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ʻIke paha ʻoe i kekahi nā ala e ʻike ai inā he kāne ka male kāne mai kahi mamao aku? Pehea e pili ana i kou wā kokoke a pilikino?
I kēia lā a me ka makahiki, he mea paʻakikī loa ka noʻonoʻo inā he kanaka āu i hui ai a ʻano hāʻule paʻakikī nei he hoa lōʻihi lōʻihi ia.
Nānā ʻoe i kāna mōʻaukala pili aloha? Inā he lōʻihi kona mau pilina, ʻo ia hoʻi ʻaʻole ia e makaʻu i ka hana? He aha inā makemake ia e ola iki a hoʻāʻo i kahi mea ʻē aʻe no kahi loli? ʻIke paha ʻoe i nā hōʻailona āu me ke kāne āu e male ai?
I ka wā e pili ana i ka pili male ʻana, nui nā kihi inā ʻoe e hoʻāʻo e haku iā lākou āpau, e hāʻawi wale ʻoe iā ʻoe iho i kahi maʻi ʻeha nui a ʻaʻole hele lōʻihi. ʻO ia ke kumu a mākou i hoʻoholo ai e wāwahi iā ia i ʻekolu mau ʻōlelo aʻoaʻo maʻalahi e hana pono ana i ka 99 pakeneka o ka manawa.
Eia nā ʻōlelo aʻoaʻo 3 kiʻekiʻe loa ma pehea e ʻike ai inā ʻo ia ke kāne kūpono no ka male aiʻole pehea e ʻike ai inā he mea male ia.
1. E nānā i kona wā nohona
ʻO ka ʻōlelo aʻoaʻo mua no ka ʻike ʻana pehea e ʻike ai ʻo ia ka mea e male ai ʻo ia e ʻike pehea kona ʻano pilikino.
E ʻōlelo paha kāna ID he 24, 35 a 46 paha ia, akā ʻo ka mea nui ʻoi aku kona mau makahiki kaiaulu, hiki iā ʻoe ke ʻike inā hoʻolōʻihi ʻoe i ka manawa.
Ua maikaʻi kekahi mau kāne a mākaukau e noho i lalo a hana i kā lākou 20 mau makahiki a ʻoiai manaʻo kekahi ʻaʻole pono lākou e wikiwiki i kekahi mea i kā 40.
ʻO nā kāne i lawa ka noʻonoʻo e hana i nā mea āpau e hana ai i kahi pilina pili ka poʻe e hāʻawi i ke kūpaʻa iā lākou iho a me nā poʻe ʻē aʻe.
ʻO kēia kahi e hāmama ai kou mau maka a me kou mau pepeiao no ka mea ʻoi aku ka leo o nā hana ma mua o nā huaʻōlelo. ʻLelo paha ʻo ia iā ʻoe makemake ʻo ia e mare koke a hoʻomaka i kahi ʻohana akā maikaʻi paha kona ola?
Ua mahalo ʻia ʻo ia i waena o kāna mau hoaaloha a i makemake maikaʻi ʻia paha no ka mea he mea lawe pōpilikia a i ʻole ke ola o ka pāʻina.
ʻIke nō, makemake ʻoe i ka mea ma mua no ka mea inā he butterfly kaiaulu ʻo ia e hele i kēlā me kēia hopena pule a inu iā ia iho i ka poina, hilinaʻi ʻaʻole mākaukau, a ʻaʻole paha.
2. kāna mau mea ola
Mai manaʻo i kahi kāne e loli maikaʻi loa. Ua hele mai ʻo ia i kēia wahi a ʻoiai ʻo ka ʻoiaʻiʻo e loli ʻo ia i ka manawa no ka mea e maʻalahi ʻo ia i nā ʻano ola hou i kēlā me kēia ala, ʻaʻole ia e loli i kou ʻaoʻao iā ʻoe.
He hana maikaʻi paha kāna e lawe mai i ka palekana a me ke kūpaʻa? ʻO ia kahi ʻano hana āu e makemake ai e kamaʻilio me kou mau mākua e pili ana i ka ʻaina ahiahi? A i ʻole e hoʻohihi paha i kou kaikuahine he 22 ona makahiki?
ʻO nā kāne i mākaukau e noho i lalo hoʻolilo i ka hapa nui o ko lākou manawa i ke kūkulu ʻana i kahi mea a lākou e haʻaheo ai. ʻAʻole lākou e neʻe pinepine, hoʻololi i nā hana i kēlā me kēia mahina a i ʻole hoʻololi i kā lākou pōʻai o nā hoaaloha.
Aia ka male o kou beau hou inā manaʻo ʻo ia iā ʻoe e palekana i mua o kona alo e like me ʻoe e hilinaʻi ai iā ia inā he aha. Hanaʻo ia iā ʻoe e like me ka hiki iā ʻoe ke kau i kou lima i loko o kāna, a ʻae iā ia e lawe iā ʻoe i nā manawa āpau āna e makemake ai? Inā ʻae ka pane, he kahu kāu.
3. E nānā i kāna mau hoaaloha
ʻO ka hapa nui o nā mea hoʻohālikelike i ka male e haʻi iā ʻoe e nānā i kona pilina me kona makuahine, akā ʻo ka mea ʻoi aku ka mea nui i kēia kiko ka mea e launa pū me ia. ʻO kāna mau hoaaloha ka hapa nui o ka poʻe makemake e pāʻina i ke kakahiaka nui o ka pō?
Ua male lāua me kekahi mau keiki? ʻO ia paha kona mau makahiki a ke ʻike nei paha ʻoe i kahi ʻokoʻa i paʻakikī e wehewehe, e like me ke kau ʻana me kahi ʻōpio ʻōpio?
ʻO kā mākou nohona, nā waiwai, nā manaʻoʻiʻo, a me nā pahuhopu e aniani pinepine ʻia i loko o kā kā mākou mau hoaaloha, ke loaʻa iā mākou kahi pōʻai o loko paʻa.
ʻO ia ke kumu e nānā ʻole ai ʻoe i kāna mau hoa pili i ka hoʻoholo ʻana inā kū paha kāu kaomi hou i manawa e lilo i mea koʻikoʻi. Inā noho lākou i lalo, makemake paha ʻoe e iho i kēlā ala.
Inā he DJ lākou, nā holoholona pāʻina hoʻokahi a i ʻole nā pelikana e pāʻani nei i nā pāʻani wikiō i ka lā holoʻokoʻa a haʻalele i ka hale no ka mea pili i ko lākou ola, like nō paha ia iā ia.