Anter
ʻAʻole maʻalahi nā pilina.
He ʻaelike ʻole ia i ʻōlelo ʻia kahi e hoʻoholo ai nā kānaka ʻelua, aloha aloha kekahi i kekahi, e noho pū no ke koena o ko lāua ola. ʻO ka pahuhopu i alo o kēlā me kēia kanaka e hoʻomaʻa me kekahi i kekahi.
ʻAʻole hiki ke pale ʻia nā ʻōlelo kuʻikahi i ka pilina.
Pono nā hoa ʻelua e hoʻoponopono iā lākou iho inā makemake lākou i kahi pilina paʻa a lōʻihi. ʻO ka nīnau e kū nei ma aneʻi pehea ka nui o ka hoʻopili ʻana a me ka mea e hoʻopili ai.
ʻĀ, e nānā i kēia mau nīnau a me nā nīnau ma lalo.
Hakaka
E ʻae mākou i kēia e loaʻa nā hakakā a me nā hoʻopaʻapaʻa ma waena o nā kānaka ʻelua ke noho pū lākou ma lalo o hoʻokahi kaupaku.
ʻIke ʻia a ʻaʻole hiki ke hōʻalo iki ʻia. ʻOiai makemake kekahi hoa e waiho i ka paio ma hope o kekahi manawa, makemake kekahi e hoʻoholo i ka hopena inā he aha. ʻO kēia mau ʻokoʻa i ka manaʻo a i ʻole ke ala e hoʻopau ai i kahi paio e hoʻohuli i ka pilina ma mua o ka manawa.
No laila, e ʻimi i kahi ala e pale aku ai.
E hoʻoholo i ka pehea e makemake ai ʻolua i kahi hakakā. ʻOiaʻiʻo, mai kauō iā ia no ka manawa lōʻihi ʻaʻole maikaʻi nā mea ma waena ou. ʻO ke kūpono, ʻaʻole pono ʻoe e lawe i kahi paio i kahi moe akā e nānā i ke ala e kūpono iā ʻolua.
Ke kaua pū ʻoe, e hāhai i ka mea āu i ʻaelike ai. ʻO kēia ala, e maikaʻi nā mea, a ʻaʻole pono ʻoe e hakakā me ka nui o nā pilikia.
Moekolohe
ʻAe, nui ka moekolohe i ka pilina. Nui nā kūlana a me nā ala e moe kolohe ai. No laila, i mea e pale ʻole ai i nā hakakā, maikaʻi ia e hoʻoliʻiliʻi i nā kūlana hōʻoluʻolu. Mai manaʻo e pili kāu hoa i kāu ʻōlelo aʻo ma kahi moe. ʻAʻole holo pono ia, a i ka hopena, e hāloʻe nā mea.
Kūkākūkā i nā kūlana ʻoluʻolu ʻolua a e launa me ia.
E hoʻomanaʻo, ʻo ka moekolohe kahi ala ʻē aʻe e hōʻike ai i kou aloha i kāu hoa. ʻAʻole ʻoe makemake e hōʻeha a hōʻoluʻolu paha i kāu hoa me ke noi ʻana iā lākou e hāhai i kāu kūlana punahele. ʻO ka loiloi mua o kāu ma mua o kou ola ʻana.
Kālā kālā
Hiki i ke kālā ke lilo i pilikia i ka pilina, manaʻoʻiʻo paha ʻaʻole paha.
Inā loaʻa i nā kāne a ʻelua, a laila pinepine ka ego o 'I am earning more than you', hele mai i ke kiʻi a hōʻino i ka launa maikaʻi. Inā hoʻokahi wale nō mea e loaʻa ana a laila 'ʻO wau ka mea ʻai' e hoʻopili i ka pilina.
Inā ʻoe e hui nei i kāu kālā, a laila, ma hea kahi e komo ai ke kālā ma waena o ʻolua.
Kūkākūkā ʻia ʻoe e hoʻoholo i ka pehea e hoʻohana ai i ke kālā.
I ka manawa he waihona panakō hui ia, e hōʻoia e hoʻohana ʻia ke kālā no kahi home. Ma mua o ka huki ʻana i ke kālā mai ka waihona panakō pū no ka leʻaleʻa pilikino, e ʻōlelo i kāu pakanā.
ʻO nā kuikahi kālā ma ka pilina kekahi ʻano e pono ʻole e mālama wale ʻia.
ʻO nā mea leʻaleʻa
E like me ka mea i ʻōlelo ʻia ma luna, ʻelua ʻolua mau kānaka ʻokoʻa i ʻae e noho pū ma lalo o hoʻokahi kaupaku no ka mea aloha nui ʻolua kekahi i kekahi.
No laila, loaʻa iā ʻoe kekahi mau mea like a me kekahi mau ʻokoʻa. ʻOiai e hana nā mea maʻamau i kāu ʻano ʻokoʻa ke hōʻino loa iā ia.
ʻO kahi mea like me nā leʻaleʻa.
Inā he kanaka waho ʻoe a ʻo kou hoa he mea nui i loko o ka hale, aia nā hakakā. ʻOiaʻiʻo, hiki iā ʻolua ke kūpaʻa e pili ana i kāu mau leʻaleʻa. Pono ʻolua e kūkā ma kēia.
E hoʻoholo i kahi hopena pule āu e hana nei i kahi hana i waho, a i hoʻokahi hopena pule e hauʻoli ana ʻoe i kahi home home. ʻO kēia ala, hauʻoli ʻolua, a maikaʻi wale nā mea ma waena o ʻolua.
Makua
He maopopo he ʻokoʻa ʻokoʻa ko ʻolua ala i ka lawelawe ʻana i nā mea.
ʻOiai ikaika paha kekahi i kahi kūlana, mālie paha nā poʻe ʻē aʻe. ʻO ka manawa pinepine he mau ʻano ʻokoʻa nā mākua a pau a hoʻopaʻapaʻa ma ke ala ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi.
Inā mākou e nānā pono, pili kēia i ke keiki a hopena ʻoe i makua ʻino.
I mea e hōʻalo ai i nā hanana kūpilikiʻi, e hoʻoholo i ka mea e lawe i ke kūlana a i ka manawa hea. E like me 'Good Cop Bad Cop'. Inā koʻikoʻi kekahi, pono e palupalu kekahi i nā keiki. ʻOi aku ka maikaʻi ʻole o nā mea āpau i ka hānai ʻana a ke keiki.
Manawa
He kanaka kakahiaka ʻoe a i ʻole pueo pō?
Loaʻa i kāu pakanā kahi ʻano like me kāu? ʻAʻole paha ʻoe e loaʻa i kahi kanaka me kahi ʻano like o ka manawa. Kūpono kekahi i kekahi manawa akā lethargic kekahi. Manaʻo kekahi e ala i ka wanaʻao akā makemake kekahi i ka hiamoe ʻana i ka pō.
Ke hui pū ka poʻe o nā koho keu loa, a laila pono lākou e hana i kekahi mea i loko o kahi pilina. Inā ʻaʻole, a laila he hana paʻakikī ka noho pū ʻana. E mahalo i nā koho a kekahi. ʻO kēia ka pili o ka pilina. No laila, kūkā a hele mai i kahi ʻaelike kahi kahi win-win kūlana.