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- ʻO ka ʻenekini "me"
- ʻO Narcissism kekahi huaʻōlelo no ka pololei
- Aloha kaumaha iho
- ʻAʻole hewa āpau
- Hele ʻoe i mua a kamaʻilio, akā ʻaʻole wau e hoʻolohe
- He 100 mau lula nou a me 1 naʻu
"ʻO wau ka honua, aʻo kēia honua wau."
Hoʻomaopopo ka laina iā ʻoe i kekahi kikoʻī, a i ʻole he mau hoaaloha paha me a i ʻole i kahi pilina me kekahi mea maʻamau i ka lawe ʻana iā lākou iho i nā mea āpau? Kekahi, ka mea hiki ʻole ke kāpae i ka ʻoiaʻiʻo 'ʻo lākou' ke kanaka nui a puni a me ka ʻole o lākou, 'ʻaʻole hiki ke ao.
ʻO kēlā kanaka, ka mea a mākou e kapa aku ai, kahi 'narcissist.'
ʻAʻole paha ʻoe e ʻike, ʻo ka narcissist ʻaʻole ia he mea e hiki wale mai ana, he maʻi pilikino ia i kū mai nā kumu i hōʻike ʻole ʻia, ʻokoʻa nā ʻano i ʻike pono ʻia. No laila, ʻo wai ka narcissist, he aha nā ʻano i kū hoʻokahi iā lākou a he aha nā mea e koho weliweli ai lākou ma ke ʻano he mau hoaaloha a me nā hoa?
E kūkākūkā i kēlā ma lalo:
ʻO ka ʻenekini "me"
Ua lohe paha ʻoe i nā kaʻa e hele ana 'choo-choo'? ʻOiaʻiʻo, pono ʻoe e loaʻa.
E like me ka walaʻau hou a nā ʻenekini hoʻomaʻamaʻa e hana ai, he aha ke ʻano o ka narcissists: 'ʻO wau, ʻo wau, ʻo wau!
Hele kēia i loko o kahi loop e hoʻonāukiuki ai i ka pōʻino mai ou aku; ʻaʻole paha ʻoe e lohe pono iā lākou e ʻōlelo maoli nei iaʻu '24/7 akā ʻo ia ka mea a lākou e hoʻomaka nei e hōʻailona i kēlā me kēia kūlana ma hope pono o ko lākou oʻo ʻana.
ʻO nā mea āpau a lākou e hana a i ʻole ʻōlelo ai, a i ʻole manaʻo paha he dash o 'aʻu' i loko. ʻAʻole wale lākou e hoʻonani nei iā lākou iho i kēlā me kēia kūlana kūpono; hoʻāʻo nui lākou e hoʻolaha iā lākou iho he mōʻī.
Pehea lākou e hana ai i kēlā?
Hoʻokauwā lākou iā ʻoe a me nā mea ʻē aʻe a pau e loaʻa paha iā lākou, ʻo ka hana i kā lākou mea kaua a me ka hōʻoluʻolu i kā lākou ego, kahi pahuhopu.
ʻO Narcissism kekahi huaʻōlelo no ka pololei
Loaʻa iā ʻoe kēlā, ʻeā?
ʻO kahi narcissist kekahi mea hiki ʻole ke hoʻomanawanui i ka haʻi ʻia ʻana ua hewa lākou.
ʻO nā mea a lākou e ʻōlelo ai, ʻo ia ka ʻoiaʻiʻo a me ka ʻoiaʻiʻo ʻoi loa. He makehewa loa ke hoʻopaʻapaʻa me lākou a i ʻole manaʻo iki paha hiki iā ʻoe ke hoʻomaopopo iā lākou he hewa lākou i kekahi mea. Makaʻu lākou i ka hōʻino ʻia a hiki ʻole ke empathize me nā poʻe ʻē aʻe.
Holo wale ka ʻenekini ʻo wau me ka haʻi aku iā ʻoe i ko lākou koʻikoʻi a pehea e hiki ʻole ai ke hewa ma kekahi mea.
Aloha kaumaha iho
ʻIke mākou āpau i ka mea nui o ke aloha ponoʻī e mālama ai i ka pono noʻonoʻo o ke kanaka a me ka nui o ka hana, hana ia i ka mālama ʻana i ka hilinaʻi a me ka mālama ʻana i nā ʻīniha negatiza.
