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- 1. NĀ MEA: Hoʻopiha kuʻu hoa iaʻu! ʻO lākou kaʻu ʻāpana ʻē aʻe!
- REALITY: He kanaka holoʻokoʻa wau ma oʻu iho
- 2. NĀ MEA: ʻO wau ke kikowaena o ka honua o kaʻu hoa
- REALITY: He piha māua me kaʻu hoa, e hoʻokō ana i nā ola o kā māua ponoʻī
- 3. NĀ MEA: Pono e maʻalahi ka pilina olakino i nā manawa āpau
- ʻOIʻI: He piʻi a me lalo nā ola, akā hiki i kaʻu me kaʻu hoa ke pale aku iā lākou
- 4. NĀ MEA: Inā aloha kaʻu hoa iaʻu e loli lākou
- REALITY: Aloha au i kaʻu hoapili no ka mea a lākou e lilo nei
Noho mākou i kahi kaiāulu e kau i ka nānā nui i ka loaʻa ʻana o ka pilina aloha "kūpono". Mai nā kiʻi ʻoniʻoni i ke kīwī i nā huaʻōlelo o nā mele, pāpā ʻia mākou e nā leka e pili ana i ke ʻano o ke aloha, ka mea a mākou e manaʻo ai mai kā mākou mau hoa, a me ke ʻano inā ʻaʻole e hoʻokō kā mākou pilina i kēlā mau mea i manaʻo ʻia.
Akā ʻo ka mea i pili i ka pilina ʻike ʻo ia ka mea maoli ke nānā ʻokoʻa loa i kēlā mau moʻolelo aloha maikaʻi a mākou e ʻike a lohe nei a puni mākou. Hiki iā ia ke waiho iā mākou e haʻohaʻo ana he aha ko mākou kuleana e manaʻo ai a inā maikaʻi a olakino paha kā mākou pilina. A he mea nui e ʻike e pili ana i nā mea i manaʻo ʻia a me ka ʻoiaʻiʻo i ka pilina inā makemake mākou e kūkulu i ke olakino, e hoʻokō ana i nā pilina aloha.
E heluhelu e aʻo hou aʻe e pili ana i kekahi o nā mea i manaʻo nui ʻia a ʻoiaʻiʻo hoʻi i nā manaʻo kuhihewa i ka pilina a no ke aha he mea nui e hoʻopau iā lākou.
1. NĀ MEA: Hoʻopiha kuʻu hoa iaʻu! ʻO lākou kaʻu ʻāpana ʻē aʻe!
I kēia manaolana, ke hui hope loa mākou me "ka mea hoʻokahi," e piha mākou, piha, a hauʻoli hoʻi. E hoʻopiha kēia hoa kūpono i nā ʻāpana āpau o kā mākou nalo a hana no kā mākou hemahema, a e hana like mākou iā lākou.
REALITY: He kanaka holoʻokoʻa wau ma oʻu iho
Kuhi cliche ia, akā ʻaʻole hiki iā ʻoe ke ʻike i ke kanaka kūpono e aloha inā ʻaʻole ʻoe a puni ʻoe. ʻAʻole ia he manaʻo ʻaʻohe āu pilikia a hana paha e hana iā ʻoe iho, akā e nānā ʻoe iā ʻoe iho e hālāwai me kāu mau mea nui e pono ai.
ʻAʻole ʻoe e hilinaʻi i kekahi kanaka ʻē aʻe e hōʻoia iā ʻoe a kūpono - hiki iā ʻoe ke ʻike i kēia ʻano i loko ou a i ke ola āu i kūkulu ai nāu iho.
2. NĀ MEA: ʻO wau ke kikowaena o ka honua o kaʻu hoa
ʻO kēia ka paheʻe o ka manaʻo "hoʻopau lākou iaʻu". I kēia mea i manaʻo ʻia, hoʻololi kāu hoa i ko lākou ola āpau e nānā i kā lākou nānā a pau a me nā kumuwaiwai iā ʻoe.
ʻAʻole pono lākou i nā hoa aloha i waho, nā makemake o waho, a i ʻole ka manawa iā lākou iho - a i ka liʻiliʻi loa, pono lākou i kēia mau mea i nā helu palena wale nō.
REALITY: He piha māua me kaʻu hoa, e hoʻokō ana i nā ola o kā māua ponoʻī
He ola kou i kēlā me kēia ma mua o kou hui ʻana, a pono ʻoe e hoʻomau i kēlā mau ola ʻoiai ʻoe e hui pū nei. ʻAʻole pono kekahi o ʻoukou i ka poʻe ʻē aʻe e piha. Akā, ua hui pū ʻoe no ka mea hoʻomaikaʻi ka pilina i ka maikaʻi o kou ola.
