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- He ʻokoʻa o ka manaʻo a i ʻole ka hoʻouka pilikino ʻana
- ʻO ka haki ʻana i ka pōʻai kolohe, maikaʻi ʻole
- 1. Hoʻonui ka hoʻonui i ka manawa o ka hemo a i ʻole hemo male
- 2. Hāʻalo ia i ka ʻeha o ka naʻau a me ke kīnā ʻole i kāu mau keiki
- 3. ʻAʻohe mea hoʻohua pilikia e hiki mai ana
- 4. Hoʻonohonoho ia iā ʻoe no nā kūkā maikaʻi hou aʻe
- 5. ʻIke mākou iā ia a manaʻo mākou e hele mai ana i kā mākou ala
“ʻO ka hoʻopaʻapaʻa ʻana me ʻoe e like me ka hopu ʻia ʻana. ʻO nā mea āpau aʻu e ʻōlelo ai, hiki a hoʻohana ʻia e kūʻē iaʻu. He mea ʻole kaʻu e ʻōlelo ai a hana ai paha, maikaʻi ʻole ʻoe i nā manawa āpau, a i ʻole kūhewa, a i ʻole hoʻokolokolo, a i ʻole pessimistic. "
Ua noʻonoʻo a noʻonoʻo paha ʻoe e like me kēia? A i ʻole ua hoʻopiʻi paha kāu wahine e pili ana iā ʻoe ma ke ʻano like? Ka manawa o ka ʻoiaʻiʻo: ma ke ʻano he therapist a nā kāne, ma ke ʻano he mea nānā i ka pilina o haʻi, paʻakikī loa kēia ʻano ʻōlelo e nānā pono a hāʻawi i nā pane kūpono.
He ʻokoʻa o ka manaʻo a i ʻole ka hoʻouka pilikino ʻana
A ʻo kēia ke kumu: ʻO ka mea nāna i hoʻouna i ka leka i "maikaʻi ʻole i nā manawa āpau, kūhewa, hoʻokolokolo, a i ʻole pessimistic?"
Ua hōʻike ʻia ka mea loaʻa i ka nui o kēia mau leka i kāna hānai ʻana a ua hoʻomohala lākou i ka ʻike i kekahi mea i ʻike ʻia ma ke ʻano he ʻokoʻa o ka manaʻo a i ʻole nā loiloi kūkulu a ʻike pinepine ia he hōʻeha pilikino?
A i ʻole he mea liʻiliʻi paha ia o nā mea ʻelua? ʻIke wau ua lohe ʻoe ua ʻike mākou i ka ʻano o ka poʻe i maʻa iā mākou, ʻoiai ʻaʻole lākou e alakaʻi iā mākou i nā pilina olakino.
ʻO ka haki ʻana i ka pōʻai kolohe, maikaʻi ʻole
ʻO kahi laʻana, inā ua ulu mākou me nā mākua koʻikoʻi, e ʻimi mākou i nā hoa kūleʻa. Akā a laila e ʻike mākou i kā lākou manaʻo āpau he maikaʻi ʻole a huhū maoli nō i ka wā a lākou e hoʻohewa mai ai iā mākou. Hiki iā ia ke lilo i kaʻino, maikaʻi ʻole ka pōʻaiapuni!
He mea nui ka hoʻomaopopo ʻana i kēia ikaika i kāu pilina. ʻAneʻane hiki ʻole iā ʻoe ke neʻe i mua a maopopo iā ʻolua i kāu lauana o ka launa ʻana. A ʻo ka mea nui loa, hoʻoholo ʻoe e hoʻoholo ʻole i kahi pili hakakā kiʻekiʻe.
Eia nā pilikia 5 o ka ʻae wale ʻana i nā hakakā he nui i kāu pili
1. Hoʻonui ka hoʻonui i ka manawa o ka hemo a i ʻole hemo male
Ua loaʻa i nā noiʻi noiʻi a me nā puke hoʻoponopono he nui i ka hopena like.
Ua hōʻike aku nā kāne male male male a hauʻoli ʻole paha i nā kamaʻilio maikaʻi ʻole a me nā manaʻo maikaʻi ʻole e ana ʻia e ka lakio o kēlā me kēia lā o ka maikaʻi i nā pilina maikaʻi ʻole.
me ka hapanui o nā ʻano kamaʻilio maikaʻi ʻole.
