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Ehia kanaka maoli Maopopo iā ʻoe?
He paʻakikī e ʻōlelo, ʻeā? Nui ka hapanui o mākou e kau i nā alo a i ʻole nā mua no ka maka o ka lehulehu. ʻOiai i loko o kekahi o kā mākou pili pili ʻohana a aloha hoʻi, aia mākou ma ka ʻaoʻao o ka nani wahaheʻe i kūʻē i nā ʻoiaʻiʻo maikaʻi ʻole.
Ke wehe nei i kā mākou ʻano maoli i kekahi kanaka ʻē aʻe hiki ke lilo i kekahi o nā mea hoʻoweliweli loa e hiki iā mākou ke hana. E mākaukau wau e pili i ka koho a nā poʻe he nui e hana e pili ana i nā mea āpau ma mua o ka hōʻike ʻana i kekahi kanaka i ka mana maoli maoli o lākou iho.
E hakakā iā Mike Tyson a hōʻike i kāu wahine i ka ʻoiaʻiʻo ʻo ʻoe? Maopopo iā ʻoe e koho kekahi mau kāne i ka lele ʻana i ke apo me Iron Mike ma ke kūʻē i ke kamaʻilio hāmama a me ka ʻoiaʻiʻo ʻo ia ka koho ʻē aʻe.
Lele ʻo Bungee mai ka Golden Gate Bridge a haʻi paha i kāu kāne i kāu huna hohonu hohonu loa? Me ka hemahema ʻole, e ʻike ʻia kekahi mau lede e nānā ma ka lihi o ka palena ʻāina ʻo Kapalakiko me ka makaʻu ʻole ma ka hoʻohālikelike ʻana.
ʻO ka male ka pilina koʻikoʻi e hiki iā mākou ke ʻike me kekahi kanaka ʻē aʻe, akā hōʻoki kekahi o mākou i ka hoʻokuʻu maoli ʻana i kā mākou mau hoa i kā mākou honua.
Inā ʻaʻole hiki iā ʻoe ke wehe i kāu hoa hele a pau, no laila ʻo wai ʻoe e wehe ai? He mea nui ia e hoʻoneʻe i ka hana i ka pilina naʻau me kāu hoa. ʻO ka ʻike i kekahi i kekahi ma kahi pae hohonu e pōmaikaʻi ai i kāu pilina āpau a e hoʻonui i ke aloha a me ka mahalo i ke kanaka āu i koho ai e hoʻolilo i kou ola.
ʻO ka hana maʻalahi ʻana i ka pilina o ka naʻau i loko o kāu male he hana maʻalahi ia, akā ʻaʻole maʻalahi ia. E lawe ia i kahi nerve e hōʻike iā ʻoe iho i kahi ʻano maoli, akā ʻo ka waiwai e loaʻa i kou pilina mai kēlā mau manawa pili e ʻoi aku i kēlā manaʻo luhi āu e ʻike nei.
E nawaliwali
He pilikia ko nā kāne a me nā wahine me ka palupalu, akā ma ke ʻano he kāne, e ʻōlelo wau ua kihi mākou i ka mākeke.
Ua ulu mākou me nā leka kūlike e like me "Tough it" a i ʻole "Suck it" i haʻi mai iā mākou e ʻokiʻoki i nā manaʻo e ʻike ʻia nāwaliwali. ʻAʻohe uē. ʻAʻohe namunamu. ʻAʻohe ʻōhumu. I hoʻokahi manawa, ʻoiai e pāʻani ana i ka kinipōpō hīnaʻi kula kiʻekiʻe, ua hoʻokuʻi ka ipu wai iaʻu i nā iwi ʻaoʻao me ka kinipōpō hīnaʻi. Lohe wau i kekahi o kaʻu mau kaʻi kahea e, "Mai ʻānai iā ia!" Ma ka maʻalahi, ua hoʻomaʻamaʻa a ʻike haʻahaʻa mākou e hōʻike i kahi kūwaho paʻakikī e kūlou ʻole a haki paha i nā kūlana i mua o mākou.
Hiki ke pilikia kēia i ka male. E loaʻa i kēlā me kēia male ka manawa paʻakikī. ʻAʻohe mea e loaʻa i kahi pass manuahi. E noʻonoʻo e pili ana: e hālāwai wale kekahi kanaka me nā hanana maikaʻi ʻole a me nā hanana i ko lākou ola ʻana. e noʻonoʻo i ka mea e hana ana ke hui pū kekahi mau mea ʻelua a lilo pū i ko lāua ola. Inā ʻaʻole hiki i kahi kāne ke hoʻokuʻu i kāna kiaʻi a kamaʻilio i kona mau manaʻo maoli e pili ana i nā hanana i loaʻa iā ia, no ka ʻano o ka mālama ʻana i kā lākou hoa, ʻaʻohe o lākou manaʻolana no ka loaʻa ʻana o ke kōkua. Hana ia i kahi male i kahi huakaʻi lōʻihi a mehameha no nā ʻaoʻao ʻelua.
