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- 1. Hoʻonāukiuki manaʻo i kāu poʻe keiki
- 2. ʻAʻole hiki iā ʻoe ke aloha nui i kāu poʻe keiki
- 3. E wehewehe i nā mea e hana mau ʻia i mea e palekana ai lākou
- 4. E hoʻopono akā e hoʻomanaʻo e wehewehe i nā mea ma ke ʻano aloha keiki
- 5. E ʻae i kāu mau keiki e hāʻawi akā hoʻokele pehea e hāʻawi ai
ʻAʻole maʻalahi ka hoʻokaʻawale a wehe paha i ka wahine no kekahi mea e pili ana. ʻO ʻoe, ʻo kāu wahine a me kāu mau keiki e ʻike ana i kā lākou mau pilikia e pili ana i kēia kūlana.
Mau mau manawa ke waiho ʻia nei nā kamaliʻi e hana me nā mea he nui aku ma mua ou, a i ʻole hoʻolimalima paha lākou. Ka mea ʻaʻole e hoʻopili wale i ka launa ʻana me hoʻokahi makua e neʻe aku ana - akā pili pū nō hoʻi i ka hana ʻana me ko lākou aloha no ke kaumaha o ko lākou mau mākua, ka makaʻu no ke olakino o ko lākou mau mākua, nā nīnau i pane ʻole ʻia a me ka lilo ʻana i kahu.
ʻOiai, ʻo kēia mau pilikia āpau, inā ʻaʻole lawelawe pono ʻia, hiki ke hoʻohuli nui i ka lolo a me ka ʻōnaehana o ke keiki i hoʻomohala ʻole ʻia a hele i loko o ka ʻeha pono ʻole a hōʻeha a hopena i ka hilinaʻi haʻahaʻa.
ʻAʻohe makua makemake e hoʻokau i kā lākou keiki i loko o kahi manawa paʻakikī, no laila i ka hihia o ka hoʻokaʻawale, eia pehea e hiki ai iā ʻoe ke kūkulu i ka hilinaʻi i kāu poʻe keiki i ka wā o ka kaʻawale.
1. Hoʻonāukiuki manaʻo i kāu poʻe keiki
Ke maikaʻi ʻole ʻoe, e hopohopo kāu keiki iā ʻoe.
I kekahi manawa maʻalahi ka ʻae ʻana i kāu keiki e hāʻawi iā ʻoe i ke aloha a me ke kākoʻo āu e ʻiʻini ai. Akā i ka hana ʻana pēlā, paʻa lākou iā ʻoe me ka naʻau ʻaʻole ka ʻano ʻē aʻe.
ʻO ka hana ʻana i kahi keiki me ka naʻau he ʻano therapeutic kokoke ia i ka hōʻeha ʻana o ka trauma a inā ʻo kēlā me kēia, nā mākua i hoʻopili ʻia, manaʻo ʻia e paʻa i ka naʻau, manaʻo lākou he palekana, palekana a hilinaʻi hoʻi i kā lākou ʻike o ka honua.
ʻAʻole ia kahi hana a ke keiki e kākoʻo iā ʻoe me ka naʻau, ʻo kāu hana ia, ma ke ʻano he makua e hoʻohauʻoli i kāu mau keiki ʻoiai ʻaʻole ʻoe e noʻonoʻo pēlā.
No ka hana pēlā, pono ʻoe e hōʻoia iā lākou, nānā i ko lākou mau manaʻo, pale i ka uē ʻana i nā keiki e pili ana i kāu mau pilikia, ʻae iā lākou e kamaʻilio me ʻoe e pili ana i ko lākou manaʻo a hōʻoia iā lākou inā ʻike lākou iā ʻoe e uē ana a e huhū nei paha.
ʻOiai ʻo nā hana hōʻailona e like me ke kūʻai ʻana a ʻohi ʻana paha i nā bea teddy no kēlā me kēia lālā o ka ʻohana (pili pū me kāu wahine) hiki ke kōkua.
E hana pēlā, e aloha kēlā me kēia lālā o ka ʻohana i nā bea e hōʻike ana i ka makua a keiki paha, a laila ke kuapo nei i kēlā me kēia lā e ʻae ke keiki e mālama iā ʻoe a me kāu wahine i ke ʻano kūpono makahiki no lākou ke loaʻa nei ke aloha i kāu aloha a mālama ma o nā pēpē teddy pū kekahi.
2. ʻAʻole hiki iā ʻoe ke aloha nui i kāu poʻe keiki
Manaʻo kekahi poʻe ʻaʻole pono lākou e hōʻike i ke aloha nui i kā lākou poʻe keiki no ka mea e hōʻino paha ia i kāu keiki a hoʻonāwaliwali paha iā lākou.
ʻO nā hōʻike olakino o ke aloha a me ke aloha (ʻaʻole pili i ke kūʻai ʻana i nā mea ma ke ʻano he expression a hāʻawi ʻana i kāu palena) i ka mea hiki ke kōkua i kāu keiki e ulu wiwo ʻole a hiki iā lākou ke hoʻokele i ka loli a lākou e ʻike nei i ko lākou ola home.
He hana kēia e kōkua i kēlā me kēia keiki e kūkulu i ka hilinaʻi inā ʻaʻohe hoʻokaʻawale i ka ʻohana.
3. E wehewehe i nā mea e hana mau ʻia i mea e palekana ai lākou
Ke loli nei kāu hana maʻamau, hiki iā ia ke hōʻoluʻolu i ke keiki no ka mea ʻaʻole lākou i ʻike i nā mea e hana nei i kēlā me kēia lā, akā ma mua o ka hoʻokaʻawale ʻana ua hoʻohana ʻia lākou i kāu ʻano maʻamau o ke ola.