Ke haʻi aku nei kēia i kekahi i ka mea a lākou e hana hewa nei, hoʻopiʻi, hoʻopiʻi
Ua ʻoi aku ka liʻiliʻi o kā lākou mau kamaʻilio kamaʻilio maikaʻi ʻana e like me ka hoʻomaikaʻi ʻana, e haʻi ana kekahi i ka mea a lākou e hana nei i ka pono, ka ʻae ʻana, ka ʻakaʻaka ʻana, me ka hoʻomākeʻaka ʻana, me ka minoʻaka ʻana, a me ka ʻōlelo wale ʻana aku "ʻoluʻolu" a "mahalo."
2. Hāʻalo ia i ka ʻeha o ka naʻau a me ke kīnā ʻole i kāu mau keiki
ʻO ke kamaʻilio kahi paʻakikī noʻonoʻo, ʻano, a me ke kaʻina hana pilikino e hoʻomaka i ka hānau ʻana a hoʻomau i loko o ko mākou wā e ola nei, e loli mau ana me ka hoʻololi ʻana me kēlā me kēia launa pū ʻana e ukali (me ko mākou mau mākua, kumu, kumu aʻo, hoa aloha, hoa kāne, luna hoʻomalu, hoa hana, a me nā mea kūʻai aku).
ʻO ke kamaʻilio keu aku ma mua o ka mākau wale nō; He hana hanauna nui ia i hoʻoili ʻia mai nā kūpuna i nā mākua, i nā keiki, a me nā hanauna e hiki mai ana.
Lawe nā kāne male ʻole i kā lākou ukana multigenerational ponoʻī a ke hui pū lākou, hana lākou i kahi ala ʻokoʻa a me ke kamaʻilio pū kekahi me kekahi. Hoʻokumu pinepine lākou i nā ʻano like, ka hana a me ka hana ʻole, a lākou i ʻike ai e ulu ana.
ʻO ka mea hoihoi ʻaʻole lākou i ʻike i kahi e hele mai ai kā lākou ʻano kamaʻilio; hoʻohewa wale lākou a kau i ka nānā i ka mea ʻē aʻe. ʻAʻole hiki iaʻu ke kōkua, akā e hoʻomāʻewaʻewa a maikaʻi ʻole. "
E ʻike kāu mau keiki i ke ʻano hoʻohālikelike o ke kamaʻilio ʻana, e haʻi hou aku ia mea, ʻaʻole wale me ʻoe (kahi mea hoʻonāukiuki loa) akā i kā lākou mau pilina ponoʻī pū kekahi.
E nānā pū kekahi: He aha ka hakakā hakakā?
3. ʻAʻohe mea hoʻohua pilikia e hiki mai ana
He pōʻaiapuni wale ia, kahe kahe ʻana o ka ikehu, kahi puʻupuʻu hua ʻole o ka pilina crap i mea e ʻino ai ʻolua.
Hoʻohui pinepine ʻia nā kāne hakakā i kahi pōʻaiapuni o nā ʻōlelo hōʻino, kūʻē, a me nā manaʻo o ka hei.
Kūleʻa lākou i kā lākou ʻokoʻa, ma kahi o ka hoʻoliʻiliʻi iā lākou. ʻO ka mea nui loa, ʻike lākou i kēia mau ʻokoʻa he kūpaʻa, kūpaʻa ʻole, a me nā hemahema kūpono ʻole i kā lākou hoa.
He palena palena ʻole ko kēia mau hoa male i ka hoʻoponopono pilikia a hana pū ʻana ma ke ʻano he kime. Hōʻike maʻamau lākou i ka huhū ma mua o ka hōʻike ʻana i nā manaʻo ʻeha (komunicators hakakā). A i ʻole e huki lākou ma mua o ka hōʻike ʻana i ko lākou hoka i kā lākou hoa (passive Communicators).
