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- Hoʻopaʻa pinepine ʻia mākou ma waena o ka mea maoli, a me nā mea a mākou e makemake ai
- He aha ka manaʻo o ka hoaaloha ma mua o ka pili aloha
- ʻO nā hoa aloha, a laila nā ipo
- Hiki iā ʻoe ke launa me nā poʻe ʻē aʻe
- Ke kūkulu nei i kahi pilina ma mua o ka pilina
- Ke laina lalo
- Nā mea hou na Dr. LaWanda N. Evans
“E hoa aloha kākou!” Ua lohe mua mākou āpau.
E noʻonoʻo i hope, hoʻomanaʻo ʻoe i ka lohe pinepine ʻana i kēia mau ʻōlelo a ʻike ʻole i ka mea e hana ai a huhū, huhū, a hele i kahi manawa paʻakikī e ʻae iā ia?
Makemake lākou e lilo i kou hoa aloha, akā no kekahi kumu, wili ʻoe a huli a hana i nā mea āpau e hiki ai ke hoʻāʻo iā lākou ʻaʻole he hoaaloha kāu makemake. Ua makemake ʻoe i kahi pilina. E lawe i ka naʻau no ka mea ʻaʻole ia he hihia hou o ke aloha i hana ʻole ʻia.
Ke hoʻomohala nei ʻo ka launa aloha ma mua o ka pili he mea maikaʻi ia no ʻolua.
Hoʻopaʻa pinepine ʻia mākou ma waena o ka mea maoli, a me nā mea a mākou e makemake ai
Ma hope o ka hoʻāʻo ʻana e hoʻohuli iā lākou, ua hoʻoholo paha ʻoe ua hiki i ka manawa e hāʻawi ai a hele aku. Akā lōʻihi kou manawa e hoʻokuʻu.
Nui nā poʻe i hala i kēia. Makemake nā poʻe he nui e noho me kahi mea makemake ʻole i kahi pilinaa makemake wale e lilo i mau hoaaloha a i ʻole lilo wale mau hoa aloha ma mua o ka pilina.
No laila ke mālama nei i kahi aloha ma mua o ka maikaʻi a maikaʻi ʻole paha. E ʻike kākou.
He aha ka manaʻo o ka hoaaloha ma mua o ka pili aloha
ʻO ka launa aloha ka mea mua āu e pono ai a koʻikoʻi loa i ka wā e ulu ai ka pilina. Hāʻawi ka hoa aloha iā ʻoe i ka manawa kūpono e ʻike ai i ke kanaka no lākou iho a hāʻawi iā ʻoe i ka manawa kūpono e aʻo i nā mea e pili ana iā lākou inā ʻaʻole ʻoe e aʻo ʻē aʻe.
Ke lele ʻoe i loko o kahi pilina me ka ʻole o ka hoaaloha mua, hiki ke ʻano o nā pilikia a me nā pilikia. Hoʻomaka ʻoe e kali i kahi mea hou aʻe mai ke kanaka a hoʻonohonoho i kekahi manawa i nā mea kūpono ʻole.
Ma ke kau ʻana aloha ma mua o ka pilina, hiki iā ʻoe ke hoʻoholo maʻalahi inā ʻo ia ka mea kūpono loa a hiki i kēia lā ʻoiai ʻaʻole e loaʻa kahi hoʻokamani a me nā wahi ākea e kamaʻilio e pili ana i nā mea nui.
ʻO nā hoa aloha, a laila nā ipo
No ke aha e hoʻokau nui ai i kekahi ma muli o kāu mau manaʻo ponoʻī a me kou mau makemake? Ke hoʻomohala ʻoe i kahi aloha maoli, ʻaʻohe mea i manaʻo ʻia. Hiki iā ʻolua ke ʻolua ponoʻī. Hiki iā ʻoe ke aʻo i nā mea āpau āu e makemake ai e ʻike e pili ana kekahi i kekahi. ʻAʻole pono ʻoe e hopohopo e pili ana i ka hoʻohālikelike ʻana iā ʻoe ʻaʻole kekahi.