Kōkua iā lākou ma ka hoʻāʻo ʻana e mālama iā lākou i kahi hana maʻamau i ka hiki a me ke kākau ʻana i kahi manawa pōkole no ka pule a me ka lā e hiki mai ana. Ke wehewehe nei i kahi e hele ai lākou, he aha kā lākou e hana nei a ʻo wai me (e laʻa me ka makua a ʻohana paha me lākou).
E kūkulu i ka hilinaʻi nui aʻe i kāu mau keiki i ka wā o ka hoʻokaʻawale ʻana ma ka hoʻohui ʻana i ka makua kāne i hele ʻole i ka papa kuhikuhi i ʻike ai ke keiki ma hea kahi makua a me nā mea a lākou e hana nei no ka mea e paʻa lākou i ka naʻau a hōʻoia iā lākou.
E hōʻoia i ka hoʻonohonoho ʻia i loko o nā home o nā mākua ʻelua i lilo ia i mea e hiki ai i ke keiki ke hilinaʻi i ka wā a lākou e hopohopo ʻole nei i loko a i ʻole e pili ana iā ʻoe a me ka hauʻoli a me ka olakino o kāu wahine.
4. E hoʻopono akā e hoʻomanaʻo e wehewehe i nā mea ma ke ʻano aloha keiki
ʻOi aku ka ʻike o nā keiki ma mua o ka hapa nui o ka poʻe e hāʻawi iā lākou i ka hōʻaiʻē, akā he mea hoʻohenehene kēia kūlana no ka mea ʻoiai ʻike lākou i ka ʻoiaʻiʻo, ʻoi aku ia ma mua o kou ʻike, akā ʻaʻohe o lākou ʻike naʻau e lawelawe i ka mea a lākou e ʻike ai ma ke ʻano like o ke kanaka makua. hana, poina pinepine nā mākua i kēia.
He mea nui e wehewehe i ka mea e hana nei i kāu mau keiki me ke kamaʻilio ʻana i ke kumu e kaumaha ai ʻoe akā e hōʻoia hoʻi iā lākou e hala ana ke kaumaha a maikaʻi ʻoe. Pēlā nō me ka wehewehe ʻana i ke kumu o kou kaʻawale ʻana.
E hōʻike iā lākou pehea e kamaʻilio ai i kā lākou hopohopo me ʻoe, a aʻo iā lākou pehea e hōʻike ai i ko lākou naʻau iā ʻoe.
ʻO kahi pakuhi maʻalahi me nā helehelena e hōʻike i nā ʻano ʻokoʻa i hiki ke hoʻopili ʻia i ka pakuhi e kōkua iā lākou e hōʻike iā ʻoe i ko lākou ʻano, a laila e wehe i ka papa no ʻoe e kūkākūkā me kēlā mau manaʻo me lākou.
E kōkua pū kēia hoʻolālā iā ʻoe e ʻike pehea e hiki pono ai i kāu poʻe keiki a e hōʻoiaʻiʻo iā ʻoe ua hoʻomau ʻoe e pili iā lākou a pale iā lākou me ka naʻau i kahi manawa kūpikipiki no ʻoukou āpau.
5. E ʻae i kāu mau keiki e hāʻawi akā hoʻokele pehea e hāʻawi ai
ʻO ke keiki i hōʻike ʻole ʻia e hōʻike i ko lākou mau mākua i ka pilikia e kaumaha lākou, ʻoiai inā ʻaʻole lākou e kaʻanalike me ʻoe. E kōkua nā mākia āpau i luna e hōʻoluʻolu i ke keiki a hōʻoluʻolu iā lākou, akā ʻo ka mea ʻē aʻe e makemake ai kahi keiki e kōkua.
E ʻae kekahi mau mākua i ka wā o ka hoʻokaʻawale a wehe paha i ke keiki e hana i ka mea hiki ke kōkua, a ʻaʻole ʻē aʻe e ʻae iā lākou e hāpai i ka manamana lima.
ʻAʻole kōkua kēia mau hoʻolālā ʻelua i ke keiki. I ka manawa mua ke kākoʻo nei lākou i ka naʻau i ko lākou mau mākua ma mua o ka hiki iā lākou ke lawelawe a i ʻole ka lawelawe ʻana a ma ka hope, e manaʻo ʻole lākou a nele i ka waiwai ʻole.
ʻAe i kāu mau keiki e hāʻawi, ma ka ʻōlelo ʻana i nā mea maʻalahi e like me, makemake ʻo mommy i kāu kōkua i kēia manawa, no laila i ke kakahiaka i kēia manawa, hiki iā ʻoe ke kōkua iaʻu e hana i kou wahi moe a mahalo paha wau iā ʻoe inā ʻoe i hana i kou wahi moe, a loaʻa iā mākou āpau kekahi o nā hana i hiki iā mākou ke hana pū e kōkua i ka mālama ʻana i ka hale me ka maikaʻi.
A laila hāʻawi ʻoe i nā keiki i nā hana kūpono makahiki (e like me ka hoʻomaʻemaʻe a holoi ʻana paha i ka pākaukau ma hope o ka ʻaina awakea), waiho i kā lākou mau mea pāʻani, a pēlā aku. A i ka wā a lākou i hana ai pēlā, e hoʻomanaʻo e ʻapo iā lākou a e hoʻomaopopo iā lākou he maikaʻi lākou. kōkua a aloha nui ʻoe iā lākou.
He ala maikaʻi loa kēia e kōkua iā lākou e loaʻa i kahi ala e hōʻike ai i ko lākou makemake e kōkua iā ʻoe akā mālama iā ia i kahi ala e hoʻolalelale ʻole ai i kou ola i kahi manawa paʻakikī.