ʻO kahi hoa e manaʻo nei iā ʻoe e waiho i nā hoihoi āpau a me nā hoa aloha e nānā iā lākou he hoa makemake i ka mana, a ʻaʻole kēia he mea olakino a aloha ʻole paha.
Ma kahi pilina olakino, kākoʻo nā hoa i nā makemake o waho a me nā hoa aloha o kēlā me kēia me ke kūkulu pū ʻana i kahi ola.
3. NĀ MEA: Pono e maʻalahi ka pilina olakino i nā manawa āpau
Hiki ke hōʻuluʻulu ʻia kēia me "ke naʻi aupuni i nā mea āpau." I kēia manaʻo, maʻalahi ka pilina "kūpono" i nā manawa a pau, ʻaʻohe paio, a ʻoluʻolu hoʻi. ʻAʻole ʻoe a me kāu hoa e kūlike ʻole a kūkā a kūkā paha.
ʻOIʻI: He piʻi a me lalo nā ola, akā hiki i kaʻu me kaʻu hoa ke pale aku iā lākou
ʻAʻohe mea i ke ola maʻalahi i nā manawa āpau, a he ʻoiaʻiʻo loa kēia o nā pilina. ʻO ka hilinaʻi ʻana i kou pilina e make i ka hōʻailona mua o ka pilikia a i ʻole nā pilikia kūʻē iā ʻoe e hoʻopau ana i kahi pilina e maikaʻi iā ʻoe. ʻOiai he hae ʻulaʻula ka hana ʻino a me ka hakakā nui, ʻo ka ʻoiaʻiʻo i kēlā me kēia pilina e loaʻa nā kūlike ʻole, nā hakakā, a me nā manawa ke kūleʻa a kūkā paha ʻoe.
ʻAʻole ia ke alo o ka hakakā akā ke ala e mālama ai ʻoe a me kāu hoa e hoʻoholo ai i ke olakino o kāu pilina.
Ke aʻo nei i ke kūkākūkā ʻana, e hoʻohana ana i nā mākau hoʻonā hoʻonā maikaʻi, a me ka hoʻoliʻiliʻi he kī i ka hoʻokumu ʻana i kahi pilina olakino, lōʻihi.
4. NĀ MEA: Inā aloha kaʻu hoa iaʻu e loli lākou
Mālama kēia mea i hiki iā mākou ke paipai i kekahi mea a mākou e aloha ai e hoʻololi i nā ʻano kikoʻī a me ko lākou makemake e hana pēlā e hōʻike nei i ka ikaika o ko lākou aloha.
I kekahi manawa hele mai kēia i ke ʻano o ke koho ʻana i kahi hoa a mākou e nānā ai ma ke ʻano he "papahana" - kekahi e manaʻoʻiʻo a hana paha i nā mea a mākou e ʻike nei he pilikia, akā ʻo ka mea a mākou e manaʻoʻiʻo nei hiki iā mākou ke hoʻololi i kahi mana "ʻoi aku". Aia kekahi mau hiʻohiʻona o kēia moʻomeheu pop āpau, a paipai nui ʻia nā wahine e koho i nā kāne i hiki iā lākou ke "hoʻoponopono" a i ʻole hoʻohālikelike ʻia i loko o ka hoa kūpono.
REALITY: Aloha au i kaʻu hoapili no ka mea a lākou e lilo nei
E loli ka poʻe i ka hala ʻana o ka manawa, maopopo nō kēlā. A he mea nui e kākoʻo i kā mākou poʻe hoa i ka hana ʻana i nā loli i ke ola e ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi iā lākou iho a hoʻoikaika i kā mākou pilina.
Akā inā ʻaʻole hiki iā ʻoe ke aloha i kāu hoapili ʻoiai aia lākou i loko o kahi manawa i hāʻawi ʻia, a ma kahi o ka manaʻo ʻo ke aloha nui iā lākou e hoʻohuli iā lākou, aia ʻoe i loko o kahi hoka.
ʻO kaʻae ʻana i kāu hoapili ʻo wai lākou kahi mea nui o ke kūkulu ʻana i kahi olakino.
Ke kali nei i kahi hoa e loli ma ke ʻano he "hōʻoia" o ke aloha - a i ʻole, i ka ʻaoʻao ʻē, e manaʻo nei ʻaʻole e ulu a loli paha - kahi hōʻino i kāu hoa, kou pilina, a me ʻoe iho.