ʻO nā ʻuniona kīwila a me nā kūloko kūloko i ʻano ʻokoʻa i ka male male no nā makahiki he 10 i hala aku nei, keu hoʻi no nā pili kāne like. Me ka hoʻoholo ʻana o ka ʻAha Hoʻokolokolo Kiʻekiʻena ʻo 2015 ma ka ʻae ʻana i ka male male ma nā mokuʻāina āpau o ʻAmelika Hui Pū ʻIa.
E like me nā kānāwai he nui, pili nā mea e pili ana i nā uniona kīwila a me nā pilina kūloko i nā mokuʻāina e ʻae a ʻae iā lākou. ʻO kahi laʻana, koi kekahi i nā kāne a me ka wahine like a ʻo kekahi e ʻae i nā kāne heterosexual kekahi. Eia kekahi, koi kekahi mau mokuʻāina (e like me Kaleponi) i nā hoa kūloko e faila i nā ʻauhau hui no nā hana mokuʻāina (me ka nānā ʻole i kā lākou ʻauhau ʻauhau pekelala).
No laila, ke hoʻoponopono ʻia nā mea āpau, he aha nā ʻokoʻa ma waena o kēia mau ʻaoʻao ʻē aʻe i ka male?
Eia kekahi mau ʻokoʻa laulā.
- ʻIke ʻia nā ʻuniona kīwila ma ke ʻano he 'palapala inoa' a i ʻole 'kūloko' kūkaʻi, ʻoiai ʻo nā pilina kūloko kahi kūlana kahi e puʻunaue ai nā hoa i kahi ola home.
- Hoʻomaopopo kū kānāwai ʻia nā uniona kīwila a ʻano like me ka male, ʻoiai ʻo ke kūloko kūloko he kūlana kū kānāwai kūlike ʻole i ka male.
- Hāʻawi ʻia nā uniona kīwila he nui nā pōmaikaʻi mokuʻāina i hāʻawi ʻia i nā kāne male, ʻoiai nā pōmaikaʻi i hāʻawi ʻia i nā kūloko kūloko ʻoi aku ka liʻiliʻi. ʻO kekahi mau pōmaikaʻi e like me: ke kākoʻo keiki, nā pono ʻauhau mokuʻāina, co-makua a me nā mea hou aʻe.
- Ua hoʻolaha ʻia nā uniona kīwila e hoʻohuli ʻia i ka male kāne male, ʻoiai ʻaʻole i loaʻa nā pilina kūloko.
- ʻIke ʻia nā uniona kīwila ma nā mokuʻāina 6, akā ʻike ʻia nā pilina kūloko ma 11.
- I ka wā e pili ana i nā pōmaikaʻi mokuʻāina, ʻo nā mea i hāʻawi mau ʻia i nā ʻuniona kīwila e pili pū me nā pono ʻauhau like, ke kākoʻo keiki a me ka wahine, nā hoʻoholo olakino, ka ʻinikua olakino, ka ʻaiʻē hui, ka hoʻoilina, a me nā kuleana o ka wahine ma ka pae mokuʻāina. Ma nā ʻaoʻao ʻē aʻe, kaʻana like me ka liʻiliʻi loa me ka male, e like me ke kuleana e hana ai i nā hoʻoholo olakino, kahi noho maʻamau, kahi keiki hānai, kahi mālama mālama ola a me nā hoʻoilina.
He mea nui e hoʻomanaʻo i nā kānāwai a me nā pono o nā uniona kīwila a me nā pilina kūloko e loli i waena o nā mokuʻāina e ʻike nei iā lākou. Inā ʻoe e noʻonoʻo e komo i kekahi o kēia mau pilina ʻē aʻe, e nānā pono me nā kānāwai kūloko a me ka mokuʻāina.