Anter
- 1. Kahaha, huhū, a me ke kaumaha
- 2. Hoʻonui i ka kānalua a me ka palekana ʻole
- 3. Ke hoʻopau ʻana o ka pilina
- 1. Loaʻa ke hoʻi
- 2. E kamaʻilio ākea
- 3. ʻAʻohe mea huna hou
- 4. E kūpaʻa i kāu ʻōlelo
ʻO ke aloha, ka hilinaʻi, a me ke kūpaʻa i ʻōlelo ʻia ke kumu no ka ulu pono o kekahi pilina. ʻO ka hilinaʻi ka hilinaʻi piha i kāu hoa e aloha ai, e kākoʻo a kūpaʻa iā mākou.
Mai hele pū ka hilinaʻi a me ka kumakaia no ka mea palupalu loa ka hilinaʻi a makemake e haki i kahi manawa hoʻokaʻawale a hala nā makahiki a me mau makahiki paha e kūkulu hou ai ke kanaka.
ʻO ka infidelity kekahi ʻano nui o ka hana hewa ʻana i ka hilinaʻi o kekahi i ka pilina.
Loaʻa i kahi hihia i nā hopena weliweli ma ka pilina o kekahi a me kā lākou hoa i ʻike maʻalahi ʻole e hele ma hope o ia a lōʻihi paha ka manawa e hoʻōla ai i ka pohō. ʻO nā kāne e haki i ka hilinaʻi i kā lākou pili ka mea maʻamau e ʻimi nei i ka ʻōlelo aʻoaʻo a i ʻole e hele no ka hemo male.
ʻO ka papa inoa ma lalo nā hopena o ka kumakaia a me nā ala e hoʻoponopono ai i ka poino i lawe ʻia ma muli o ia.
1. Kahaha, huhū, a me ke kaumaha
ʻO ka hopena o ka naʻau kekahi o nā hopena koke i ka mea kumakaia. Loaʻa paha iā lākou kekahi mau manaʻo e like me ke kaumaha nui, haʻalulu, kaumaha a ʻo ka mea nui loa, huhū.
ʻOi aku ka hopena o ka kumakaia i ka manawa a ka mea kumakaia i hilinaʻi nui ai i kā lākou hoa hoʻopunipuni.
ʻO ka ʻeha o ke kumakaia ka mea pinepine e hana, a ʻimi nā kānaka i ka lāʻau e hōʻalo ai i ka hāʻule ʻana i ke kaumaha mau a me ka hopohopo.
2. Hoʻonui i ka kānalua a me ka palekana ʻole
ʻO ka manaʻo pilikino hōʻino kekahi o nā hopena maʻamau o ka kumakaia. Kuhi koke ka mea ʻole i hoʻopiha ʻole, hoʻopiʻi ʻole a haʻalele i ka haʻohaʻo no ke aha i koho ai kā lāua hoa i kekahi mea ʻē aʻe.
E lilo paha kekahi i mea kānalua a lilo i paranoid i nā manawa āpau, e noʻonoʻo ana inā e hoʻopunipuni a wahaheʻe paha kā lākou hoa. E huli paha lākou e nānā i ka neʻe ʻana o kā lākou hoa, ke nānā ʻana i kā lākou kelepona, nā kāleka kāleka hōʻaiʻē, a me nā mea ʻē aʻe e like me ke ala e loaʻa ai ka hōʻike e pili ana i ka hana kumakaia i hana ʻia.
3. Ke hoʻopau ʻana o ka pilina
ʻOiai ke kala nei kekahi poʻe i kā lākou mau hoa no ka pono o ko lākou ʻohana a pilina paha a hāʻawi i kā lākou male i kahi manawa hou, ʻaʻole hiki i kekahi poʻe ke hana i loko o ka hana lōʻihi a me ka hana nui o ke kala ʻana a me ka laʻa.
ʻO ka hapa nui o nā pilina ʻaʻole ola i kahi hihia a hoʻopau i ka hemo a i ʻole ka hoʻokaʻawale wale nō no ka mea ua lilo ka hiki i ka hoa kumakaia i ka hiki ke hilinaʻi i nā huaʻōlelo a me nā hana a haʻi.
Hoʻoponopono a kūkulu hou i ka hilinaʻi
1. Loaʻa ke hoʻi
Ke hōʻoia nei i kāu kuhihewa a me ka hāʻawi ʻana i kahi kala kala i kāu hoa ʻo ia ka hana mua e loaʻa hou ai ka hilinaʻi nalowale.
E maopopo he hopena nō kāu mau hana a hāʻawi i kāu hoa me ka manawa a me kahi lumi e pono ai lākou e hilinaʻi hou iā ʻoe ma hope. E hoʻokau hou i ka hilinaʻi o kāu hoa i kāu mea nui, a e akahele ʻoe i kāu hana, ʻōlelo, a me kāu ʻike i kāu hoa.
2. E kamaʻilio ākea
E hōʻoia i ke kamaʻilio pono ʻana o ʻolua, he alo a he alo a ma ke kino kekahi.
E ʻike pono i kāu mau helu ʻelua i nā kumuhana koʻikoʻi a kamaʻilio e pili ana iā lākou ma kahi o ka ʻae ʻana i ke kuhi hewa hou ʻana e kūkulu.
Eia kekahi, e lilo i mea maoli a palupalu hoʻi i kāu hoa. E kaʻana like i kou mau manaʻo āpau a ola i kāu ʻoiaʻiʻo e hōʻoia i ka ʻoluʻolu o kāu hoa e noho i kā lākou.
3. ʻAʻohe mea huna hou
ʻAʻole pono i nā pānaʻi e hūnā i kekahi i kekahi, a ma kahi o, e hūnā lākou i kekahi i kekahi. ʻO kēia ke ʻano o ka pololei o kekahi o kekahi i kekahi akā e ʻike pono e noho mau kā lākou kamaʻilio pilikino ʻana ma loko o nā wahi o ko lākou mau home.
Kākoʻo pū kekahi i kekahi i kekahi i nā manawa āpau. ʻO ka ʻike ma laila kekahi no mākou a loaʻa, a i ʻole hoʻi i hope kahi ala maikaʻi loa e kūkulu i ka hilinaʻi i ka pilina.
4. E kūpaʻa i kāu ʻōlelo
E hoʻohiki i hiki iā ʻoe ke mālama. Hana ʻole nā ʻōlelo hoʻohiki ʻole a waiwai ʻole i kekahi mea akā e hoʻopau hou i ka hilinaʻi.
He mea nui e mālama i nā hoʻohiki e pili ana i nā mea liʻiliʻi a me nā mea nui. E hana pono i nā mea āu i ʻōlelo ai inā ʻo ka liʻiliʻi e like me ke kiʻi ʻana i kekahi mau mea mai ka hale kūʻai. Hiki i kēia mau hana liʻiliʻi ke hele lōʻihi i ke kōkua ʻana iā ʻoe e hoʻoponopono i ka hilinaʻi.
Kūpono ka hilinaʻi a me ka kumakaia.
ʻOiai e hana ana kekahi i ka pilina ma waena o ʻelua mau kānaka i ʻoi aku ka ikaika, hiki i ka mea ʻē aʻe ke alakaʻi i ko lākou pilina i ka make. ʻO ka makaʻala i nā hopena o ka kumakaia ke kōkua nui ʻia e pale aku iā ʻoe mai ka hana ʻana i nā hana e mihi ai paha ʻoe ma hope.