Alakaʻi pinepine kēia i nā hopena naʻau ikaika e kaapuni pōkole i ka hiki ke ʻike a pane kūpono i ke kumu o ka pilikia. Eia kekahi, ʻo ka hopena i ka pilikia e lilo i kumu o ka paʻakikī i kāna pono ponoʻī e alakaʻi ana i kahi pōʻai kūpilikiʻi o nā paʻakikī paʻakikī pinepine ʻole i ka manawa.
ʻO kekahi o kaʻu mau mea kūʻai aku i huhū loa me kāna wahine, ua nīnau mai iaʻu i kēia nīnau i hoʻokahi manawa: "ʻO wai ka mea ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi, ke hana kāu kāne i kahi mea naʻaupō a ke hana paha ʻo ia e like me ka jerk?" ʻAʻole hiki iaʻu ke ʻōlelo ʻaʻole i hala kēlā nīnau. koʻu noʻonoʻo ma mua, no laila ua mākaukau wau me kaʻu pane ponoʻī. Pane akula wau:
Ke hele a huhū ʻo ia, ʻike wau i loko i kāna leka a me kāna ʻano loko ʻino, a hoʻopuka hou i kāna mau pane maʻamau i koʻu poʻo. A laila hoʻonui wau iā lākou i nā hanana ʻē aʻe a me ka mea aʻe aʻu e ʻike ai, he kiʻi ʻoniʻoni kā wau i loko o koʻu poʻo e pili ana i ka nui o kona inaina iaʻu, a me ka nui o koʻu inaina iā ia. "
4. Hoʻonohonoho ia iā ʻoe no nā kūkā maikaʻi hou aʻe
ʻO ka weliweli nui loa o ka hoʻokumu ʻana i kēia ʻano, i ka hopena, i kēlā me kēia manawa, ʻaʻole mākou e hoʻomanaʻo i ka loiloi a i ʻole nā kikoʻī o kahi hakakā, akā hoʻomanaʻo mākou i nā manaʻo mana o ka ʻeha ʻia e kekahi kanaka ʻē aʻe. E hoʻomau mākou e hōʻiliʻili i kēia mau manaʻo āpau.
I kekahi manawa, lilo kēia mau manaʻo i mau mea i manaʻo ʻia. Manaʻo mākou i kekahi mea e hana ʻeha ai ka mea ʻē aʻe, hoʻonāukiuki, hoʻonāukiuki, naʻaupō, kuleana ʻole, manaʻo ʻole, mālama ʻole, a pēlā aku.
Hiki iā ʻoe ke kiʻi a hoʻopiha i nā hakahaka, akā maikaʻi ʻole ia. I ka manawa aʻe e hana ia, kuhi mākou i ka manaʻo ma mua o ka hana ʻana i nā ʻoiaʻiʻo. Kolo ko mākou ʻili me ke kakali o kēlā manaʻo maikaʻi ʻole.
5. ʻIke mākou iā ia a manaʻo mākou e hele mai ana i kā mākou ala
Hoʻopili mākou ma mua o ka ʻike ʻana inā pololei a hewa paha ka mea ʻē aʻe, no laila ʻaʻohe manawa kūpono o ke kūkā kamaʻilio kūpono ʻana no ka mea ua huhū ʻia mākou ma mua o ka hoʻomaka ʻana o ke kamaʻilio ʻana.
ʻO ka mea aʻe a mākou e ʻike nei, ke hele wāwae nei mākou a hehi wāwae i ka hale e huhū nei kekahi i kekahi me ka ʻike ʻole i ka mea a mākou e huhū nei.
ʻAʻohe mea maikaʻi e pili ana i ka pilina hakakā kiʻekiʻe (malia paha ka moekolohe make-up, akā ʻaʻole kēlā ka mea a ka hapa nui o nā kāne e hōʻike ai). Kuhi ʻia kahi pilina ma ke ʻano he kākoʻo, hōʻoluʻolu, kūkulu kekahi i kekahi, hoʻonā pilikia, a ʻo ka hapanui o nā ulu āpau. pōʻino, pōʻai maikaʻi ʻole
ʻAʻole mahana paha a anuanu i nā manawa āpau, akā ʻo ia ka hapa nui o nā manawa; inā ʻaʻole hiki, ma ka liʻiliʻi koho i ka ʻāina kūlike ʻole. He wahi hoʻomaka maikaʻi kēlā!