Anter
ʻIke mākou āpau i nā hana: ʻo ia nā mea e pono ai e hana i mea e kōkua ai i ko mākou ola e holo maʻalahi. A i ʻole ʻo ia mau mea a ko mākou mau makuahine i haʻi mai ai iā mākou e hana a i kekahi mau manawa, ua hoʻokō mākou. Ua haʻi ʻia ka hapa nui o mākou i ka wā e ulu ana i kēlā moekolohe kahi mea e waiho ai a hiki i ka male ʻana, me ka manaʻo e ʻōlelo mākou i kekahi manawa "hana wau" ʻo ia ka nui o ka moekolohe e like me ka hiki iā mākou ke koena o ko mākou ola. ʻO kēia paha ka hihia i loko o kekahi mau male, ʻoiaʻiʻo ʻaʻole naʻe nā mea āpau, a i kekahi mau hanana kikoʻī, hiki i ka moekolohe ke manaʻo e like me kahi hana i hoʻokahi a i ʻole nā mea ʻelua.
Kūlana 1
Ke ʻoi aku ka kiʻekiʻe o ka hoʻokau wahine o kekahi hoa ma mua o ka mea ʻē aʻe, hiki i ka moekolohe ke manaʻo e like me kahi hana i ka hoa me ka libido haʻahaʻa. I kēia manawa, hiki i ka moekolohe ke manaʻo he hakakā ikaika i kēlā manaʻo ka hoa me ka hoʻokele haʻahaʻa e moekolohe i mea e mālama ai i kāna hoa a hoihoi a hoʻoikaika i ka male. ʻO ka hoa me ke kalaiwa kiʻekiʻe paha e manaʻo paha ʻo ia e koi aku nei i kā lākou wahine e hana i kahi mea makemake ʻole a hoʻāʻo paha e hoʻonā i ka pilikia me ka hoʻomāʻona ʻana i ko lākou pono no ka moekolohe ma nā wahi ʻē aʻe (me nā hoa ʻē aʻe, ma o nā kiʻi ʻoniʻoni, a pēlā aku. ʻO ka mālama ʻana i ka libido ʻokoʻa ka mea maʻamau i kekahi manawa i ka hapanui o ka male ma ke ʻano he pae hormonone a me ka makemake e loli i ka manawa. ʻO ka ʻike ʻana i nā ala ʻē aʻe o ka loaʻa ʻana o ka pilina ʻaʻole i kau nui ʻia i ka moekolohe hiki ke lilo i kōkua nui.
Kūlana 2
Ke hoʻohālikelike ʻelua i ka wahine me ka hale o ka ʻohana, nalowale ka mystique a me ka spontaneity o ka hana. Heʻoiaʻiʻo kēia inā e moekolohe kekahi mau kāne i kēlā me kēia lā i mea e hāpai ai, ke mālama nei i nā pilikia momona, a i ʻole ke hoʻāʻo hou nei e hāpai hou ma hope o ka lilo ʻana o ka hāpai. He mau pilikia kā kēlā me kēia o kēia mau hiʻohiʻona, akā kaʻana like lākou i ke kumumanaʻo i ʻike ʻia ka moekolohe ma ke ʻano he hana ma mua o kahi mea leʻaleʻa a i ʻole kahi hana pili aloha. I kēlā kūlana, hiki i ka paʻakikī ke lilo i hoʻokahi hoa "i loko o ia" a i ʻole he manaʻo paha kahi hoa e like me nā mea e pili ana i ka hana.
Aia ka ʻoiaʻiʻo i kēia mau hopohopo: inā he kuleana nui ka wahine, paʻakikī e pīhoihoi e pili ana iā ia a aia kekahi mau manaʻo kikoʻī e pili ana i ka ejaculation. Ke hoʻāʻo nei e kuhi ʻaʻole i loaʻa kēia mau ʻano hiki ke hoʻomau iā lākou, no laila he mea nui i nā hoa e kamaʻilio e pili ana i ko lākou ʻano e pili ana i kēia ʻano ʻano naʻau i ka moekolohe. Ke hana nei i kahi lapaʻau momona, hiki i ke kauka ke hana kapu i ka moekolohe ʻana ma muli o ka hopena o ke kaʻina hana a hana i kahi hāpai o nā lehulehu. I ke ʻano o ka nalowale ʻana o ka hāpai ʻana, hiki ke hoʻopaʻa paʻa i ka wahine i ka manaʻo o ka hāpai keiki, a laila hōʻike hou i ka makaʻu i kahi nalowale ʻē aʻe. Hiki ke hoʻohālikelike i kēia ʻano o ka noʻonoʻo ʻana i ka moekolohe.
Loaʻa ka moekolohe (a i ʻole ʻole) ma lalo o nā kūlana a kekahi — e like me ke kauka– (a i ʻole kekahi mea - e like me ka hoʻohālikelike ʻana) ʻē aʻe e kuhikuhi nei he mea ʻole ka leʻaleʻa. Hiki i kekahi mau kāne ke lawe i ka hoʻomākeʻaka i ke kiʻi i hiki ke kōkua. Hiki i nā poʻe ʻē aʻe ke kāpae i ka moekolohe penetrative no nā ʻano ʻē aʻe o ka moekolohe a i ʻole nā pili pili. Ma mua o nā mea āpau, kī ke kamaʻilio mau.