Anter
- He aha ka mālama kino ʻana o ke keiki?
- Nā pono kipa
- Co-makua
- Nā pono o ka mālama kino ʻana
- Nā mea maikaʻi ʻole o ka mālama kino ʻana
Ma ʻAmelika Hui Pū ʻIa, hoʻokaʻawale hou ʻia ka mālama keiki ma lalo o nā ʻāpana nui ʻelua, ʻo ia hoʻi, ka mālama kino ʻana a me ke kānāwai. ʻO ka mālama kino ke kuleana i hāʻawi ʻia i kahi makua e noho me kā lāua keiki ma hope o ka hemo a kaʻawale paha. ʻO kēia paha he hui a hoʻokahi paha.
He aha ka mālama kino ʻana o ke keiki?
Hiki i ʻelua ʻano mālama
1. He aha ka mālama kino mua?
E like me ka inoa e hōʻike nei, pili hoʻokahi a i ʻole mālama mua ʻia i kahi makua hoʻokahi e lilo i makua mālama.
2. He aha ka mālama mālama?
Ma ka ʻaoʻao ʻē aʻe, ka mālama ʻana a i ʻole ka mālama ʻana i ke kuleana ʻo ia ka mea i loaʻa i nā mākua ʻelua ke kuleana e noho manawa me ke keiki, me nā mākua ʻelua pū kekahi ke kuleana like i ka mālama kino ʻana o kā lāua keiki.
Nā pono kipa
ʻAʻole hiki ke hāʻawi ʻia i kahi makua mālama ʻole i ka mālama keiki ʻana i ke kuleana e noho pū me ke keiki / keiki akā ʻae ʻia nā kuleana kipa. Ma ka "kipa ʻana," hiki ke hāʻawi ʻia i ke keiki i kahi papa kuhikuhi, e laʻa me. i nā hopena pule, e noho me ka makua mālama ʻole. Nui nā kāne male kaulana i hele a i ʻole e hele i ka hemo male i kēia hoʻonohonoho. ʻO kahi hiʻohiʻona maikaʻi a hou loa ʻo Brad Pitt lāua ʻo Angelina Jolie, kahi i hāʻawi wale ʻia ai nā kuleana kipa mākaʻi i kā lāua mau keiki. Hāʻawi ʻia ka mālama kino hoʻokahi i ka makuahine o nā keiki.
Co-makua
Kūpono nā ʻaha i ka hāʻawi ʻana i nā kuleana kipa a me ka noʻonoʻo ākea e pili ana i nā mākua e makemake ana i ke kipa "liberal" a i ʻole ka mahele like makua. Kaulana ka mea hope loa i kēia mau lā, a kapa ʻia ʻo ia he co-makua. Eia nō naʻe, ʻae ʻae ʻia ka co-makua ma waena o ʻelua mau kāne i hoʻokaʻawale ʻia me ka ʻole e hele i nā hihia kū kānāwai a i ʻole nā hihia mālama keiki.
Nui nā kāne male male i haʻalele ʻia i ka makua like a i ʻole ka co-makua. ʻO kekahi o lākou e pili pū ana me Ben Affleck a me Jennifer Garner, Demi Moore a me Bruce Willis, Reese Witherspoon a me Ryan Philippe, Courtney Cox a me David Arquette, Jennifer Lopez a me Marc Anthony, Kourtney Cox a me Scott Disick a me, Rob Kardashian a me Blac Chyna, e inoa kakaikahi. Manaʻo lākou ʻo ka hana ʻana i kēia i ke keiki / keiki makemake loa.
Kuhi pinepine ʻo Custody i kahi e noho ai ke keiki a me ka lōʻihi o ka manawa. Kuhi ʻia hoʻi ka mea kuleana a kuleana e hoʻoholo ai no ke keiki i nā mea e like me ke olakino a me nā hana o kēlā me kēia lā.
ʻO ka mālama paʻa ʻana, ʻoiai i kapa ʻia he mālama like, ʻaʻole ia he manaʻo no ka manawa like o nā mākua me ka noho ʻana o ke keiki. Ma kahi o, hiki i nā mākua ke hōʻike i nā alakaʻi kikoʻī a hōʻike i ka manawa e noho ai ke keiki me kēlā me kēia mākua. Eia nō naʻe, kaʻana like nā kumukūʻai e pili ana i ka hānai ʻana i ke keiki e like me ka hiki o kēlā me kēia.
I kēia manawa, ua neʻe nā ʻaha i ka hāʻawi pinepine ʻana i ka mālama kūloko me ka manaʻo o ke keiki. ʻO kēia no ka mea he nui nā mea maikaʻi e pili ana i kēia hoʻonohonoho.
Nā pono o ka mālama kino ʻana
- E hoʻohuli kēlā me kēia mākua i kā lākou keiki i ka wā e ulu ana;
- E hoʻokumu ʻia ka pilina me nā mākua ʻelua;
- ʻAʻole e manaʻo ʻoi aku ka haʻahaʻa o hoʻokahi makua ma mua o kekahi;
- Māhele ʻia nā lilo, no laila e ʻoluʻolu i kēlā me kēia mākua me ke kālā.
- ʻAʻole pono ke keiki e ʻaoʻao inā kū nā mākua ʻelua i kona ola;
Eia nō naʻe, e like me ka loaʻa o nā pōmaikaʻi, aia pū kekahi paha nā mea maikaʻi ʻole.
Nā mea maikaʻi ʻole o ka mālama kino ʻana
- Noho i nā hale ʻelua, pono paha i ke keiki i kahi manawa adaption ma mua o ka ʻoluʻolu me kēia kūlana.
- I nā hihia kahi kaʻawale kahi mau home ʻelua, paʻakikī paha ke keiki i ke kino e hele mai kahi hale a kekahi. Hoʻohana ʻia ka manawa i ka huakaʻi ʻana i hope a i ʻole no nā hana pono ʻē aʻe;
- Hiki i nā kūkaʻi mālama ke hopena i kahi hanana disruptive a me ke koʻikoʻi no ke keiki;
- No kahi keiki me nā mākua e hakakā ana, e hoʻonui ʻia ia ʻano hakakā ke hele i loko o nā kūkaʻi mālama, a pēlā e hoʻopilikia loa ai i ke keiki.
ʻO ke kūlana kūpono loa nā mākua e ʻike i ka maikaʻi no kā lākou keiki ma hope o ke kaupaona ʻana i nā pono o ka mālama kino a me ka mālama kino mua. I ka hele ʻana i loko o nā hana mālama keiki no laila, pono lākou e hoʻomanaʻo i ka pono o kā lākou keiki ma mua o nā mea ʻē aʻe.