Akā, hiki i kekahi manawa ke hana a hiki i kahi e lilo ai i mea weliweli? ʻĀ, ʻae ka pane.
ʻO ka nui o ke aloha ponoʻī e hoʻokuʻikuʻi i kahi kanaka mamao loa mai ka hiki ke aloha a empathize like paha, pale i ke kanaka mai ka hiki ke hoʻokaʻawale i waena o ka pono a me ka hewa a hana i ke kanaka e hoʻohana i nā poʻe ʻē aʻe e hoʻoulu i kā lākou iho iho.
ʻO kahi papa hana no ka luku, a me ka haʻalele ʻana o ka ʻike he pilikia ka mea e alakaʻi ʻia ana mai ka wā ʻaʻole hewa iki kahi narcissist.
ʻAʻole hewa āpau
ʻO nā mea a nā mea narcissist e hana ai, ʻaʻole paha he maikaʻi ʻole.
I mea e aloha ai ka poʻe iā lākou, makemake lākou e hāʻawi i nā mea manawaleʻa e manipulate i nā poʻe ʻē aʻe i ka manaʻo ʻo lākou ka mea momona a puni. ʻO nā mea āpau a me nā mea āpau a lākou e hana ai e hoʻomaikaʻi.
He mea ʻole ko lākou manaʻo, a hiki paha iā lākou ke hele i kahi lōʻihi e hōʻoia ai ʻo lākou ke kanaka aloha a mālama nui hoʻi, i kū ma mua. ʻO kēia mau mea āpau, e lohe wale ai aia lākou ma waho o kēia ao.
Hele ʻoe i mua a kamaʻilio, akā ʻaʻole wau e hoʻolohe
Makemake nā Narcissist e hoʻolohe iā ʻoe, akā no ʻoe e ʻike hope ʻaʻole lākou e hoʻolohe a ma kahi, ke hana nei i nā ʻōlelo i ko lākou poʻo e ʻōlelo i ka hoʻihoʻi.
E hōʻike iā ʻoe, he mea nui lākou. ʻO kā lākou manaʻo ka mea nui āpau, e hoʻolohe iā lākou inā ʻaʻole lākou e hoʻolohe iā ʻoe a mahalo ʻoe iā lākou inā ʻokoʻa ʻoe. Inā ʻokoʻa ʻoe, ʻo ʻoe nō ka hewa, a he kuleana ko lākou e huhū ma hope ma hope.
A inā he kaua ka mea i hoʻomaka, ʻo ʻoe nō ka mea hewa a ʻaʻole ʻo lākou no ka mea e koho ʻoe. ʻAʻole hewa lākou.
He 100 mau lula nou a me 1 naʻu
Pili nā lula āpau i nā mea āpau a koe ka poʻe e noho ana ma ka narcissism.
Manaʻo nā kānaka āpau e hāhai i nā lula he haneli a lākou e hana ai; iā lākou iho, ʻaʻohe pili e pili ana koe hoʻokahi, a ke ukali nei i ka loina 'me'. ʻO nā mea pili iā ʻoe ʻaʻole hana iā lākou, no laila, ʻaʻole hiki iā ʻoe ke nīnau maoli iā lākou a hōʻoia iā lākou e hewa.
ʻAʻole hiki iā ʻoe ke hoʻopaʻapaʻa a hana i kāu kiko i ka pau ʻana o nā mea āpau iā lākou e kipi ana a hoʻolei i kahi kūpono.
ʻO ke ala maʻalahi e hoʻomaopopo i kēlā mau kanaka e nānā i ka manawa a ke kanaka e hana ai e like me ka nīnau ʻana i nā nīnau penei: Pehea ʻoe e ʻaʻa ai i kaʻu e ʻōlelo nei? Pehea ʻoe e ʻaʻa ai, mai hāhai i nā lula aʻu i hoʻonohonoho ai? Pehea ʻoe e ʻaʻa ai, e hōʻole aku ʻo wau ka mea a ka honua e puni ai?
Inā ʻoe e noʻonoʻo e like me kēia nā mea i kou manaʻo ke puni ʻoe i kekahi kanaka, ua hālāwai ʻoe me kahi narcissist.