ʻAʻole i hoʻomake nui ʻia nā kāne i kēia hemahema o ka palupalu. Hiki i nā wahine ke pani like. He ala ka paʻakikī o ke ola i kou mau manaʻo, a mai pakele nā wahine i kēia ʻoiaʻiʻo. Ua hana hewa ʻia paha lākou i nā pili i hala. Maikaʻi loa paha lākou hōʻole e waiho i kahi kokoke loa no ka mea ʻoi aku ka nui o ka ʻeha o ka ʻeha. ʻO kēia ke kumu e mālama ai i kā lākou hoa i kahi mamao, hāʻawi wale i nā ʻike o nā mea e ola ai lākou a i ʻole nā mea ʻehaʻeha loa iā lākou.
He mea ʻole kāu moekolohe, pono ʻoe e makaʻala i nā paia āu e kūkulu ai a puni ʻoe. Inā ʻoe e male i kekahi, a aloha iā lākou me nā mea āpau āu e loaʻa ai, pono e lawe i lalo i kēlā mau paia. Pono ʻolua e ʻae i kekahi i kekahi, no ka mea, ʻo ʻolua ke kākoʻo nui o kekahi i kekahi no ko koena o ko ʻolua ola. ʻO ke kūlike me ka mana maoli o kāu hoa ʻo ia ke ala maikaʻi loa e kākoʻo i ko lākou mau pono a kōkua i ke kaua i kā lākou makaʻu.
Kahi palekana
He paʻakikī ka palupalu, akā ʻo ka hana ʻana ia ma kahi ākea e maʻalahi ai ka maʻalahi. ʻO ia ke kumu e koho ai ka poʻe he nui e ʻimi i ke kōkua o kahi kākāʻōlelo a mea hoʻoponopono paha i nā manawa pilikia. ʻIke lākou i kēlā, me ka nānā ʻole i kekahi ʻike a i ʻole ʻōlelo aʻoaʻo i hāʻawi ʻia, he wahi palekana ia e kaʻana like ai i ko lākou manaʻo maoli.
Ke hoʻāʻo nei e hoʻokomo i kāu male me ka palupalu a me ka hāmama, e hoʻomaka me ka hana ʻana i kahi e palekana ai e kaʻana like. Noho pū me kāu wahine a haʻi iā lākou i nā mea a lākou e kaʻana like ai ʻaʻole e hoʻokō ʻia me ka hoʻokolokolo a ʻo ka ʻaoʻao ʻē aʻe.Kēia kamaʻilio kamaʻilio mua o ka maluhia a me ka nonjudgmental makahiki o ke kamaʻilio e ʻae iā ʻolua e lilo i pili i ka naʻau i loko o kekahi. Ke hoʻokumu nei i kēia ke kumu i nā kamaʻilio hohonu a ʻoi aku ka manaʻo i ka hala ʻana o nā makahiki.
E hoʻomaka me nā kumuhana maʻalahi
Ke hoʻokumu ʻia kahi wahi palekana o ke kamaʻilio ʻana a hiki iā ʻoe ke manaʻo iā ʻoe iho he palupalu, hiki iā ʻoe a me kāu hoa ke manaʻo e wehe i nā kahawai a e ninini i kou mau manaʻo āpau. maikaʻi a maikaʻi ʻole paha. Lawe mālie. E hoʻomaka me nā kumuhana e like me kou mau kuko a me nā mea e ola ai ʻoe. Mai lele pololei i nā mea huna hohonu a pouli hoʻi. E hoʻohana i kēia mau kumuhana māmā ma ke ʻano he ala maikaʻi e kau ai i kou wāwae i ke kamaʻilio pili loa ʻana me kāu kāne.
A laila e nīnau i nā nīnau paʻakikī
I kēia manawa ua hoʻokumu ʻoe i ka hilinaʻi a me ka palekana e pono ai e hāmama maoli me kekahi, e hoʻomaka i ka nīnau ʻana i nā nīnau āu e makaʻu mau nei e hoʻopuka. Mai hana me he mea lā he reporter noiʻi ʻoe, e hoʻāʻo nei e hoʻihoʻi i kāu wahine i kahi kihi me kāu laina nīnau. Hoʻopau loa i ke kumu o kēia mau kamaʻilio hohonu.
Inā he hūnā ʻohana hohonu, e nīnau iā lākou e pili ana i ia ma ke ʻano tactful. Inā aia kahi ʻāpana o kā lākou hala i ʻike ʻole ʻia e kamaʻilio e pili ana, e hoʻomaopopo iā lākou makemake ʻoe e lohe e pili ana inā wehe lākou e kūkā kamaʻilio.
Mai hōʻino a hoʻokino paha iā lākou, e haʻi wale iā lākou he mea āu e hoihoi ai. I ka hopena, ʻoiai e ʻili ʻelua i nā papa o kāu iho maoli, e kaʻana like lākou me ʻoe i kā lākou makemake.
He paʻakikī ka pilina o ka naʻau i loko o kahi honua kahi nui o mākou e makemake ʻole e ʻae i nā poʻe ʻē aʻe.
E hoʻokuʻu i kou mau paia. E wehe iā ʻoe iho. E hoʻokomo i kāu pakanā. ʻO ke ala maikaʻi loa ia e aloha ai aloha ʻia ai.