻāpana o ke ola, a pono e noʻonoʻo ʻia nā kumukūʻai i loko o nā budget.
Pono ʻole e ʻōlelo, e makaʻala nā mākua i ka manaʻo o kā lākou mau keiki e hemo no kekahi manawa. ʻO kahi hopena kūpono inā manaʻo nā keiki ua heʻe lākou, e lawe iā lākou i kēlā mau hale kūʻai kaulahao a me nā hale ʻaina a lākou e kamaʻāina ai mai ko lākou home ma mua.
ʻO kahi huakaʻi i Target e ukali ʻia e ka ʻaina awakea a i ʻole kaʻaina awakea ma Applebee's a i ʻole The Olive Garden (a i ʻole ma kahi o kā lākou hale ʻaina punahele i ko lākou kūlanakauhale kahiko). E hele lōʻihi kēia i ke kōkua ʻana iā lākou e hoʻomaʻamaʻa i ko lākou ʻohana ʻohana a me ka ʻāina.
Hōʻā ka lili i kona poʻo ʻino
ʻO kekahi hana nui loa a ka ʻohana ʻohana āpau e ʻike ai i ka lili ma waena o nā kaikaina, akā ʻokoʻa kēia ma mua o ka lili maʻamau a nā kaikaina i loaʻa ai nā mākua like i komo. I kekahi manawa ua pili kēia lili no ka mea ʻaʻole i wehewehe piha ka makua i ka ʻohana hou. hoʻoikaika kino.
Pono ka makua makua e hōʻoia i ka loaʻa ʻana o ka manawa o ke keiki, ke aloha a me nā wehewehe e pono ai lākou e ʻike ʻo kēia ko lākou ʻohana.
E hiki mai ana ka lā
ʻAʻole paha e like me ia, akā e hiki mai ana ka lā e normalize ai nā mea; ke hele nei nā kaikaina, ʻaʻohe mea e haʻalele hou, a ʻaʻohe mea hou e like me ka piʻi ʻana i ka mauna ʻo Everest i nā kāmaʻa tennis (hiki akā ʻaʻole paha), akā ʻoi aku ka like me ka hele wāwae i ka pāka me ka puddle i kekahi manawa e lele i luna. I nā huaʻōlelo ʻē aʻe, maikaʻi a lilo i mea maʻamau maʻamau. ʻ sayslelo ka mea noiʻi aia ma waena o ʻekolu a ʻelima mau makahiki paha ma mua o ka manaʻo ʻana o nā lālā āpau o ka ʻohana i hui ʻia.