Hiki i kāu hoa hele mua ke hoʻomaha i ka ʻike ʻana hiki iā lākou iho, a hopohopo ʻole inā ʻoe e nīnau e pili ana i kahi pilina.
Ke hoʻomohala nei i kahi pilina o ke aloha ma mua o ka pilina ma mua o ka waiho wale ʻana o ka mea maikaʻi ma mua o ʻoe a me ka ʻike ʻana ma hope ʻaʻole hiki iā ʻoe ke lilo i mau hoaaloha maikaʻi.
Hiki iā ʻoe ke launa me nā poʻe ʻē aʻe
I ka pili aloha ʻana, ʻaʻohe kaula i hoʻopili ʻia a manuahi ʻoe i ka lā a ʻike i nā poʻe ʻē aʻe inā makemake ʻoe. ʻAʻole pili ʻoe a koi ʻole iā lākou. ʻAʻole ʻoe ʻaiʻē iā lākou i nā wehewehe no kāu hoʻoholo ʻana.
Inā noi kāu hoa hele mua iā ʻoe e hoaaloha wale me lākou, e lawe i kāu kaʻi, a hāʻawi iā lākou i kēlā. Hāʻawi iā ia i ke aloha me ka manaʻo ʻole e pua i kahi pilina. ʻIke paha ʻoe i ka hoaaloha no ka mea ʻoi loa a ʻaʻole ʻoe makemake e pili i ka pilina me lākou.
ʻOi aku ka maikaʻi e ʻike i ka wā aloha ʻaʻole ʻoe e makemake i kahi pilina, ma kahi o ka ʻike ʻana ma hope, ke pili ʻoe me ka naʻau me lākou. ʻO ka hoaaloha ma mua o ka poʻe aloha e hōʻoia i ka pau ʻana o ka infatuation mua.
Hiki iā ʻoe ke ʻike i kekahi kanaka ʻē aʻe no lākou a hōʻike pū i kou ʻano maoli iā lākou, kahi kumu maikaʻi loa ia no ka pili lōʻihi. I kēlā me kēia hihia, he mea nui ka launa ʻana i loko o ia pilina e mālama i nā cogs.
ʻO Scarlett Johansson lāua ʻo Bill Murray i hana (Lost In Translation), ʻo Uma Thurman lāua ʻo John Travolta i hana (Pulp Fiction) a ʻo ka mea ʻoi loa o Julia Roberts lāua ʻo Dermot Mulroney i hana i ke kaila maʻamau (My Best Friend's Wedding).
ʻĀ, ua hoʻonoho lākou i ka launa aloha ma mua o ka pilina a maikaʻi kā lākou pili platonic. A hiki ke hana pēlā i ke ola maoli kekahi. Aia wale nō inā ke kūkulu ʻana i kahi pilina ma mua o ka pili ka mea mua iā ʻoe.
Ke kūkulu nei i kahi pilina ma mua o ka pilina
ʻO ka hoa aloha ma mua o ka pili aloha ʻana ʻaʻole ia he manaʻo maikaʻi ʻole no ka mea ʻaʻohe mea nui e pili ana i ka pilina. ʻO ka ʻoiaʻiʻo, piʻi pū nā manawa o ka pilina kūleʻa inā he hoa mua ʻoe.
Akā ma mua o ka hoʻokumu ʻana i kahi hoaaloha ma mua o ka pilina koʻikoʻi, loaʻa paha iā ʻoe ka huikau maoli a me nā nīnau e like me 'pehea e lilo ai i mau hoaaloha ma mua o ka pili ʻana' a i ʻole 'pehea ka lōʻihi o kou lilo ʻana i mau hoaaloha ma mua o ka pili aloha.'
ʻĀ, pili ia i ke ʻano o ka kemika mua a pehea e ulu ai i ka wā e ʻike ai kekahi i kekahi. No kekahi, ka hoʻololi ʻana mai nā hoaaloha i nā ipo i loko o nā mahina ke hala he mau makahiki i kekahi.
No laila, i ka manawa aʻe e noi lākou iā ʻoe e lilo i mau hoaaloha, e noʻonoʻo e ʻōlelo maikaʻi, a e hoʻomanaʻo he manawa kūpono kēia naʻu e ʻike iā lākou me ka pili ʻole o ka naʻau. ʻAʻole ia ka hopena o ka honua e hoʻokau i ka aloha ma mua o ka pilina.
ʻOiai ʻaʻole ia ka mea āu e makemake ai a i manaʻo ai, ʻaʻohe hewa o ka hoaaloha ʻana a me ka ʻae ʻana ʻo kēia kā lākou e makemake ai. I nā manawa he nui, ʻo ke hoa aloha ke koho maikaʻi loa.
Eia nā kumu he 12 no ke ʻae ʻana e lilo i mau hoaaloha, ʻo ia ka mea maikaʻi i hiki ke loaʻa iā ʻoe, no ka mea-
1. E ʻike ʻoe i ko lākou iho maoli ʻaʻole i ka poʻe a lākou e hoʻohālike ai
2. Hiki iā ʻoe iho
3. ʻAʻole pono ʻoe e hoʻokolokolo
4. Hiki iā ʻoe ke launa a ʻike me nā poʻe ʻē aʻe inā makemake ʻoe
5. Hiki iā ʻoe ke hoʻoholo inā ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi o ka hoa aloha ma mua o ka pili ʻana me lākou
6. ʻAʻole pono ʻoe e kaomi ʻia e lilo iā ʻoe iho a i ʻole ʻē aʻe
7. ʻAʻole pono ʻoe e hoʻohuli iā lākou e makemake iā ʻoe
8. ʻAʻole pono ʻoe e hōʻoia iā lākou ʻo ʻoe ka “One”
9. ʻAʻole pono ʻoe e kamaʻilio e pili ana i ke komo ʻana i kahi pilina me lākou
10. ʻAʻole pono ʻoe e pane i kā lākou kelepona ʻana a i ʻole nā leka i kēlā me kēia manawa inā ʻaʻole hiki iā ʻoe a makemake ʻole paha
11. ʻAʻole ʻoe e koi e kamaʻilio pū me lākou i kēlā me kēia lā
12. ʻAʻole pono ʻoe e hōʻoia iā lākou he kanaka maikaʻi ʻoe
Ke laina lalo
Ke waiho nei i ka launa aloha ma mua o ka pilina e hāʻawi iā ʻoe i ka manawa kūpono e kūʻokoʻa, manuahi e lilo iā ʻoe, a kūʻokoʻa e koho e pili i kahi pilina me ia a ʻaʻole paha.
Heluhelu hou: Ke male ʻia nei ka hauʻoli i kāu hoa aloha
Lana ka manaʻo, ma hope o ka heluhelu ʻana i kēia, e ʻike ʻoe ʻaʻole he ʻōlelo maikaʻi ʻole ʻo "Let's Be Friends", ma hope o nā mea āpau.
ʻO Kauka LaWanda N. Evans 
VERIFIED EXPERT He la Counselor ʻoihana laikini ʻo LaWanda a ʻo ka mea nona ka LNE Unlimited. Nānā ʻo ia i ka hoʻololi ʻana i ke ola o nā wahine ma o ka ʻōlelo aʻoaʻo, aʻoaʻo a me ka ʻōlelo ʻana. He loea ʻo ia i ke kōkua ʻana i nā wahine e lanakila i nā ʻano pilina maikaʻi ʻole a hāʻawi iā lākou i nā hopena no ia. He ʻōlelo aʻoaʻo aʻoaʻo kūikawā a me ka kaila aʻoaʻo ʻo Evans i ʻike ʻia no ke kōkua ʻana i kāna mea kūʻai aku e kiʻi i ke aʻa o ko lākou pilikia.
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